Things Women Really Love from their Men

Relationships are a series of good times and bad. The key is in making the good times exceptional and brief.

Doing this makes the bad times increasingly rare, briefer every time, and helps to maintain a little bit of brightness when they arrive.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Small Tokens of Affection

No, you don’t have to break the break. We’re not talking about tokens along the lines of Ertha Kitt’s infamous Christmas list.

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The big gifts in life might light a fire in the eyes of the woman you love. But, it’s the little things that melt her heart and bind her to you in ways no sable coats ever will.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Cuddle Time

Women like to cuddle. Not as a form of foreplay, but simply as a sign of affection. Holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and laying with her feet (or head) in your lap are perfect.

They are all signs of casual intimacy and love that MATTER to her in a really big way. It’s a small gesture on your part that carrier massive weight in her heart.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Hearing those Three Magic Words

You know what they are. You’ve probably said them to her dozens of times. You’ve probably not said them to her even more. The thing is, she NEEDS to hear them.

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Love

Those words mean the world to her because they reinforce her position in YOUR world. Tell her “I love you!” and watch how her face just lights up at the reminder.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Your Approval

The other thing your woman needs from you more than you’ll ever know or understand is your approval. Give it to her.

Tell her she looks great tonight. Even if she “dismisses” it with something along the lines of a questioning “This old thing,” she is secretly tickled and extremely pleased to hear it.

She works hard to look good for you, prepare good food for you to eat, and keep your house in great shape. Acknowledge her efforts and you’ll be rewarded with a very happy girlfriend, wife, or partner on your hands.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Being Asked on a Date

When was the last time you threw caution to the wind and asked her out on a date? Not asking her, “Do you wanna go do something?” But, asking her on an actual date. A date you’ve planned out ahead of time?

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Have you ever done this?

If not, now is the time. It will rock her world and melt her heart even more. Try it! You’re going to love the results!

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Did Trust Issues Drive Your Ex Away?

Trust issues are important in relationships today.

Sometimes, it’s past experience that shapes you. But, it doesn’t matter how much someone loves you, there are going to be problems if you can’t extend a little trust to the other person in your relationship — at least until your partner has given you a reason to distrust.

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I should add that valid reasons to distrust your partner do not include:
* Talking to members of the opposite sex
* Going to work with other people
* Picking up the kids after school and talking, even smiling, with other parents
* Receiving late-night phone calls from work (some jobs actually require this)
* Being kind to the wait staff at your favorite restaurants
* Smiling and talking to other people at parties
Essentially, being a cordial friendly human being is not grounds for distrust.

The story, however, is a little different if your ex had a history of telling tall tales or stepping out on you. Otherwise, it’s good form to allow the person you’re sharing your heart with a little bit of your trust unless or until said person gives you reason not to trust.

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Trust

If you’re one of the millions out there who has been hurt by a cheating partner, spouse, etc. then it’s hard to open up and allow yourself to trust. Some people, though, have never witnessed what a genuine, loving, and trusting relationship looks like. You don’t have an example of how to trust or even how to behave when you do trust someone. But, that lack of trust could easily be ruining your relationship if you don’t get it under control fast.

Why does is Have Such a Negative Impact?

The truth of the matter is that trust is as essential to successful relationships as love. Your partner feels a lot of negative emotions when he or she isn’t trusted. The crux of the situation is that distrust leaves your partner feeling:
* Unloved
* Unappreciated
* Unwanted
* Disrespected
* Unmotivated to make it work

The bottom line is that it makes your partner feel bad about the relationship. That’s the last thing you want and it may be part of the reason the relationship ended.

The good news for you is that it’s not too late to turn things around. Chances are good that your ex still has strong feelings for you. Now is your chance to redeem your past, open up your heart, and put a little trust in your ex. The trick though, is in getting your ex to see how much you’ve changed. Let me help you change your stripes in a way that will really make an impression with your ex so you can get your ex back and stop the hurting for both of you.

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Are You Being Too Agreeable for Love to Last?

