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Assessing Men’s Expectations

In a relationship, a challenge arises as to whether a man’s expectation falls into the reasonable or unreasonable category. Taking time, considering what is being asked and the reason for the expectation forces one to prognosticate the future for themselves and the relationship. Nothing strains a relationship like an unrealistic standard. Let’s look at expectations, their unreasonable counterparts and the motivations behind them.

Appearance expectations: “I want her to look…”

Everyone has a type or things about how their partner looks. Because of the initial impression made by appearance, several expectations form. Some of these are based on personal taste. A partner may prefer a certain hair color or clothing choice. Sometimes these can be fluid provided the guy realizes all the factors going into how someone looks.

Unrealistic: Run away if when his expectation sounds like a letter to a popular men’s magazine complete with measurements and phrases like “the girl next door.” A preference for down to earth beauty typified by the description is fine. When it becomes the only focus, he is seeking some teenage fantasy rather than a real person.

Reason for the Unreasonable Expectation: Simply put, a lack of maturity establishes this type of expectation. One of the greatest dangers with playing into this view of oneself centers around the flattening of other healthy aspects of you. Intelligence and personality become secondary at best with a focus on a looks.
Personality: “She’s got to be…”

Everyone has heard a litany of descriptors for personality or nature including sweet, exciting, biting and countless others to which they are drawn. We all have parts of our personalities and they manifest themselves in different ways. One person might display playfulness by cracking jokes while another might chose to take time to plan an activity. Neither is wrong because they show a nuanced way of being.

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Unrealistic: “You need to be…” implies a static form of interactions. The words themselves dictate someone wanting their needs to be met without every taking into account how the other person feels. No one gets to mandate the way someone expresses themselves.

Reason for the Unreasonable Expectation: Any number of reasons might be the cause for such an expectation. Fear of not being in control or wishing to deal with only things on the surface may nudge a man to keep things light, reasonable or sensual. Emotional and relational self management combined with safety may make a guy stick guardrails around a freely expressing person.

Relational expectations: “My partner always…”

People like to know who they are dealing with. They seek someone with similar interests, love languages they connect with and with whom they experience a connection. These factors, in and of themselves, are not bad. They can help in the selection process and everyone has them.

Unrealistic: “Always” and “only” for every aspect of a partner does not allow for a wide range of things. As the list grows from one or two declarative items, the man has stopped looking for a person. He starts seeking a list. A major drawback is how many people it cuts out of being a potential partner.

Reason for the Unreasonable Expectation: Does everyone not want exactly what they want without any surprises? Most do. If asked, men would say they are open minded with a few deal breakers. This is true. A few men go so far as to mandate everything about the person they seek. Those individuals could be dealing with issues and possibly require time and space to grow.

Everyone, men and women, have expectations. It is impossible not to have them. The moment the expectations dictate everything about a possible partner is when they cross over into unrealistic. Standing up to unreasonable demands will help break the expectations opening the door for a deeper relationship and opportunity to discover each other for real.

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Building Trust Again

Trust, a key component in any relationship, faces many challenges. Almost no relationship is not tested in the area of trust. When they occur, couples may look back and say they did nothing wrong and do not deserve this. Understanding the myriad of reasons for broken trust, the key steps to rebuilding trust and the benefits of a restored trust makes the process before a couple clear.

Reasons of Broken Trust

A variety of things attack trust. While it would be nice to think couples only need to defend one area of their relationship in a single way, the relational foundation gets destroyed by fire, flood and neglect. Let’s look at how these reasons rear their heads before addressing how to repair them.

Betrayal: Hearing betrayal, thoughts turn to matters of emotional or physical infidelity. It is a clear break of trust which should never be ignored. However, minimizing the other forms opens couples to numerous other issues. One might hide things to keep their heart safe. Perhaps they keep a secret account just in case. This betrayal burns away a storehouse of trust as any physical relationship.

