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4 Signs She’s Getting Bored with the Relationship

Building a great relationship can be one of the greatest and most exciting things you will ever do.

Many people work for years to solidify a solid bond between each other. But what if that bond starts to fall apart? Even the most tightly held together relationships can eventually come unglued.

Sometimes people lose touch with what united them in the first place and simply coast through the relationship with a lack of interest or commitment. In order to avoid disaster, it is essential for you to know the definitive signs that your significant other is getting bored with your relationship.

1. She Tells You…But Not With Words

There are many people that are completely dumbfounded when they find out their companion has lost interest. They may find themselves asking their partner “Why didn’t you say anything?”

What they don’t realize is that their companion had given them countless non-verbal signs of their degrading interests.
There are a ton of different ways someone can non-verbally communicate their disinterest.

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One common signal is the rejection of public affection, which indicates that they don’t want to be associated with you. Other indicators include an absence of eye contact, sighs, slamming doors, and being aloof when together.

2. The Way She Acts Now Is Not the Way She Acted in the Past

Every great relationship has its high points. Think about the greatest times of your relationship and the way you would interact. Try to get a solid idea of how conversations used to be and compare them to your current interactions. Take note of any differences and try to find out why things changed.

For example: A couple used to always call each other at the end of the night to talk about their day. They would effortlessly converse with each other about random things simply to hear the other one’s voice.

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Now when they call each other the conversations are much shorter and less engaging. This could possibly be because one member of the relationship no longer has a desire to be close with the other one.

3. Does She Make You Feel Special?

People tend to feel closer to others that go out of their way to make them feel important. Most successful relationships are founded on a mutual effort to show how much they mean to one another.

Once a partner begins to lose interest however, these efforts become much less obvious or simply non existent.

For example: A girlfriend knows how stressed out her boyfriend is at the end of the work week. She would always dedicate an hour of her time to giving her boyfriend a massage and helping him unwind.

As she began to lose interest in the relationship, the sessions would become shorter and shorter until eventually they simply stopped all together.

4. Evaluate Intimacy

This is by far one of the most important ways to tell if your partner is losing interest in you. A strong intimate bond plays a huge role in keeping a relationship fresh. It shows that you have a mutual attraction for each other and motivates a stronger connection. Pay close attention to any changes that may happen in your intimate life.

Are you touching less often? Is there more physical distance between you? Can you still see the spark of desire in your partner’s actions? These are all important questions you should ask yourself if you feel your partner may be losing interest in you.

If you feel your relationship is changing but can’t quite figure out why, you should make an immediate effort to asses your partner’s interests. You don’t have to lose all hope in your relationship.

If you are able to pick up on these signs early enough there is a good chance you can acknowledge the lack of interest, find out why it is happening, and come up with a solution to spice things up again.

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Will Valentine’s Day Ruin Your Marriage?

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I want to wish you a happy and loving Valentines Day with todays article. Make this day a day to remember for yourself and your loved ones. A day to honour the love inside us by showing eachother how much we care.

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Ah, February! Our minds start turning to thoughts of Valentine’s Day.In the middle of winter, romance is suddenly in vogue. The stores are filled with cards, candy, jewelry, and any number of other products touting the opportunity to show your love how you feel.

Are we being set up? Have we bought into the idea of romance so much that we are literally destroying our relationships with expectations? I think we are. In fact, I think we have made a false idol of romance at the expense of true love. We have confused infatuation and erotic love with deep, abiding love that leads to successful marriages.

Let me be clear. I have nothing against romance and romantic gestures. But we have made this the lead, not the result of love. We want to be awash in loving feelings and attraction for our partner. Then we expect those feelings to be the cement, the glue that keeps us together. Hogwash!

I just checked my email. In the last month, I have received 104 pleas for help from people hearing this statement from their spouse, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” The translation is this: “I have a feeling of care for you, but I don’t feel erotic emotions toward you.” The problem is that this statement is a lie on the front end (“I love you”) and a misunderstanding on the back end (“but I’m not in love with you”).