Most people reading this will not think it’s possible to have a partner that’s too agreeable. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that two different personalities will eventually get on each other’s nerves. It’s a fact of life, when two people occupy the same space, they will occasionally overstep boundaries, hurt feelings, or simply make one another madder than the hatter in Alice in Wonderland. The people you love most often drive you the craziest.

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Arguing, in these situations is a normal response. On occasion, there may even be dish flinging, clothes throwing, knock down drag out kinds of disagreements (often followed by mind-blowing making-up sessions). It’s normal to fight. It’s even natural. What isn’t natural, in relationships, is to always agree or never fight. Arguments are important tools in relationships. They do more than just let off a little steam. Here are a few reasons why you need to have the occasional argument in your relationship.

Arguments Clear the Air

They are important tools for letting your partner know how you really feel. IN relationships where couples never fight, it’s often the first fight, the one that reveals all the pent up frustrations, hurt, and anger, that result in the ending of that relationship. Arguments let the other person know when how you feel, how you’re hurting, and what to avoid in the future.
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Arguments

Arguments Show Engagement in the Relationship

They certainly bring an element of excitement into the relationship. They let your partner know you’re there and hold nothing back. They show that you are passionately involved in the relationship and that you do care. They serve as a barometer for the level of affection in the relationship, in many cases, and are important tools for your partner to understand how vested in the relationship you really are.

Arguments Establish Important Issues for Both of You

We all know there are hot-button political and religious issues that should not be discussed in polite society. The same holds true when it comes to relationships. Those topics aren’t always as clearly defined as religion and politics. In some relationships it’s cooking, mechanical abilities (did anyone else notice how Jill on Home Improvement always quietly called in a professional once Tim finished fixing things?), family, friends, or even politics and religion.
Once you establish that these are hot topics for you by having that first heated argument, you know to back off and avoid discussing the issue. Sometimes, you must agree to disagree. But, if you never let your partner know how you really feel and how important the issue is for you, then he or she is likely to keep discussing it causing your blood to boil. Unless you let your partner know how you feel, your partner is going to assume you agree.
Don’t let your first fight be the final blow for your relationship. Learn to speak up and let your partner know what you really think and feel. Most important of all, learn to fight fair so that the disagreements and arguments you do have are productive rather than destructive.

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Great Expectations – Are They Ruining Your Romance?

It’s great to have high expectations of what life is going to be like when you’re sharing it with the person who is the love of your life. Unfortunately, many people have dreams and expectations that are simply unobtainable. Whether it comes from reading romance novels where the hero also realizes the error of his ways and gives in to the heroine’s every whim, or, on the other side of the coin, from watching rap videos where women are throwing themselves at the feet of men ready to cater to their every whim.

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As a society, we’re giving mixed messages between fantasy and reality and it’s ruining more than its fair share of romances. If your relationship is becoming a bitter disappointment because it isn’t meeting up to your expectations here are a few things it might help you to remember.

Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Others

Whether you’re comparing your relationship to real relationships other people have (what you see of those relationships anyway) or something in novels or on television screens, you’re doing your relationship a huge disservice. Reality can never live up to fiction and you’re only seeing the public side of other relationships. You’re not privy to what’s going on behind closed doors.
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Romantic expectations

Establish Realistic Expectations

The truth is that we all have expectations of life that rarely live up to reality. When it comes to relationships, learning to compromise and have expectations that are more realistic can make a world of difference when it comes to how happy you are with your partner. Both of you have areas where there is room for improvement. Identify them and make changes where appropriate.

Learn to Speak Up When It’s Important

The other problem regarding expectations arises when you fail to speak up when something is really important to you. Your partner can’t meet your needs if he or she isn’t aware of them. You must speak up and let your partner know what’s going on in your head and in your heart. You can’t hold the other person in the equation responsible for unknown variables. It’s not fair to either of you or your relationship.
It doesn’t seem like such a big deal at first glance. However, adjusting your expectations just a little bit, in order to meet your partner in the middle, can make a world of different to your happiness with the relationship and with your partner.

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Is Your Passive Aggressive Nature a Relationship Killer?