General Disagreements: An erosion of trust occurs when someone continually disagrees or expresses things contrary to how they once did without any explanation. Think of this as when a river digs the earth out from under a tree on the bank exposing the roots. A partner may feel unsafe as though they need to keep certain things to themselves. This dark, dank environment does not foster an environment of trust.

Time: Neglect of trust weaken the foundation like an old covered bridge with missing boards and gaps in the roof. One is more likely to stay on their side rather than reaching out to the other person. Trust needs feeding and care from both people to keep it strong, vibrant and growing.

Key Steps to Rebuilding Trust

These points will sound simple. Often when facing the task of repairing trust, the process in more labor and time intensive than simple maintenance would have been. Take each step at face value while realizing layer exist underneath making the it important to press forward when times get tough.

* Express: Sharing thoughts and feeling become critical. A partner needs to see, hear and understand what is going on. Take time to investigate these things yourself and then share what is found there.

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* Listen and Gain Insight: Monopolizing the expression phase never builds trust. Because it is a two way street, one must listen to understand what a partner is experiencing from their side. Be quiet and still.

* Give Time and Space: Resist the urge to respond in the moment, especially to negative feedback. The first pass is often defensive and needs to be digested. Avoid rushing toward resolution as this short circuits the true growth of trust.

* Table Big Things and Circle Back: Not everything will be resolved on the first pass. If something huge comes up, acknowledge its existence, promise to return to it and then fulfill the agreement. Promises prove critical and can not be broken.

Benefits of a Trust Repaired

No one would ever say the process to repair trust would be wonderful. Several relationships never face the hard work of rebuilding. They are surrendered to the pile of broken commitments. However, every relationship needs tweaking of their trust which means there is a benefit to the act.

Stronger: A tempered sword stands against the clashing blow. A relationship, similarly forged through the fires of rebuilt trust, remains strong as outside forces attempt to beat it. Trust will give a solid spine to the relationship moving forward.

Safer: Developing a place where each party knows they can be heard allows for them to grow. With the trust of the other, a partner could take a risk because they know the net of love and trust exist to catch them when they fall.

Deeper: From a place of trust, couples love far deeper. They have set aside some of the fears they have about where they stand and who they stand with. They can encourage more and take greater risks with their own hearts.
Trust is both delicate and strong. No relationship survives for long without it. Maintaining trust can be easy and hard simultaneously. Most people rarely think far ahead to stay out of trouble where trust is concerned. This is why taking the time, care and love to rebuild what matters the most will allow couples to stand the test time.

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The Hazard of Happiness from Others

A sensation of happiness arise from countless sources like a fresh baked cookie from a parent, a great nap on a rainy day or the ideal word from the most important person in one’s life. While not bad in and of themselves, only seeking happiness from others leads to numerous complications. Romantic relationships relying solely on one another for any form of validation bring even greater issues. Understanding the reasons why this viewpoint is bad for the other person, the individual and the relationship as a whole must be understood before spotting red flag this reliance has crept into the relationship already.

Reasons It Is Bad for Them

People, even the best and most given ones, do not save other people. Placing someone in a position where they must sustain an emotional well with the potential of never being completely filled asks too much of them. This multifaceted person transforms into a conduit of the desired thing: Happiness. Consider how two dimensional it makes them. When the transition happens, then little concern arises for their needs. They stop being someone and becomes something.

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Reasons It Is Bad for You

No one has ever grown, found satisfying love or even a good friend by focusing on getting something from another person. Even in scenarios where a quid pro quo exists, the transactional nature poisons one’s ability to focus on sacrificially caring for the other person because you are not invested in them and their happiness. Outside of the relationship and the other person, it becomes harder to grow and experience things on your own due to having this great person who is there just to make you happy.

Reasons It Is Bad for the Relationship

Think about a spider’s web. No matter how large the spider or intricate their web, no one has ever witnessed them catching a bird. Relationships are similarly fragile and sticky. If one person becomes selfish and claims the lion’s share of anything, the balance gets thrown off and everything falls down. Also, it is easy for this to become a pattern without anyone realizing. When this happens, it becomes much harder to break the cycle and move forward. Both people must seek the other’s happiness and revel in the joy they receive from being with the other person.