The lie, I’ll get to in a moment. The misunderstanding is this: being “in love” with someone is based on the nurturing of a relationship. It is not some emotion that is at the whims of Cupid shooting an arrow. Too often I hear, “I can’t help how I feel.” True, but people can choose how they act. And that is really the crux of the matter.

Love has been confused in our culture. The ancient Greeks were much more clear. They used three words to talk about love: Eros, Phileo, and Agape. Eros was about attraction (erotic love). Phileo was about friendship. And Agape was about commitment. Our society has segregated these three areas. Interestingly, we all want commitment and acceptance from our lover/spouse (Agape love), but too often want to feel attraction (Eros love) toward our spouse.

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In other words, we want that attractive, successful, romantic, loving person to accept us, mistakes, shortcomings, failures, and all. We want what we have a hard time offering.

So what is the lie? Love is a commitment. It is an action verb, based on being loving and doing loving actions toward the other person. It is based on making a choice to love the other. Not for a moment, but for a lifetime.

Brain scans show that people who are “in love” (caught up in the infatuation) have very similar patterns to those who are mentally ill. So being “madly in love” is not just a figure of speech. It is a physical reality.

The problem is that this is unsustainable. The love of infatuation has to temper into a choice to being loving toward another person. I love someone because I choose to act lovingly, not because of the constance of a feeling. That moves the whole possibility from being at the whims of Cupid to having a conscious choice over how I participate in a relationship.

Let me be clear here: I am not opposed to visits of Eros. In fact, I think this is a feeling that is important and necessary in a long-term marriage. But I believe the emotion emerges from acting in loving ways. In other words, when I make romance primary, I am lost when it is gone. When I make love a verb, and action I can choose, the romantic feelings will naturally emerge.

Valentine’s Day is a threat to your relationship when you make the romantic feelings the goal. To paraphrase a commercial: card, $3.50; candy, $20.00; flowers, $50.00. Acting lovingly toward your spouse: Priceless (and free!). When Valentine’s Day rolls around, make it an opportunity to show your love, not a day to judge your erotic feelings.

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He wants you back – How to rebuild the relationship

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Today the article He wants you back is about How to rebuild the relationship. First of all it is important to be patient and rebuild your trust piece by piece. If you have to high hopes and may think that everything is going to be fine within a short amount of time then a minor issue could lead your relationship in the wrong direction again. There is no doubt that you will make it if both of you are clear on not to let the past have control over your relationship anymore. Be honest both to yourself and your partner about making a new start with an open mind and a open heart.

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Going through a breakup can be an emotional battle. Life changes so quickly and dramatically that some people feel they could never be as happy as they once were. Not all breakups have to happen though.

Many people who have felt strongly enough for someone to give them another chance have successfully built back their relationship. With a newfound lack of trust you may find yourself skeptical of things getting any better. These guidelines to rebuilding relationships can help lead you down the right path.

The first thing every couple should consider when they get together is trust. I know, you have probably heard that a million times. People still manage to overlook the seriousness of this obviously necessary aspect. If you cannot build back a strong level of trust, you may never find yourself comfortable in the relationship. At the end of every day, you should be reflecting how strong your trust bond is.

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Now that you have trust on your mind its time to start working out your patience muscle. You may have to push it further than it’s ever been but it will be completely worth it if you end up re-building a great relationship.

The road to recovery is going to be difficult and take a great while. Try to focus on minor improvements and see them as you moving closer to your goal.

You will also have to be patient with your partner. People don’t change completely overnight. If you had conflicting interests, then you will have to give each other an adequate period of time to adapt the right attitude.

Take your focus off of the person and put it on to the problem. Image yourself teaming up with your partner to achieve the ultimate goal: forming a lasting relationship.