First of all, it’s important to understand that relationship breakups are rarely the fault of one person or the other. It’s generally some combination of the two. You don’t go from love to hate on the turn of a dime. Nor do you fall out of love completely over one argument, no matter how passionate the fight may be.
If there is one thing, though, that drives partners insane, it’s trying to have a productive argument with someone who is passive aggressive. The purpose of arguments is to sort out problems and solve them. Arguments, in relationships, are often necessary for getting feelings out on the table and making progress. When you don’t participate in the fight, progress cannot be made.

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The other problem with passive aggression is that it sends a signal to your partner that he or she is not worth fighting for. It says that you’re unwilling to fight to save the relationship. That may not be your intention. In fact, the intention is likely your desire to avoid uncomfortable or confrontational experiences. These are a few of the reasons why passive aggressiveness is widely known to do more harm than good for relationships.

Inhibits Communication

It’s difficult to talk to someone who has checked out of the conversation. Not only are you not letting your partner know how you feel, but you’re also preventing your partner from clearing the air about how he or she feels. How can you meet your partner’s needs and be there for your partner if you’re holding up a huge blinking neon “Hands Off” sign?

Involves Burying Feelings

The other things passive aggressive arguments do is bury your own feelings. You’re not telling your partner how you feel and yet holding that person responsible for not taking care of your feelings. It’s a lose-lose situation where neither of you is truly happy together and no one is really able to have a productive discussion about why you are both unhappy.
In the end, it breeds resentment on both sides of the relationship. Does this mean the breakup was all your fault? Not at all. What it does mean, is that you’re going to have to make real changes if you want to get your ex back and make it work for you both this time around. It also means you might need a little extra assistance in your efforts to get your ex back. I can help you with that.

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Can You Buy Your Lover Back?

Have you ever resorted to expensive gifts to make up for major misdeeds in the course of your relationship? Many men offer costly gifts to the women they love in hopes of smoothing things over and making it right. It may have started out with flowers and chocolates. Over time, the practice escalated to expensive jewelry, cars, homes, and vacations. The bigger the misdeed, the bigger the buyoff.
Unfortunately, this practice often does more harm for the relationship than good. The relationship becomes a series of highs and lows with each one attempting to outdo the other. Eventually, you’re either out of money or in debt so big that even more problems are being created. All the while, nothing is getting solved. It’s just being temporarily swept underneath the discarded ribbons, bows, and tissue paper.
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Lover
Here are a few questions to help you get a handle on your gift buying tendencies whenever relationship problems arise.

How Much Will it Really Cost to Buy Your Lover Back?

The costs are not always measured in dollars and cents. Men, especially, will gladly pay the price in dollars to avoid the emotional confrontation required to deal with the real, underlying problem in the relationship. Buying gifts provides a quick, albeit temporary, fix for a problem they don’t really want to face. The thing is, the problem is still there the next time mistakes are made and the price tag for avoidance keeps getting bigger and bigger every single time.

How Much Have You Spent Already to get Your Lover Back ?

The other point to consider is this. How much money have you already spent trying to delay the inevitable? The longer you attempt to put it off, the harder it’s going to be to deal with when the time comes. It’s kind of like an onion. The core problem is still there. Unfortunately, you’re going to have to go in and peel each individual layer, uncovering new problems and hurt feelings along the way, to get to the heart of the matter when the time does arrive to fix the problem or walk away. That money could solve many problems you’re having and would have likely been much better spent building your future together rather than covering up the “sins of the past.”
How much can you really afford to spend? This is the final question for many men in your shoes. There’s never really enough, is there? Love is something that can’t be bought. Forgiveness can’t really be purchased either. Women may joke about it, but the truth is they’d rather fix the problems and save the relationship the old-fashioned way than through gifts and bribes. She’s MUCH rather receive gifts from you as tokens of love from you instead of buyoffs for her affections.

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Is it Really Wise to Dive Back Into a Relationship with Your Ex?

The idea of getting back together with your ex probably seems like the perfect solution to your present state of heart and mind.

The breakup is the root of all your problems and your pain at the moment. You believe that making up will be the perfect answer. It might even solve some of your problems by relieving your pain to the point where you can think clearly. However, if you had waited that long before making up, what would those clearer thoughts have revealed about the breakup to begin with? Is getting back together with your ex really in your best interest? Consider these questions to help you decide.