Red Flags of Happiness Dominance

Some signs might peek around the corners letting one know this already exists. Let’s look at these concerns.

* Swinging Up and Down: Responding overly up or down when receiving happiness from one’s partner may demonstrate and overly charged link. Variations should exist in one’s emotions, but it becomes troubling when tied to a specific person and their behaviors or responses.

* Running Off Fear: Fear within in a relationships is like fast food for the body. It can be a good short term solution, but things operate poorly in such an environment. If one only feels the acidic tang on fear when not receiving happiness from their partner, the cycle may have started.

* Rudderlessness: A withdrawal of overall happiness when not supplied by one’s partner might create a sensation of being lost. The best way to identify this is when everything else seems to running well and yet not knowing where to go, what to do or how one feels overwhelms everything else.

Some of the greatest joy one can feel is in caring for another person and receiving the care in return. Watch for a growing sense of selfishness and be quick to talk to each other. This can be difficult for either individual because the temptation to say this is how love is supposed to be displayed. Healthy boundaries mean not siphoning off another person or letting them use you for their benefit. Be partners and love one another well.

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Steps to Potent Passion

Couples seek ways to fire up their lives. Often the word passion denotes a focus on the bedroom. Passion means more than strictly a physical connection.

Passion builds an existing connection. Couples without connection rarely create the heat necessary to spark deep and lasting passion. Taking the small steps permit couples to move toward greater passion and find the right spot to light the fire they need.

Changes Are Key

Routine allows couples to possess a sense of continuity in their relationship. A fine line exists between comfort and staleness. Couples who experience the same things repeatedly have tendency fall closer to complacency. They sense everything is fine and will always be that way.

This makes throwing a little variety critical to ignite passion. Step one is making a change, any change, and see where things go. Some ways to shake things up can include planning an event with a small amount of direct interaction like a concert. Travel provides an easy way to change things up by drastically altering the surroundings, entertainment options and local cuisine making passion a pleasurable byproduct.

Take More Risks

Couples looking to fire things up must do more than just change things. Making an effort by expanding their horizons offers an opening for passion to enter. Risks come in several stripes. What may sound daring to one partner may be dipping a toe in the pool for another.

Talking about what to do, how risky to be and getting comfortable with the expectations assures both people will not be uncomfortable when the time comes to jump in the water.

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One should never force their partner into things they do not want to do because nothing stifles passion like an unwilling participant. Let’s look at some guidelines for stretching the boundaries.

* Make It New for Both of You: No one should be an expert because it allow growth and comfort for both of you.
* Be Open: Saying yes, even with the possibility of appearing foolish, will generate a thrill leading to enriching passion.
* Laugh About the Mistakes: Doing something risky means things might not go perfectly and laughing about the foibles free everyone up to do it again.

Contact Is Critical

Passion grows best in an environment where every level of relational contact is present. Couples who communicate well, trust one another and connect find passion in almost everything they do. They relish the new things they experience while enjoying tasks other may find mundane.

Physical contact is more than merely sexual contact. Hand holding can occur in the grocery store or after an mud run where both people are filthy and tired. Simple touching can grow to more intimate contact. Stolen kisses linger for longer and longer making skin warm to match beating hearts.

More important than mere physical contact is a meeting of a couple’s hearts. Hearts united and open will give each person the freedom they need to share the deepest longings, desires and truths. In the cauldron of deep love, passion blazes bright. Couples are able to maintain a passion like this because of the trust they have in each other.

Passion proves best when maintained and grown over time. Phases of life exist where passion flees. Often outside circumstances rob couples of their passion.

One of the saddest days occur when a couple surrenders their passion thinking it has been lost forever when all they need is a little time and care. Take the steps necessary and jealously guard the passion between you because it is priceless.

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Too Many Break Ups

While in the midst of a series of break ups, people see them as eternal and feel as though nothing will ever change. The sensation may cause one to question if they have made the right decision.

