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Should you ever spend a night with your ex?

To most people a one night stand is like a trophy. Being able to sleep with someone for just one night and then separate without any attachment whatsoever is a tricky task.

You get to indulge in the finer things in life without having to deal with the complicated process of forming a relationship. But where do you draw the line when it comes to one night stands?

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Of all the people you could have a one night stand with, an ex is one of the most complicated. In the heat of the moment you may find yourself about to hook up with someone you thought you were never going to be with again.

If all goes well, it can be quite the treat. There is always the possibility however, that it will not. To avoid unnecessary drama in your life, there are a few things you should consider before hooking up with an ex, even for “old times’ sake”.

Is Anything Clouding Your Judgement?

This is the first thing you should always ask yourself if you are considering this situation. Hooking up with your ex can lead to a landslide of regret the following morning if you realize it’s not something you really wanted to do.

If you are under the influence of any drugs or alcohol your decision making skills take a back seat and impulse and desire take over the wheel. Many impaired people let their clouded judgement take control and forget to think over consequences.

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If you know there is a possibility of hooking up with your ex, make sure you have considered it with a completely sober mindset first.

Consider Why You Broke Up To Begin With

It is hard to define whether or not you should have a one night stand with your ex since it is so circumstantial. Certain people have no problem doing it and with others it leads to turmoil.
Analyze the way your relationship was and think about why it ended. Which one of you wanted to end it? Did you split up on good terms?

If you were the one that wanted to break it off, you should find out whether or not your ex still has feelings for you. They could be expecting something much different to come from the one night stand.

You don’t want to hook up with them if it means you will end up breaking their heart all over again. To solve this issue, make it clear that it is only a one night deal. If you are both mature about it with control of your feelings, it could be fine.

Think About What You Are Looking For

The last thing to do before you hook up with an ex is to find out why you are doing it. Analyze the motives behind your actions before making the big decision.

Do you want to do it purely for the sex? If this is the case than why did you choose your ex? There are plenty of other new experiences laying ahead of you that you could be exploring.

If you are doing it purely for the comfort of being with someone you know, make sure you keep it strictly physical with minimal emotions.

But perhaps you are doing it for another reason. Is the one night stand motivated by a desire to be with them? If so, then why pick a one night stand? If the desire is strong enough, talk to your ex about your feelings and find out where they stand to see if your feelings match up.

Just be aware, if they are looking for sex and you are looking for a relationship, you could end up getting hurt. With all this in mind, deciding whether or not to hook up with your ex will be a lot easier. Before you make a final decision, prepare yourself for the fact that one night stands can toy with emotions before making your decision. Analyze the motives of you and your partner and just to be safe, make a set of rules that define the night as a one time thing.

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Spice Up Your Relationship With Role Playing

So now its monday and the weeks are rushing by so fast so its soon friday again;) Todays article Spice Up Your Relationship With Role Playing is about putting some excitement back into your relationship. Infact im to shy to comment the article;) so for those of you who are brave, read on;))

I wish you all a wonderful relationship! You are worth it!

Dick Scott

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There’s no getting around the fact that after a couple has been together for a long time the sex can become routine and even boring. It doesn’t matter how much you love each other, either. At first, everything is new and exciting, but after a few years of being only with each other, the excitement can start dying down. For some couples, it happens more quickly than for others, but it’s going to happen at some point.

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Lots of couples do things such as going on second honeymoons. This allows them to have some quality time together without kids or pets around. They can use this time together to reconnect and remember how it felt in the beginning. Second honeymoons are a great idea except for a couple of things. One is that they cost money whether you’re jetting off to Hawaii or just heading around the corner to the local Days Inn for the weekend. Not everyone has the money or the time to do this. The other problem is that the bloom once again fades from the rose within a very short time of returning to “real life.” That’s why the couples that can manage it plan at least one trip away together each year.
There’s another way to spice things up sexually without having to spend a lot of money or even leave your own home. In addition, it’s something that you can do any time you want. It’s called role playing. You’ve probably heard the term before in some context but may not completely understand how it can factor into saving your relationship.

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It’s actually quite simple. Everyone has fantasies when it comes to sex. These are the mind games that really turn a person on and may even be played out mentally when engaging in sex. What you’re doing with role playing is bringing these fantasies out in the open; at least between the two of you. The beginning of this is going to require some honest and open talking between you and your partner because that’s the only way to find out the fantasies each of you has.
Now, the next part is actually lots of fun. You can either surprise your partner or the two of you can plan something together, or mix it up a little. Either way, you’ll be role playing the fantasy that one of you has. Be specific when talking out your fantasies so that you’ll both know what elements are considered vital for it to work.

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Keep in mind that this isn’t something you must do every night of the week or even every time you have sex, unless the two of you want that. If your lives are really busy, pencil in that one night a week that belongs only to you, your partner and your fantasies. Be creative when arranging these special nights. Once you get started with it, you’ll find that the spark will leap right back into the physical part of your relationship. Each time will be like the first time all over again.

Congratulations for reading through it all; i hope it will help you spice up your –xlife and take your relationship to the next level. For those of you who still seek a partner there will be more articles about dating to come. And remember whatever we want and dream of can become true if  we are focused and never give up!;) 

Light&Love 

Dick Scott 

Ps. I have actually made a CD called Dreamland;)