Are You Making These Disastrous Date Night Mistakes?

Date night can be a highly effective tool for putting a little love back into your relationship. Whether you’re going through a bit of a seven-year-itch or on the verge of calling it quits, making the right date night choices can be a huge win for your marriage. Unfortunately, making date night mistakes of monumental proportions, such as those listed below, can spell disaster for your efforts to save your relationship.

Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems

Date night is all about getting away from the mundane issues troubling the two of you. It’s time to turn your focus on each other. Leave the kids, parents, in-laws, and outlaws at home where they belong. You want this to be a genuine “feel good” opportunity. Don’t squander it by bringing bad vibes into the evening.

Bringing Work Along on Your Date

Whether it is in thoughts or in deeds, bringing work on your date night date not only kills the mood, but also breeds resentment. In many marriages, constant work is a problem. Your spouse feels slighted because you always seem to put work before family. When you bring work on your date night that resentment becomes a deep and simmering rage. It’s just another nail in the coffin of your relationship in many ways and one that can be easily avoided one night a week.

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Cancelling Date Night or Rearranging it at the Last Minute

Cancelling date nights is a huge no-no. It’s the last thing you want to do without a darned good (I mean someone has died or is about to die kind of) reason. Whenever you cancel date night, you’re essentially putting whatever reason it was before your marriage. Stuff happens. Sitters quit or cancel and you’re left scrambling to find a suitable alternative. It’s better to do a little additional scrambling than to deal with the romantic and relationship fallout of a cancellation.

The same holds true with rearranging plans at the last minute. Once the sitter is lined up and dinner plans are set for the evening, last-minute rearrangements really upset the apple cart doing more harm for the date night cause than good. The bottom line is that if you aren’t going to take date night seriously, it’s better nto to plan to have it at all.

Falling into a Date Night Rut

Whatever you do, don’t do the same thing week after week. It becomes monotonous and routine. This is your opportunity to add a little fun and excitement to your relationship. Don’t risk it by going to dinner and a movie week after week. Switch it up some and see what a difference it makes not only in your excitement about having a date night but also in your partner’s response to date night. Make a date night “bucket list” of things you’d like to do on date night together and have fun granting each other’s date night wishes.

Date night can be as exciting or as humdrum as you allow it to be. Make a compact with yourself and one another not to let your date night become a run of the mill experience that’s easily taken for granted. Do this and your marriage is sure to be one in which you do not take each other for granted either.

How Do I Know He Loves Me?

From childhood games with folded paper fortune tellers to Whitney Houston blaring from your ear buds, girls have been asking the same question for eons. As long as love has been a concept in the hearts and minds of humanity, this question has been asked by women.

Men aren’t known for being open about their feelings. Some men are more open than others and sometimes it feels like he’s telling you what he thinks you want to hear rather than how he really feels. So, how can you really know if he loves you? These are a few hard to mistake signs.

He Reaches Out to You

We live in a day and age where communication is nearly constant. And, yet, for many women it seems like you’re always the one reaching out. If he is the first one to

• Call
• Text message
• Instant message
• Instagram
• Send messages on Facebook
• Email

the odds are great that he really has feelings for you he wants to explore. Men who are ambivalent rarely make the first move. They certainly don’t go out of their way to send you messages in the morning or call you up out of the blue just to see how your day is going.

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He Tells You He Loves You

The “L” word is difficult for many men to utter. Just trying to say it, for some men, makes them feel like their tongues have suddenly become glued to the tops of their mouths. You know, the peanut butter dry mouth syndrome. Even when they feel genuine love for you, it’s nearly impossible for men to be the first to make that declaration. If he says he loves you, chances are, he really does. Don’t expect him to make Herculean efforts, in your eyes, to prove it. From his perspective, just saying it was Herculean enough.

He Deals with Your Friends and Family

Men don’t often tolerate uncomfortable scrutiny. The fact that he’s willing to be put on the chopping block of public opinion with your friends and family says a lot about where his heart is. If he keeps going back for more punishment, you’ve got a real keeper on your hands.

At the end of the day, though, it doesn’t matter how often he tells you, what he puts up with to show you, or whether or not he makes the first move. What matters most is whether or not he makes you feel loved BY HIM. No amount of sweat talk or sincere gestures on his part are going to convince you if you don’t feel the love he professes.