An important thing to remember is patterns shift without warning. One might begin questioning if they have gone through too many break ups following their most recent one.

This sensation will be heightened if several have occurred within a short period of time. Spotting warning signs of a concerning trend may signify a deeper issue. Identifying them becomes critical before making any changes.

Addicted to the New

Some people crave new relationships and will end a relationship to experience something new. Those pursuing novelty may not even realize the pattern in their behavior. Let’s look at some reasons the new might appeal to a person.

* Fresh Stories: After hearing repeated tales from the same person, the seeker will get to hear things they never have. A new teller might even spice up similar stories which have grown stale.

* Loss of Interest: Those entranced by originality may tune out of the relationship when things grow familiar. With this lack, they seek something to spice things up.

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* Opportunity for Reinvention: Sometimes they also might wish to change their own narrative. As with their partner, telling one’s history grows tedious for themselves as well. They can embellish new things when they retell it to someone different.

Lacking Growth

Someone who chronically bails from the couple could believe they have reached the zenith of the relationship. Like with the quest for the new, they feel the next person possesses the correct key to unlock all their potential. A sad truth is the individual responsible for their stagnation is often not the other person. Rarely does the person ending things repeatedly have the courage to address the deeper truth. Connected to this viewpoint is how the person uses their romantic partners for their own end. Rather than embracing who they want to become and pursing the goal, they look for another person to fill the hole within themselves.

Afraid of What’s Next

Being too scared to move deeper into a committed relationship is a common problem for those who chronically terminate relationships. Most of the greatest concerns facing the couple prove more imagined than real. Commitment allows for deeper growth. Love becomes richer when couples display vulnerability with one another. One of the sad truths is such a level can only be achieved by those who remain together and unafraid of what the future holds for them.

One of the most important things to remember is too many break ups does not denote a number. A person can have a single relationship end causing them to surrender their hope of finding someone they love and who loves them. Also, the only time the number is too many is after finding the right person. Be aware of the reasons for each break up, do not fall into an unhealthy pattern and trust in the possibility of love. If you Want Him Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…

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Not Wanting Your Ex Back

Everyone possesses a fantasy where an ex comes crawling back bereft of pride longing to be accepted back. The reason this is such a prevalent dream stems from it not happening too often. If every ex wanted to reconnect, a single cycle of couples would exist. Because real life is always more complicated, one needs a plan to gracefully address how to handle the unwanted advances of an ex back.

The Initial Salvo

This generally comes out of the blue. If one remains in contact with an ex, they are fully award of what is going on and there should not be a request for reestablishing the relationship. Taking important steps at the outset are key when receiving the call, email or visit where an ex pleads to come back.

* Take Time: Just because they have formulated their thoughts and feelings does not mean one must respond in the now. Despite being tempted to shut things down immediately, asking for some time to think about what has been said will give the correct impression and allow them to feel as though their request has been seriously pondered.

* Consider the Request: While easy to think you know how you feel, you should deeply debate what is being asked. This is done to accurate assess what you feel and why. You can address their concerns in advance in later steps. Also, it might prevent you from looking foolish should you decide after a short time you want them back. It does not hurt to think things through.

The Response

Your answer will be the most fraught with tension. They have been waiting for it. You are placing yourself at risk and possibly acting as someone who could be characterized negatively. Use these as guideposts in giving your reply to the request.

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* Be firm and honest about how you feel. Being too soft will only leave the door open for another uncomfortable conversation.
* Explain things from your side. They have come to you and do not know what you think or feel, so they need to understand.
* Keep it short and kind. Acting like you could not think less of them is unnecessary. Regardless of how you feel, they were vulnerable with you, so respect them.

Resist the Push  Ex Back

After the response, your ex is likely to come back again or argue particular points. This will happen because they have already put themselves out there once and feel less concerned about doing it again. Think about all the times you have tried something challenging. After discovering you did not die and it was far easier than expected, there is less internal resistance to do it a second time.