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One common issue that couples face when trying to mend their relationship is the return of old problems. Sometimes old arguments seem like they will never die.

Just when you thought you were over something it ends up firing right back up. To avoid this classic pitfall you need to be ready to find new ways of dealing with the issue.

Think about it, if you have had the same argument over five times, the way you are currently handling just won’t work. Stay open to options that you haven’t previously considered. You might have to do things you aren’t completely comfortable with at times but you will see yourself growing closer as a couple.

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You better be ready to open up as well, because honesty is the mortar that holds all this stuff together. It plays a pivotal role in gaining trust. Building up patience also takes a lot of trust as well.

Having faith in your partner and yourself to make serious changes without falling apart is crucial. A heavy percentage of breakups happen because there wasn’t enough honesty to begin with.

Most importantly, be honest with yourself. Do you really want to give the relationship a shot? Are you both putting in the same amount of effort? Do you hide your issues until they overload into a huge fight?

You would be surprised to find out how easy it is to lie to yourself, since the brain tends to believe anything that makes it feel better. With an open mind, and open heart, and an optimistic attitude there is no reason you and your partner can’t fix what used to be broken.

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Intimacy Challenge – Are You Too Tired to Tango?

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I often wonder how it has become this way in our society as described in todays article Intimacy Challenge – Are You Too Tired to Tango?. It seems like the more technology we are surrounded with that should save time for us the less time we have?! Media is also taking a lot of our attention from our “real” life nearby. It seems like the rat race is the only way to go and the right way to live but i think many people are looking for something else in life then a fancy car and a lot of money. Money that cant buy love, hapiness and friends. Todays introduction may seems like  philosophy but i do think we are many who think of such issues; how to have more time for our family and beloved ones.

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It’s become such a huge problem across the nation that it’s been addressed on the Dr. Oz show and in countless marriage counseling sessions in between. American couples are exhausted to the point they don’t even have time to enjoy intimate relations between man and wife. And it’s destroying romance in America — not to mention taking a huge toll on marriages. If your marriage is suffering from a drought of human contact, the good news is that it isn’t beyond hope. There are small moves you can start making today that will help you turn your marriage around and find the energy to put on your dancing shoes.

Create a Sleep Schedule in Your Home

Everyone needs a sleep schedule. The key is to be consistent with the sleep schedule – even on the weekend when many people attempt to make up for the sleep deprivation they’ve suffered during the week. Getting everyone — husband, wife, children, and pets on a similar schedule can eliminate the groggy run down feeling that overwhelms just before calling it a night in the evening. It can also help you keep better track of how much sleep you’re actually getting.

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Reprioritize and Learn to Delegate

This is especially difficult for women who like to feel they can do it all. The truth of the matter is that it’s not all getting done. Things are falling through the cracks and you really don’t want your marriage to be that thing that is falling. Ask for help and learn to accept help as it comes. It’s not going to be perfect when someone else does it – but that’s OK. The other thing to remember is that you need to watch your priorities. If everything and everyone else is coming before your happy home life then something’s gotta go. It’s not fair to you, your husband, or your marriage to keep things going as they are.

Schedule Weekly Intimate Moments

It may feel a little strained at first – even a little awkward. But, the odds are good that won’t last long. In fact, many couples find that after a couple of weeks of “penciling it in” the spontaneity begins to retune – and the fun. More importantly, the simple process of physical intimacy returns life to your marriage.

Yes, there is a drought going on in homes across America. Your home does not have to be one of the unhappy homes it’s happening in if you follow these great tips.

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Marriage: Learning To Love

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Todays article Marriage:  Learning To Love  is essential to any relationship based on love. I think about the words from the bible: Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you. Thats particularly true when it comes to love, it is so easy to expect a lot of things but the best way is to give. When you love somebody you will feel a will to give and do the best for that person so it kind of come naturally. The problem starts when we tend to focus to much on our selves and what we want. Every day and in every way there are things to learn and grow from so i hope this article will be your lesson for today;)

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My daughter was recently in her school’s performance of Fiddler On TheRoof. She was one of the daughters. If you don’t know the story, it focuses on the changing culture of marriage, from one where the marriage is arrainged by family and community to one based on mutual attraction.

