When you’re getting back together with your ex there’s a fine line that you must walk between doing things the old way and making a fresh start together. Sometimes it’s best to part with the old completely and go for something completely new and different. Something you’ve never done together before. If you’ve already tried some of these things, skip those in favor of making new memories together and avoiding possible stigmas or negative emotions tied to things you’ve tried in the past.
Date Friendly Venues -1) Roller-skating or ice-skating.
Both activities are physical activities that can be a lot of fun, at any age, provided you both come into it with open minds and expecting to have a good time together. More importantly, it gives you the opportunity to hold hands, to talk, and to rediscover that “sense of fun” that flows out of relationships when times are tough.
Date Friendly Venues -2) Rodeo.
Depending on where you are in the world, rodeos offer a chance to cheer for the underdog, to laugh at the antics of the clowns, and the rush of adrenaline that almost always accompanies danger or risk. All from the relative safety of bleacher seats. Besides, what girl doesn’t love ponies?
Date Friendly Venues -3) Hot air balloon ride.
Few options available to you are more romantic than a hot air balloon ride. It’s a great way to literally get above it all and see how small your problems really are from a bird’s-eye view.
Date Friendly Venues -4) Sailing, canoeing, or white water rafting.
Unless you live in a desert climate, the odds are good that there is some venue for one of these activities nearby. Water can be romantic and fun. The time you spend together doing this is time you’re not likely to forget. It’s a great opportunity to spend time together, talk, or simple enjoy the ride — and the company.
Date Friendly Venues -5) Minor league sporting event.
Skip the high price tag and huge crowds of the average major league sporting venue. Attending a minor league sporting event allows you both to cheer for the home team without breaking the bank. More importantly, the smaller crowds give you time to talk to each other a little before, during, and after the game. You get the benefit of watching favorite sports, such as hockey, baseball, football, and even soccer, without the downside of big league games.
Great dates don’t just happen. They’re made. It takes more than a great location though to make your first date – the second time around – truly stand out from the crowd. These venues are a great start, but it’s up to you to really make this date sparkle and shine. Be on your best behavior. Treat your date well. Avoid danger zones or hot topics. And remember to have fun and remind your ex why he or she fell in love with you in the first place.
Date night can be a highly effective tool for putting a little love back into your relationship. Whether you’re going through a bit of a seven-year-itch or on the verge of calling it quits, making the right date night choices can be a huge win for your marriage. Unfortunately, making date night mistakes of monumental proportions, such as those listed below, can spell disaster for your efforts to save your relationship.
Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems
Date night is all about getting away from the mundane issues troubling the two of you. It’s time to turn your focus on each other. Leave the kids, parents, in-laws, and outlaws at home where they belong. You want this to be a genuine “feel good” opportunity. Don’t squander it by bringing bad vibes into the evening.
Bringing Work Along on Your Date
Whether it is in thoughts or in deeds, bringing work on your date night date not only kills the mood, but also breeds resentment. In many marriages, constant work is a problem. Your spouse feels slighted because you always seem to put work before family. When you bring work on your date night that resentment becomes a deep and simmering rage. It’s just another nail in the coffin of your relationship in many ways and one that can be easily avoided one night a week.
Cancelling Date Night or Rearranging it at the Last Minute
Cancelling date nights is a huge no-no. It’s the last thing you want to do without a darned good (I mean someone has died or is about to die kind of) reason. Whenever you cancel date night, you’re essentially putting whatever reason it was before your marriage. Stuff happens. Sitters quit or cancel and you’re left scrambling to find a suitable alternative. It’s better to do a little additional scrambling than to deal with the romantic and relationship fallout of a cancellation.
The same holds true with rearranging plans at the last minute. Once the sitter is lined up and dinner plans are set for the evening, last-minute rearrangements really upset the apple cart doing more harm for the date night cause than good. The bottom line is that if you aren’t going to take date night seriously, it’s better nto to plan to have it at all.
Falling into a Date Night Rut
Whatever you do, don’t do the same thing week after week. It becomes monotonous and routine. This is your opportunity to add a little fun and excitement to your relationship. Don’t risk it by going to dinner and a movie week after week. Switch it up some and see what a difference it makes not only in your excitement about having a date night but also in your partner’s response to date night. Make a date night “bucket list” of things you’d like to do on date night together and have fun granting each other’s date night wishes.
Date night can be as exciting or as humdrum as you allow it to be. Make a compact with yourself and one another not to let your date night become a run of the mill experience that’s easily taken for granted. Do this and your marriage is sure to be one in which you do not take each other for granted either.