What Do Men Need from the Women They Love?

Men really do have simple needs when it comes to relationships. Despite their resistance to change, men have adapted well to the falling away from “love, honor, and obey” (mostly the obey part of that to be honest) as the commandment of all things relationship. However, that doesn’t imply that they don’t have needs of their own that must be addressed in order for them to remain happy in their marriages. In fact, men have very strong needs – though he’ll likely never explain them to you. There are three overriding needs, though, that every girl needs to understand and meet in order to have a truly happy relationship with the man she loves.

1) Show Him Respect

You don’t have to bow down before him or anything like that. You don’t even need to defer to him, although, at the proper moments in the relationship this can really stroke his ego and make him fall even harder in love with you. The main ways to show respect are in how you interact. Don’t talk down to him. Don’t make him feel inferior. And for goodness sakes, avoid criticism — especially in the form of nagging — at all costs. This makes him feel as though you’re looking down on him and lack respect for him. It leads to “greener grass syndrome” and other negative feelings about you and your relationship.

It’s hard ladies, to get him to do what you want sometimes. That’s usually a sign that he really doesn’t want to do the job – whatever the job may be. So, you have three choices that don’t involve nagging. Make him an offer that makes it worth his while to get the chore done by a specific time or date, do it yourself without holding a grudge (which may be easier said than done), or hire someone else to do it for the sake of the relationship. Even when money is tight, it’s sometimes better to pay someone else to do the jobs neither of you are willing to do, but both want done. The respect you’re both able to maintain for each other by doing this is worth its weight in gold.

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2) Admiration

Think long and hard. When was the first time you paid your handsome man a compliment? How about flirting? Do you engage in a little active flirting when you’re out in public, riding in the car, through text messages at the office? When was the last time you let him know that you still think he rocks his Levi’s? Little things like this make a huge difference to the man in your life and in your relationship.

3) Loyalty

Never let him doubt your loyalty. There’s no bigger relationship killer for men than this. Don’t flirt with his best friend – or anyone else for that matter – in an attempt to make him jealous. It will backfire on you every time. Don’t let him overhear you talking negatively about him around the girls. Show loyalty at all times and you can expect to receive the same kind of loyalty from him in return.

Don’t believe me? Try it out and see how quickly things change between you – for the better.

Four Great ways to Get Your Girl’s Attention

Not too long ago, there was a series of commercials, by a mobile phone provider oddly enough, about mobile phone “really?” moments. The premise of the commercial was that this new phone could get you in, out, and back to real life faster than the other phones on the market. The commercial made a great point however. We humans seem to have a hard time getting each other’s attention these days. Even in loving relationships, getting your girl’s attention can be, difficult. However, these four tips will get you her undivided attention if you go about them the right way.

1) Get Her Away from the Crowd

If there is constantly a group of people or an audience around, it’s difficult to get through the clutter of other opinions, other advice, and other recommendations. Now is a great time to plan a weekend out of town for the two of you so that you can reconnect with one another without an audience hanging on your every word.

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2) Plan an Electronic Free Weekend

This includes all electronic devices (mobile phones, tablets, laptops, televisions, video game systems, iPods, the whole shebang) if you want it to be effective. The idea is that you’ll be forced to rely on each other for communication, companionship, and attention. Play games together, talk to each other, and reconnect in a way you haven’t managed in quite a while. You’ll be surprised by what a difference going two days without all the distractions can do for your relationship.

3) Send her Flowers – For No Reason

You better believe this will get her attention. She’s definitely going to want to know what’s going on, what’s happened, and what you’re attempting to apologize for. It will drive her mad with curiosity and have her hanging on your every word until she feels she’s gotten to the bottom of things.

4) Clean the House

After she picks her jaw up off the floor or wakes up from passing out, she’ll be dying to know what’s going on, who’s coming over, and whether or not you’ve become a Stepford husband. If house cleaning is something you just can’t handle or she does such a great job that it never needs extra help, consider completing some other project she’s been asking/nagging you to do for a while now. Just finishing it will be a gift to both of you at this point and will certainly get her attention.

You don’t have to move heaven and earth to make a favorable impression with the girl you love. Little steps can make a big difference in your relationship and ensure that you have her undivided attention now and help you keep it in the future. Use one or more of these Four Great ways to Get Your Girl’s Attention and im sure you will succeed!