For this reason, you will need to fight against a plan to be manipulated. Your ex might not be intending to do it, but hearing no triggers a combative response in people. They will access deep reserves. Also, they may use arguments deemed too rude or base during their opening request. You will need to rely on yourself, what you know and the inner strength you have developed.

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Loneliness versus Missing an Ex

It can be tricky to know from where feelings arise. This becomes even truer after a relationship has ended because drastic alterations may occur. Being clear on what one feels and the reason for those feelings prove necessary before pursuing love again, even with an ex. For this reason, one needs to determine some key symptoms of loneliness, missing one’s ex and differentiating between the two.

Symptoms of Loneliness:

The similarity between garden variety loneliness and severe conditions like depression exist because of their similar presentations. If asked, those who deal with depression on a regular basis might note loneliness as a component. Let’s see how loneliness might exhibit itself.

* Isolation: Those fighting with loneliness want to be alone either because they do not believe they possess the strength to interact with others or they are not worthy of being in contact with others. They might say things like they would not know why it would matter. They might be quick to blame others for feeling utterly alone.

* Controlling Activities: Loneliness sufferers seek activities they can control. Such activities like watching old shows that brought them comfort during childhood or reading a book that brought them pleasure in the past happen entirely alone. Those who interact often do so online with a bit of physical and emotional distance. One example might be playing an online co opt game where they do not have to be in the same room with someone.

* Physical Maladies: Always being tired, not sleeping well and having cold like symptoms can occur when someone feels lonely. One should know that truly physical issues are often resolved by typical behaviors. A good night’s sleep corrects feeling tired. Over the counter medication knocks out the creep of a cold. If these things persist, there might be an emotional component.

It is important to remember, even if something starts off as routine loneliness, one should not ignore an escalation of these things. When one or more of symptom persists without improvement or worsens, one should seek professional medical attention to determine if the condition has escalated to depression requiring direct medical intervention. Be smart and get help.

Symptoms of Missing an Ex

As with loneliness, the keen sense of loss is likely to create an ache. Witnessing the way these feeling manifest and empowered by certain actions helps to define them. Sometimes there are only subtle nuances.

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* Longing for Interaction: This might occur at random times. Often familiar behaviors like talking with them or sending them a text will come to mind. In some cases, one could go so far as to get the phone out before realizing it.

* Replaying Old Memories: The mind is funny because it will not hesitate to go back to pleasant things. When over an ex, this stops after a few weeks and things like pictures or recordings fail to super charge the memories. If missing them deeply, one might keep rewinding time to relive those moments.

* Emotional Bumps: When hearing news or running into an ex unexpectedly, one might get an emotional jolt. Sometimes these can be negative feelings depending on the way things were left. But after an amicable break up, ongoing love and warmth is not an unusual response.

Differentiating Between the Two

The simplest way to determine if simple loneliness or missing an ex causes one’s current state is by viewing the focus of the thoughts. Lonely people end up concentrating on themselves. They will seek to protect themselves from feeling certain things or future pain. The person longing to rekindle romance will be thinking about the other person. Granted, there can be a sense of nostalgia when considering returning to an ex. One will need to decide if they want the past or the future because one is possible and the other can never be again.

In the end, loneliness and missing someone are merely states of being. Another person will never alleviate all the things a person feels and questions about themselves. Their best hope is to see if they think they would be better entering a new relationship with the same person or letting the relationship go. Growth only happens in a forward direction, so that’s where you need to be looking.  If you Want Love Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…Click Here…

Accepting Break Up Responsibility

When a relationship ends, most people wish to move on as soon as possible due to the pain tied to the sudden loss. The temptation should be acknowledged and avoided because of the lessons possible through learning how to accept one’s role in the dissolution of the relationship and the benefits brought about by the assessment. The process will be challenging. Out of adversity, strength, compassion and sweetness can be discovered greater than powering through to the end as quickly one is able.