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Have You Grown from the Experience?

Not just the breakup. Have you grown from the relationship? How has loving your ex changed you for the better? For worse? Where do you want to go, on a personal level, from here? Is it somewhere your ex will be able to go with you? How have your dreams and plans for the future changed as a result of your relationship with your ex? Do you still have dreams you’re working to achieve? Or, have you given them all up for the sake of practicality and expedience? What have you accomplished since becoming involved with your ex? Do you feel like you’re a better person because you knew your ex?
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Your ex

Are Your Prepared to Put the Past Behind You?

The problems in your relationship don’t go away just because you broke up and got back together. Wouldn’t it be nice if it did work that way though! The truth is that the old baggage is waiting at the same door one of you stomped out of when the you-know-what hit the fan. If you don’t resolve the issues that tore the two of you apart to begin with, they’re going to cause problems again unless you’ve decided that you can really put them behind the two of you and move forward.

What Kinds of Changes are You Willing to Make to Make it Work?

Lasting relationships require work. It’s as simple as that. You can’t share a home and lead two separate lives. You can’t go your separate ways and meet up when things are lonely or a little less hectic. You have to make time for each other and you have to do things together. More importantly, though, for the sake of saving your relationship, you both have to change in ways that bring you together rather than divide you.
If you’re not willing to put the past behind you, make necessary changes, and aren’t sure you’ve really grown from your time together, then why on earth are you fighting like mad to save the relationship? If you have positive answers to all these questions, then you’ll need to follow a well-conceived plan of attack to get your ex to pay attention and really give you, and your relationship, a second chance.

The Secret you need to know to forgive and get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again from their heart break!

Having Trouble Getting Your Ex Back? Try This Instead

Wise people say that the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. So many people, in the aftermath of an unexpected and/or unwanted breakup, find themselves falling into patterns of insanity while trying to get their exes back.

 Your Ex Back? It’s quite common.

Your heart is screaming so loud that it drowns out the things your brain is trying to tell you. The one thing your heart knows for sure is that it wants to stop HURTING.
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It knows that the breakup is the source of the pain and it wants to fix it. NOW! The thing is, your heart says crazy things, such as: apologize, beg, and bargain. These are the things that will do far more to harm your cause than to see it through.
Instead of repeating all the things that aren’t working, let’s try a different tactic this time around. Let’s go for different results. Here’s what you need to do instead.

 Your Ex Back? Agree with Your Ex

Want to stop an argument dead in its tracks? Agree with the arguer. First of all, it’s a shocking experience. There have probably been many times in the course of your relationship together that you’ve continued an argument you’d known you were losing just because you weren’t ready to admit defeat. We’ve all done it.
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Your ex back
Stopping the argument is one thing. It’s a grudging acceptance, but one your ex can mentally process. However, AGREEING with your ex is a new tactic that will leave your ex reeling.
More importantly, it will leave your ex thinking of you in an intrigued and perplexed way. Your ex thinks he or she already knows what’s coming next. Agreeing throws them off balance and reveals that you do, in fact, still have a few tricks up your sleeve.

 Your Ex Back? Stop Trying so Hard

I’m not advocating giving up. I’m not even telling you that you shouldn’t try to get your ex back. I’m telling you stop working so HARD. You need to work SMARTER; not harder. The direct approach isn’t going to work in the days and short weeks following your breakup. You’re going to need to do your best work behind the scenes if you really want to get your ex’s attention.
Begin with what you know about your ex. How did you win his or her heart in the first place? What is it about you that your ex has claimed to love the most? Identify that. Understand it and save it for later.

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Next you need to identify where the problems started. Was there a specific event, argument, or misunderstanding that began a downward spiral for your relationship? What could you do now that would tip the scales once again in your favor? Now is the time for thinking and not the time for action.
Do you need help coming up with the exact plan of action or working out the timing of putting your plan into motion? More importantly, do you have a plan for what comes next? Once you get your ex back, you need to know what it’s going to take to keep your relationship on a more even path in the future. Let me help you with that and so much more.

