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The Hazard of Happiness from Others

A sensation of happiness arise from countless sources like a fresh baked cookie from a parent, a great nap on a rainy day or the ideal word from the most important person in one’s life. While not bad in and of themselves, only seeking happiness from others leads to numerous complications. Romantic relationships relying solely on one another for any form of validation bring even greater issues. Understanding the reasons why this viewpoint is bad for the other person, the individual and the relationship as a whole must be understood before spotting red flag this reliance has crept into the relationship already.

Reasons It Is Bad for Them

People, even the best and most given ones, do not save other people. Placing someone in a position where they must sustain an emotional well with the potential of never being completely filled asks too much of them. This multifaceted person transforms into a conduit of the desired thing: Happiness. Consider how two dimensional it makes them. When the transition happens, then little concern arises for their needs. They stop being someone and becomes something.

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Reasons It Is Bad for You

No one has ever grown, found satisfying love or even a good friend by focusing on getting something from another person. Even in scenarios where a quid pro quo exists, the transactional nature poisons one’s ability to focus on sacrificially caring for the other person because you are not invested in them and their happiness. Outside of the relationship and the other person, it becomes harder to grow and experience things on your own due to having this great person who is there just to make you happy.

Reasons It Is Bad for the Relationship

Think about a spider’s web. No matter how large the spider or intricate their web, no one has ever witnessed them catching a bird. Relationships are similarly fragile and sticky. If one person becomes selfish and claims the lion’s share of anything, the balance gets thrown off and everything falls down. Also, it is easy for this to become a pattern without anyone realizing. When this happens, it becomes much harder to break the cycle and move forward. Both people must seek the other’s happiness and revel in the joy they receive from being with the other person.

Red Flags of Happiness Dominance

Some signs might peek around the corners letting one know this already exists. Let’s look at these concerns.

* Swinging Up and Down: Responding overly up or down when receiving happiness from one’s partner may demonstrate and overly charged link. Variations should exist in one’s emotions, but it becomes troubling when tied to a specific person and their behaviors or responses.

* Running Off Fear: Fear within in a relationships is like fast food for the body. It can be a good short term solution, but things operate poorly in such an environment. If one only feels the acidic tang on fear when not receiving happiness from their partner, the cycle may have started.

* Rudderlessness: A withdrawal of overall happiness when not supplied by one’s partner might create a sensation of being lost. The best way to identify this is when everything else seems to running well and yet not knowing where to go, what to do or how one feels overwhelms everything else.

Some of the greatest joy one can feel is in caring for another person and receiving the care in return. Watch for a growing sense of selfishness and be quick to talk to each other. This can be difficult for either individual because the temptation to say this is how love is supposed to be displayed. Healthy boundaries mean not siphoning off another person or letting them use you for their benefit. Be partners and love one another well.

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Dont Depend On Someone Else To Make You Happy

Too many people these days depend on whether or not they’re in a relationship to decide if they’re happy or not.

This is one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make for both yourself and the future of your relationship. You’ll find out rather quickly that if you rely on the actions of your partner to “make” you happy that your emotions will stay in constant movement much like riding a roller coaster.

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Couples in successful relationships understand this concept.

They don’t depend on each other for their own personal happiness. Instead, each of them do things that they enjoy and makes them happy independently of each other. This is the key to true personal happiness. Do what you like and get involved in things that make you feel good and energetic. Don’t expect your partner to figure out how to keep you happy. That never works out.

Granted, if you and your partner aren’t happy being together

-or one of you has done something to damage the relationship, it’s no surprise that you’ll feel unhappy about this. However, it’s the event that’s made you sad or angry, not your partner. Your partner isn’t a mind reader and cannot tell exactly what they need to be doing at all times so that you’ll never be unhappy. That’s not realistic and people that hook up with someone just because they believe this is what will give them the happiness that they’ve been missing out on will be sorely disappointed.

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Couples that are independently happy typically end up making each other happy as partners.

Neither of them has anything to prove and simply don’t spend a lot of time sitting around questioning whether or not they’ve making their partner happy. They just enjoy feeling happy and let things take their natural course. That’s the way to keep your relationship moving in the right direction.

Someone that’s so emotional that they take every little comment their partner makes to heart is never going to be completely happy.

These are the people that are continuously waiting for their partner to notice things such as a new hairstyle or outfit. When the partner doesn’t immediately acknowledge the change, it’s blown all out of proportion. Give your partner time to assess the new you and make the appropriate comments.

Stop assuming things regarding your partner.

Even though both of you have a lot in common, you’re not always going to move totally in synch with each other. Give your partner room to breathe and accept it when they grant you the same. It’s healthy to lead a life outside of the relationship as long as it’s not interfering with the core of the relationship. You’re the only one that can make you happy. Sure, you can say that you’re happy to be with someone, or even that your partner makes you happy. However, what that doesn’t mean is that you’re totally depending on your partner to keep the happiness alive within you. Make yourself happy and the rest will all fall right into place.

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