Zip Zam Zoom – Magical Words to Get Lover Back

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Getting your boyfriend back isn’t always a walk in the park. You may have been trying for some time, without success, to make it happen. That’s probably what led you here. You’re looking for a quick and easy, perhaps even magical, solution to get him back for good this time around.

What is Magic?

For some people magic is something mystical and wonderful that cannot be understood, much less explained. For other people, magic is simply a trick of the eye or some sort of sleight of hand that always has a solution.

Whether your definition of magic includes something enchanting and wonderful or a mystery to solve, getting your boyfriend back doesn’t involve supernatural maneuverings.

BUT

A few magic words certainly want help.

Zip

This is the little pop of fun, pep, and life that is necessary in all lasting relationships. What kind of zip has your relationship had lately? Were things going along swell and suddenly the bottom fell out?

OR

Have things been slowly switching from sizzle to fizzle in recent months? When was the last time you went on a romantic date together? How long has it been since you weren’t able to keep your hands off each other?

 

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But how do you put the “zip” back in after the fact?

You add the zip into your own life. Spruce up your image a bit. Add a little sparkle to your appearance, add a little boost to your confidence, and become the vibrant, active girl you were when you first met. If the two of you move in remotely similar social circles he will hear about the new you – and it will drive him insane with curiosity.

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Get into the best shape of your life. Whether it’s losing weight or adding a little tone, now is the time to get into shape and really take care of yourself. Make sure you’re eating nutritious meals and drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated. These things are important because the one thing you want, more than anything else, if you cross paths with your ex boyfriend is to come across as happy and healthy.

He expects you to do a little bit of pining and it’s going to really make him curious about what’s going on in your life if you’re going around looking better than ever.

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Keep going and don’t stop to grieve over him. Commit yourself to living your best life without him in it. It’s not moving on. It’s not letting go of the idea of getting him back. It’s even better. It’s showing him that you don’t NEED him – all the while he’s figuring out that he might actually need you.

Relationships aren’t easy, but neither is breaking up. Give him the chance to see that you’re making it on your own, without him, and he’s very likely to make the first move so you will have no trouble convincing him that the idea to get back together was all his. THAT is the truly magical aspect of getting your boyfriend back – convincing him that he’s the one who wanted to make it  happen.

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How To Keep Your Love Fresh and Alive

Max and Mindy had been going out for six months.  They had fallen into a rut.  Friday nights meant pizza and a video after work.  Saturdays usually involved a bar.  And Sunday mornings, Max would go out for bagels and they’d have a continental breakfast in bed.

Things were getting too routine and Mindy was beginning to get restless.  Max was determined to shake things up because he sensed he would lose Mindy if he didn’t.

This article is all about how to shake things up.  It’s about keeping your love fresh and alive.

Introduction

Being romantic when you just start dating is easy.  But, how can you keep the fun, energy, interest and romance alive on an ongoing basis?

A relationship is like a budding plant complete with aluminum foil and a big bow.  You can’t put the plant in a window and ignore it.  If you do, it will die.  It needs pruning, watering, and nurturing to thrive.  Your relationship needs the same care, consideration and knowledge.  This article will give you some tips on how to do that.

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Send Flowers for No Reason

The receptionist at Laurie’s office buzzed her excitedly.  ”Laurie, you’ve got the biggest bouquet out here.  Come and get it.”

Laurie was excited but confused.  It wasn’t her birthday.  She and Gregg hadn’t had a big fight.  What were the flowers for?

She went to pick them up and as she walked down the hall with them, people (mostly the women) admired them.

All day, people popped in the cubicle and complimented her on her beautiful arrangement.  And, they asked about how her relationship was going.

Over and over, she told people about her wonderful boyfriend Gregg.  And, on each telling of the story, she felt a little bit better about her relationship.

Gregg got a lot of mileage out of a bouquet out of the blue.

You know to send her flowers on Valentine’s Day and her birthday.  But have you considered sending flowers to her at work for no reason at all?

The romance of Valentine ‘s Day isn’t about the food or flowers.  It’s the feeling of being loved enough to be fussed over and cherished.  It’s the sharing of a loving experience.  When you pick out a gift, you are sharing something with someone.

But you don’t have to wait for February 14 to roll around to share these feelings.  You can make any day Valentines Day – and because it is not a “prescribed” holiday, you’ll get more brownie points for doing it.