3 Things You Should Tell Your Husband Often

Your husband is probably not much of a talker.

Most men aren’t. It’s the one common complaint women have about them. They don’t talk about how they feel. Sometimes, women take that to mean they have a different emotional depth than women do. The truth of the matter is that men do feel things. In some ways, men feel even more deeply than women who wear their emotions on their sleeves quite often.

Because they don’t talk about their feelings, though, women often feel like it’s a waste of breath to discuss how they feel about their husbands with their husbands. Unfortunately, their husbands need to hear these words of affirmation. These are three of the things your husband NEEDS to hear from you as often as possible.

1) How Much You Respect Him – Respect is important to your husband.

He may never demand it. He’ll almost certainly never ask for it. But, it means a lot to him. Of all the people in the world, he wants your respect the most — and that’s something he may never even admit to himself. Let him know that you respect him and make sure you tell him WHY you respect him while you’re at it.
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Husband

2) That You Still Find Him Attractive

– No matter how many years you’ve been together he still needs hear that you still believe he’s the most handsome man on the planet. He needs to know that you only have eyes for him. Most importantly of all, he needs to feel like you mean it when you say these things.

3) How Much You Love the Way He Makes You Feel – Think about all the little things your husband does for you

– to protect you, to make you happy, and to keep you safe. He’s trying to take care of you. He’s showing you how he feels by doing those things and this should make you FEEL cherished, loved, and even adored by him. Let him know that he does make you feel all these things and more.
Bonus – Actions speak louder than words any day of the week. Telling him how you feel is great. It will mean a lot to him. However, if you combine the telling of these things with actions that reinforce the message you’re trying to convey it will be much clearer for him. Acts can be touching him, rubbing his shoulders, scratching his back, making his favorite meal, or going out of your way to make the house look extra nice and tidy. Whatever it is that pleases him most – after all, you know him best.
You don’t have to buy expensive gifts to make your guy feel loved and appreciated by you. Simple gestures sometimes get the greatest mileage. But, when you tell your husband these things often, you’ll have a happier, healthier marriage in a home that’s filled with love and affection.

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How to Make Him Pay Attention to You Now

Getting his attention used to be easy.

All you had to do was walk into the room – any room – and you had his undivided attention. Add a little wiggle to his walk, toss your hair over your shoulder, and crook your little finger and he’d come running fast. Lately, the only thing that gets that much love from him is the television remote. You’re starting to feel a little bit left out and worn down.

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What if I told you that there is something you can do RIGHT NOW that will get his attention – in a good way?

You can!
It’s easier than you think and you don’t have to walk around the house wearing nothing more than six-inch stilettos to get it.

Flirt with Him

How long has it been since you flirted with your guy? First of all, it WILL get his attention. He’ll be more than a little surprise and quite a bit turned on.
Now the downside is that he may instantly become suspicious. If that’s the case, don’t let it get you down. After all, you haven’t done it in a while.
The problem with relationships, is that no matter how much we love each other, after a while we stop trying quite as hard. We become a little bit complacent. Bringing back the flirting lets him know that you’re willing to try a little harder.

He’ll probably like it a lot more than he’ll ever let on.

Take it a little beyond hair tosses and batted eyelashes though. Let him know how big, strong, and handsome you think he is (of course you’ll want to find ways to say it that don’t leave you sounding like Betty Boop — unless that’s the kind of thing your guy likes).
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Attention
This is all about him. You want to remind him that he’s the only man for you. Flirting, sends the signal to him that you think he’s still worth trying for – no matter how long you’ve been together.

Touch Him!

Want to kick things up a notch? Touch him. Men express and experience love in a different way than women. It doesn’t have to be sexual touching, though that certainly doesn’t hurt your odds of getting his attention. But, he likes to be touched.
Rub his shoulders. Scratch his back. Hold his hands. Reach out and touch him and see what an instant response that gets from him.
We live in a day and time when attention is easily divided. Bringing a little bit of flirting and a whole lot of touching back into the relationship is the fastest way you have at your disposal to get his attention – in a very good way.

The Secret you need to know to forgive and get your love back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!