Trust issues are important in relationships today.
Sometimes, it’s past experience that shapes you. But, it doesn’t matter how much someone loves you, there are going to be problems if you can’t extend a little trust to the other person in your relationship — at least until your partner has given you a reason to distrust.
I should add that valid reasons to distrust your partner do not include:
* Talking to members of the opposite sex
* Going to work with other people
* Picking up the kids after school and talking, even smiling, with other parents
* Receiving late-night phone calls from work (some jobs actually require this)
* Being kind to the wait staff at your favorite restaurants
* Smiling and talking to other people at parties
Essentially, being a cordial friendly human being is not grounds for distrust.
The story, however, is a little different if your ex had a history of telling tall tales or stepping out on you. Otherwise, it’s good form to allow the person you’re sharing your heart with a little bit of your trust unless or until said person gives you reason not to trust.
If you’re one of the millions out there who has been hurt by a cheating partner, spouse, etc. then it’s hard to open up and allow yourself to trust. Some people, though, have never witnessed what a genuine, loving, and trusting relationship looks like. You don’t have an example of how to trust or even how to behave when you do trust someone. But, that lack of trust could easily be ruining your relationship if you don’t get it under control fast.
Why does is Have Such a Negative Impact?
The truth of the matter is that trust is as essential to successful relationships as love. Your partner feels a lot of negative emotions when he or she isn’t trusted. The crux of the situation is that distrust leaves your partner feeling:
* Unmotivated to make it work
The bottom line is that it makes your partner feel bad about the relationship. That’s the last thing you want and it may be part of the reason the relationship ended.
The good news for you is that it’s not too late to turn things around. Chances are good that your ex still has strong feelings for you. Now is your chance to redeem your past, open up your heart, and put a little trust in your ex. The trick though, is in getting your ex to see how much you’ve changed. Let me help you change your stripes in a way that will really make an impression with your ex so you can get your ex back and stop the hurting for both of you.