Why flowers?

Flowers remind us of Mother Nature at her most lovely.  Women are happy receiving most any kind of flower.  Men tend to be more choosy about the flowers they appreciate receiving.  Women, consider sending your man an amaryllis, chrysanthemums, are even a plant.  If you are sending them to his office, forget the teddy bears, kissy faces or cherubs.  Don’t put him in the position of getting teased unmercifully at his place of work.

But men can send just about anything to a woman at work.  Women get completely ga-ga about almost anything and if guys knew the real impact of flowers, they would keep a florist on retainer.

Don’t send the same flowers all the time either.  While roses are romantic, you don’t want to get into a rut.

Also, don’t reserve flowers for birthdays, fights, or special events.  Flowers for everyday are a powerful way to mix up a relationship.

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Dealing With Her Reaction When You Break Up

You know your girlfriend better than almost anyone else, so you may be able to predict how she will react. Some of the ways women react to being told the relationship is over is to cry, have hysterics, scream at you, throw things, and storm out. Unless you perceive that there is any chance of real violence, you just have to put up with whatever scene she causes. That’s the price of breaking up.

You can’t control her, but you can control your reaction to her. For instance, when she cries, you can start crying too. That will really throw her. It doesn’t have to be a sloppy cry, but a tear or two might stop her in her tracks.

If she starts yelling, you can take it with stoic silence. If she wants to know why you are doing this, you can soothe her and lie.

If she doesn’t say anything, don’t fill up the silence with explanations. Let her finish her dinner in silence and let her leave.

Be prepared for her arguments about why you should remain a couple. She may promise anything if you will agree to stay together. But, by the time you have decided to break up, you should already know that there is nothing she or you can do to change the situation and you are both better off single.

Whatever you do, you should have a disentanglement strategy. Perhaps you can schedule an appointment for one hour after the break up meeting time. If this is an appointment that you just can’t miss, you will have to walk out of there composed.

How to Tell Her

Now we get to the nitty-gritty. How should you tell your girlfriend that you are breaking up? Avoid psychobabble. She’ll see right through it. Saying “it’s not you, it’s me” is meaningless because she is going to know that it really is her. You are not calling all women off. You’re calling her off.

Be clear that you are breaking up with her and there is no room for discussion. This is a decision you have made and it requires no input or discussion on her part.

Be concise. You don’t have to drag it out if you don’t want to. She can cry on her girlfriends’ shoulders. You are no longer her punching bag.

You may feel that you have to offer explanations, but you really don’t. You are not doing her any favors by telling her that she is a nag or that you are tired of her manipulating you. It won’t help her be a better girlfriend for another guy. She’ll just use your words against you. And, you won’t get anything out of it.

Perhaps the best line is “I don’t think we’re a good fit anymore.” Leave it at that and walk away if you’re smart.
Ps. Whatever you say or do in the middle of a breakup it all come down to one thing. Everything we give out
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Get the Timing Right When You Break Up

There is never a “good”time to break up with a girl. But, there are some times that are worse than others. For instance, breaking up with a girl just before Christmas, Valentine’s Day or her birthday really sucks! (This is especially true if you just don’t want to buy her a present.)

If she has major events in her life going on, it may be best to wait until after they have been resolved. For instance, if you have been in a long term relationship with a girl and she has her comprehensive exams for a master’s degree coming up in two weeks, it would probably
be the gentlemanly thing to do to wait.

Perhaps no life event is more stressful than having a major medical happening. Don’t be like former House Speaker Newt Gingrich who presented the divorce papers to his first wife when she was recovering from Breast Cancer surgery. Not only does this make you a cad, it makes you look like a cad!

But recognize that there’s always something going on, both in your life and in hers. If you delay the break up for a specific event and then find there is another event on the horizon, at some point you are just going to have to bite the bullet and call the whole thing off, whatever
the circumstances.

Places to Break Up and Places to Avoid Breaking Up

Figuring out where to break up can be as difficult as finding the words to say. But selecting the proper break up venue is critical.

First of all, you never, ever want to break up in a car. The reason why is pretty obvious: it could be dangerous! But, there is also the consideration that neither of you can walk away when tensions are high.

Most car break ups aren’t planned. A typical car break up is more of a spontaneous outburst, perhaps with an underlying intent to break up soon.