In one of the songs, the main character asks his wife if she loves him. She replies that for 25 years, she has shared his bed, made his meals, tended his house, raised his children — so what kind of question is that? The point is that in their relationship, love wasn’t even a question or consideration. But after some back-and-forth, they decide that, indeed, they love each other.

This led me to think about what I know about marriage. And here is what I think about the question of love and marriage: we fall in love to get together, then spend the rest of our lives learning to love the other.

You see, the initial attraction is really about “I.” “I” feel a certain way, so I know I am “in love.” But that part of the relationship is driven by my need to feel that way, my need to be with the other person, my need to have my needs met. My needs are fueled by my desire to feel the intense emotion of “being in love.”

But in reality, love is a verb, something I do for the other. So, it takes the rest of my life to learn how to attend to my spouse’s needs. From my desire to be with my spouse comes my desire to meet my spouse’s love needs.

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We are “fooled” into commitment by the overwhelming feeling of attraction, and then we have to put forth effort to create a sustained relationship. I say “fooled” because our culture has us believing that this love is the foundation of a relationship. It is not. It is merely a temporary starting point. It is not the destination. It is just a part of the journey to a lifetime relationship.

Those intense feelings will calm over time. The overwhelming need to be with someone that marks the infatuation portion of a relationship is not sustainable on its own. It’s like placing a flame in a bottle. Eventually, the flame will burn all the oxygen in the bottle and be extinguished.

So, there has to be some “fueling of the fire.” This is “love,” the verb. When I act in loving ways, I fuel the fire and keep it burning. If I stop tending to the other’s needs because I don’t feel that infatuation, the relationship will slowly (or not so slowly) die away.

When we continue to believe that “love” (infatuation) is the heart of a relationship, when that feeling is gone, we believe we are no longer in love. That is not the case; we have just failed to fuel the fire.

Reality TV has proven that any two people, given the right circumstances and settings, can fall into love (chemistry of infatuation). But story after story shows that it is harder to make the switch to “true love” that comes from action. Choose action, and don’t be fooled by chemistry.

By acting on love, by making love a verb and not an emotion, we keep the emotional fire stoked. And that is the great irony: if we depend on the feeling of being in love to keep us together, it will fail. But if we set that aside and focus on being loving, the feeling of being in love is sustained. Mature love is a verb, not an emotion.

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Are You In Love Or Obsessed

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Good Day to you this wednesday in the middle of the Christmas holiday! Todays article Are You In Love Or Obsessed is interesting! Its a thin line between love and obsession, my opinion is that when you got no respons from the one your in love with and the time goes on but you dont give up on it. It could also be an obsession with getting your ex back but with no response. Of course you should not give up easy if your in love but as time goes by you should get something back that show the love is mutual. Lets read and perhaps get some better understanding of this subject.

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It should be obvious that there are basic differences between being in love or just obsessed. Sadly, that’s not always the case. Many people find themselves in relationships that they feel are loving when, in reality, it’s an unhealthy obsession. Even when these people are faced with the facts, they often refuse to admit that they’re more obsessed than in love. In fact, you may be one of those women who is obsessed than in love. So if you haven’t gone completely round the bend, following are some signs that you may be obsessed rather than in love:

You flake on responsibilities because of a chance that you’ll have of running into the object of your obsession. This includes missing work, school or other important appointments because he said he MIGHT call you, or there’s the off chance that if you stay in a certain location long enough, he’ll come in. If you’re blowing off commitments just on the chance that you’ll run into this guy, you should consider yourself to be in serious trouble. When you miss commitments just because of your obsession, you’re only going to be sorry later in life when you don’t even remember this guy’s name.