How to Accept Responsibility

Assess: The relationship need a complete review of the positives and negatives. This step can be facilitated by making a list. It can start on a single sheet of paper with a line down the middle. Another good way to workout the nature of the relationships would be to create a narrative or biography of the relationship. Bios of interesting people unearth the good and not so great aspects of them laying them bare for everyone to see.

Determine Your Part: Once everything is out, then some of the hardest work begins. People in relationship have a hand in every conflict. An argument could be made for certain relational impairments being more on one partner than the other like those struggling with substance abuse or chronic philandering. While true on the surface, a wise person will look for ways they may have made alterations to themselves or their response. Regardless of the seriousness of the condition, this is not about beating oneself up or saving the relationship. It is about identifying an aspect of how a person acts in relationship.

Watch for Patterns: Behaviors, especially those learned to cope with stress, follow a clear line and arise repeatedly. This does not meant they will manifest the same way every time because there will be the dynamic of a new partner. Think about someone who has difficulty with conversations about intimate matters. A pattern might be avoidance. With one person, it might be demonstrated in storming out during the conversation. While with another, one could take the offensive and distract their partner by bringing up the other person’s behaviors. In both situations, they are avoiding having a conversation that makes them uncomfortable.

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Acknowledge: Then comes the hard part of owning up to these behaviors and patterns. People often do not have a hard time admitting when they have done something wrong. It gets far trickier when having to state how those acts might have negatively impacted the relationship and possibly hobbling it. One need not overly chastise themselves or create a sense of shame about them. Acknowledge and be aware moving forward.

Benefits for You and Everyone Else, Including the Ex

This process is supremely difficult. One requires strong motivation to do the work before them. Let’s look at a couple of ways this act might help in the now and in the future.

* Understanding: By seeing how one behaves, changes can be made to improve communication with a partner.
* Stopping Things in the Moment: Short circuiting a fight by seeing a common behavior will take the pressure off.
* Seeing Yourself: Knowing one’s own foibles will allow you to extend grace to yourself, family, friends and even your ex.
* Telling on Yourself: One need not hide or create a false front when they know they screw up.
* Freeing Others: If someone sees you take responsibility, they are more likely to be open about their own shortcomings.
* Starting Change: The first step to improve things is always accepting the truth about the now before moving forward.

Ultimately, the act of accepting responsibility is hard. No one would ever say it was anything else. Because of the challenge, one needs strength and persistence. The good news is it gets easier and often the hardest thing is to get started. So get started now because it will be better once you do. If you Want Him Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one tryingClick Here…

Pitfalls of Trying to Buy Love

Movies create the expectation with enough money one can have whatever they want. While this may appear true in a capitalistic society where it seems everything is for sale, the capturing of another person’s heart refuses to fall into this category. One needs to avoid the temptation because of false expectations, lack of validity and subtle forms of this behavior place more than a bank account at risk. They weave into a single chain designed to yank the truth of love out of the hands of the person so desperate for its caress.

Unsustainable False Expectations of love.

Love has always been uncontrollable. When someone starts a relationship using their resources to sweep the other person off their feet, a standard is set. Imagine meeting someone who speaks with a flawless accent causing everything they say to drip with honey. After a short time, their partner hears them speaking on the phone with a family member and not using an accent at all. Is this a terrible betrayal? In the grand scheme of things, not really, but it creates a sense of creeping doubt about other things. The same can occur with trying to buy the love of someone.


Also, life is far too unstable to use money or status to impress another person. Markets turn. Businesses fold. And sometimes spent accounts may not regenerate. Think of someone who relies heavily on their appearance and never stretches to increase their level of intellect or compassion. They eventually have to seek where their true value lies. Same for the person who sees monetary support as the only thing they bring to the table.

Knowing the Truth

The fragility of love means everyone questions how it all fits together. Inherit in this is why the person they are with loves them. When using money to charm another person, the doubt and questions swirl higher and higher like a windstorm ready to tear everything apart.

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It might seem this is only a problem for the one spending on their partner. The one being wooed in this manner does have questions lurking in the background of their mind as well. They will wonder why this person behaves the way they do. Doubt will creep into their hearts as to what their true value when they are unable to respond in kind. This creates a pressure which could snap the relationship in two.