For instance, you are at a party and you see her flirting with another guy. You have been thinking about breaking up with her already, but this really gets your goat. So, on the way home (after having a couple of drinks no less), you start arguing. She says she was just
being friendly. You accuse her of having an affair with the guy. Pretty soon, you are shouting at each other. The car is swerving all over the road. She’s crying. And you finally say, “I’ve
had it. We’re through.”

This is not the best way to break up!

Another bad way to break up is when you avoid doing it in person. Whether you send a letter, text, email, or make a phone call, you’re hiding behind technology. Not only does this make you a coward, but she’s going to tell all of her friends what a coward you were.

Besides, Britney Spears broke up with Kevin Federline by email. Do you want to be so Britney?

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Are You Really Thinking About Dumping Your Girlfriend?

Are you thinking about dumping your girlfriend? Chances are, if you are thinking about it, the relationship is already over. Now, what you have to decide is how to do it.

As the song says, “breaking up is hard to do.” There are so many reasons that you put it off.

For one thing, it’s easier to just keep on keeping on. Having a girlfriend is convenient. It means not having to be alone on a cold night, not having to come up with a pick up line, and not having your family wonder why you didn’t bring a date to cousin Sophie’s wedding.

For another thing, part of you still loves your girlfriend. You know that breaking up will break her heart. So, you wait – for just the right time, for just the right place, and for just the right words to say.

Guess what? It is going to be hard whenever you do it. So, make the commitment to break up and then find a way to do it. Most of the time, women are the ones who initiate a split in a relationship. So, why do guys break up with their girlfriends? Here are 10 good reasons to call it quits:

#10 – She nags you. If she acts like she’s your mother and you are 4 years old, the relationship just isn’t going to work. If you constantly are telling her, “stop nagging,” it’s a good time to break up.

#9 – She doesn’t appreciate you. Let’s face it, there are plenty of women who will see you for the compassionate, loving guy you are. If she doesn’t think you are a great guy, dump her and find someone who does.

#8 – She’s too emotional. A girl who is high maintenance is the pits. And, when the maintenance has to do with taking care of her emotions, sometimes it’s better to cut free.

#7 – She manipulates you. Some women feel that they can only get what they need through manipulation. In fact, they would rather play games than ask nicely. If you feel like she is too manipulative, it is a good idea to get out of the relationship.

#6 – She underestimates you. Nothing is more frustrating than having to constantly prove yourself to someone who should be your biggest cheerleader. If she is constantly surprised when you succeed or if she undermines your success, you should consider getting out of the
relationship.

#5 – She stops putting out. There are lots of reasons why having a steady girlfriend is wonderful. But let’s face it, the number one reason is that you know you’ll have someone there at the end of a Saturday night. If she stops giving it to you on a regular basis, it’s time
to find your fortune elsewhere.

#4 – She tries to change you. There is a play called “I love you. You”re perfect. Now change.” That sums up what happens in all too many relationships. A woman falls in love with you and thinks you are the perfect man and then finds all kinds of reasons why you should change. If she tries to stop you from being the person you are and the person you want to be, get out.

Are You Really Thinking About Dumping Your Girlfriend?

#3 – She cheats on you. Whether it is a one night stand or a secret relationship with a coworker, a woman’s cheating can drive a stake through the heart of a relationship. Unless you are prepared to forgive and then completely forget the affair, you have to break the
relationship off. The cheating will fester like a wound and destroy your relationship.

#2 – She doesn’t love you anymore. Do you feel that she has fallen out of love with you but doesn’t know how to end it? Is inertia all that is keeping you together? If so, you might have to be the one who calls it quits.

#1 – You don’t love her anymore. If you love her like a sister or friend but just don’t have the romantic feelings that sustain an intimate relationship, you owe it to her to be honest. Sure, she’s going to hurt. A lot. But you are better off setting her free to find someone who loves
her like she deserves.

Go ahead and reread this article and give it some thought and you will shortly begin to realize that all the above 10 reasons are indeed some of the same reason you have put off dumping your girlfriend. In the next article in this series of articles we will continue to discuss the type of break ups. Stay Tuned!
Ps. Remember to be honest and thruthful to yourself and what you feel in the relationship and follow the voice of your heart! Need some more advice? Here it is!