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You miss out on things that you love doing just so that you can be available in case the guy you’re obsessed with decides he has time to call you or wants to see you. What you’re actually doing is putting your life on hold for another person. Now, this may be fine if you’re in a serious relationship or are married, but when this person has done nothing to show you that you mean much to him, it makes no sense for you to rearrange your life for him. You’re only missing out on a lot of fun by doing so.

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Your friendships are taking a back seat to your obsession. When you’re obsessed with a guy you’re dating or one that you WANT to date, you’ll tend to ignore your friends in favor of being available for this guy even when he hasn’t called or made plans with you. Eventually, you’ll start driving your friends away from you because they understand that you don’t care much about them now.

If you notice any of these signs within yourself, please take note how far you’ve fallen down the Rabbit Hole. None of these things are even remotely normal. You’re not meant to stop living your life just in CASE some guy decides to give you a call or suddenly shows up to take you to dinner. If it’s necessary for you to always be available on the off chance that he’ll call or come by, then it’s imperative that you get some help in overcoming your obsession. This is something that could ruin your entire life if you allow it. That’s why you need to do everything possible to move past this obsession and involve yourself in a healthy relationship with someone that wants to be with you.

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How To Get Lover Back: Handling Holiday Breakups

Greetings to all of you! Todays article Handling Holiday Breakups really makes my heart bleed for the poor man or women who need to go through a breakup at this time. There are several reasons for a breakup but it seems hasty to rush into it when its christmas. If you are in that situation please read the article that may give you some help and strenght to hold on to.

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While the majority of relationship endings are pretty miserable, those that happen during the holidays can be some of the worst imaginable. This is especially true for the partners that didn’t want the breakup. In fact, they usually never see it coming so it hits them like a wall when it happens. The timing on these breakups can also seem vindictive because you would think that waiting a few days isn’t that big of a deal.

When a holiday breakup happens, you may feel that there’s no way you can have a “normal” holiday. Obviously, you’re going to be unhappy and hurt. Everywhere you look may remind you of something to do with your ex and how happy you used to be. Yes, it can be very hard to enjoy the holidays when you’ve been dumped by someone with the worst timing in the world. However, there ARE ways to make it through the holiday season and come out on the other side somewhat unscathed.

First of all, consider the reason for the breakup. If it was just one of those silly fights that couples have caused by the stress that comes with the happy season, things will most likely be all patched up and fine by Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. Yes, you’ll have a few moments in there where you’ll be unhappy and feel like you want to just die, or you want HIM to die, but once both of you realize what was really going on, things will work themselves out. On top of that, you’ll get to have some very amazing make up sex, which can only make the holidays even better.

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Now, on the other hand, if he cheated on you or has met someone else he’s serious about, or for whatever reason, he’s just not in love with you anymore, those are going to be difficult situations to deal with ANY time of the year, let alone holidays. This is when you need a great support system around you. These can be your closest friends as well as family members that really care about you. Lean on them and accept whatever comfort they’re offering. Just remember that it’s the holiday season for them, too, and they probably kind of wanted to enjoy this time.

Don’t hide up in your room or your home and refuse human contact. This is when you need it the most. It’s perfectly fine to grieve, but your goal is going to be getting through a few days before completely breaking down. There will be eleven months and three weeks to do that the rest of the year, if you really want to spend that much time mourning someone that apparently didn’t care all that much anyway. Do what you need to do to crawl through those holidays. Keep in mind not to do something totally stupid, though, like indulging in a series of ill-advised one night stands. Stranger sex isn’t going to heal you or even put a bandaid on your pain.

One more thing to consider is that you may have hooked up with one of those guys that simply breaks up around holidays, or special days, so that he doesn’t have to buy gifts. If that’s your ex, he’ll be back right after New Year’s. Just expect him to pick a fight again right before Valentine’s Day. You may need some tips from the #1 Make up instead of Break Up guide below.

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