Sneaky Ways It Can Happen

The funny thing about the arrangement is the subtle the forms it may take. Rarely, if ever, does one person write a giant check and purchase the other person’s heart. Considered in that light, the prospect sounds like something from a cartoon. But seeing more realistic ways the dynamic plays out shows how anyone is capable regardless of their age, sex and financial standing fall into the trap.

* Gift Shower: Near endless presents for a variety of reasons or no reason at all.

* Paying Debts: Offering or even paying for credit cards, living expenses or traffic tickets without the presence of a strong commitment to moving forward says to the other person “I’m taking care of you” in a possessive way.

* Covering the Check: While chivalrousness at the beginning, couples growing closer begin sharing entertainment and dining costs. Continuing or doing more falls closer to a purchase of love rather than building a partnership.

Love is complicated even in the best relationships.

With that said, true love is never bought and paid for. Anyone practicing this form of relational building is only getting the portion of the other person’s heart by renting time, attention and possibly their affection. Love must grow in the open air by taking care of the other person, investing in them and giving things from a place of genuine care for them. This grants real love a chance moving forward. If you Want Love Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…Click Here…


The easiest signal of infidelity

Cheating, in all its forms, can be tricky to spot. The person entering into infidelity may be saying so in a quiet whisper because everyone learns to hide things from those in their life. Only by studying the changes a partner goes through can the undercurrent of an affair be pulled out of the darkness and into the light.

Changes invade multiple facets of a persons life. Eventually, the variations from the previous person become so drastic they cannot be ignored. This makes alterations and their motivations the clearest signal some thing below the surface has changed within a partner. Once noticed, the other person needs to begin asking questions to discover what lies beneath. Let’s look at some areas of change.

Physical signals of infidelity

Though cliche, this is often the easiest to spot. The person is putting their change on display for everyone to see. Things will compound as things progress.

Physical Body: Weight loss is common. Early on, they might state health as the key reason. While possibly accurate, pay attention what follows their reaching a healthy weight. They might try to stretch things.

Personal Style: Changes in dress, as with the body, might not occur all at once. Updating one’s style is not out of the ordinary. However, a swing into a more professional or youthful style outside of the parameters of their day to day life may mean their getting encouragement elsewhere to try something outside their comfort zone.

Modifications: The most extreme of the physical changes often begin with conversational hints. Mentioning a style of tattoo they like or the possibility of getting an elective surgery without any context or history is cause for concern.

Mental signals of infidelity

As the body is overt when changes happen, the mind can hide its changes. Some people enjoy the challenge of learning a new language, experience a different cuisine or going to a conference for unrelated interests. Most people need to be motivated to learn, grow and change their mind.

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* Know Who They Are: One needs to know if their partner is naturally drawn to learning and self improvement.
* What Brought Them There: Even learners feel a reason to change and that motivation should be explained.
* See If They’ll Share: True learners want to discuss or even bring their partner along, so hiding this part of their life is a red flag.

Emotional signals of infidelity

The heart possesses the most shrouds of all. Sometimes the persons does not know their own heart. It can be twisted into knots or hide the truth from even the owner. One of the things making this hard for everyone involved centers around the state of the current relationship. If fleeing to an affair, the person may not feel able to be entirely open. Listening to what they say and unsolicited feedback from those outside the relationship can show how they are changing. Also, checking the emotional temperature and expressing one’s heart to the possible cheater may cause them to unconsciously open up. Treading lightly in this area is critical because of the embedded mystery in everyone.

Being alert and in communication brings these changes to light much sooner. Once aware of them, one must avoid the temptation to sweep them under the rug and pretend everything will be fine without any intervention. Pain may be an outcome of discovering a partner has made changes for another person. But it is better to find out early rather than living in a web of untruth and betrayal. Be brave, ask hard questions and check your own motivations to help gain the love you long for.  If you Want Love Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…Click Here…