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Communication and Money-The Importance of Keeping Her Trust

When Connie got home from work, she was already exhausted from a long day of meetings. She’d left the high-pressure world of event planning sales behind to get into nonprofit work.

She loved the challenge of raising money for her charity, and her job as a development director allowed her to leverage some of her former business relationships into new donors.

On this particular day, though, her executive director was worried about finances and had really called her on the carpet, even though she was already 22% over budget for the current fiscal year.

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It didn’t help matters when she got home and opened a letter from the Internal Revenue Service, addressed to her and her husband Bob. When she opened it, she was shocked to see that they owed the IRS more than $7,000 in back taxes.

Bob did some freelance writing work in addition to his job as a teacher, and it looked like he hadn’t been making payments on his freelance income. And he certainly hadn’t told her about this.

She slammed the letter down on the kitchen island, punched his number into her cell phone, and tore into him when he answered the phone.

Why was Connie so mad? $7,000 is a lot of money, but it’s not the end of the world. Bob had also been taking out payday loans and other short-term credit lately, and instead of telling Connie that he was short with his side of their bills, he had just been making poor financial decisions that was costing them a lot in interest.

The worst part for Connie, though, was that Bob hadn’t told her anything.

Bob’s excuse was that he didn’t want Connie to worry. She was a cancer survivor — had been cancer-free for almost seven years by that point — but her cancer had cost her her thyroid, and she had developed epilepsy as a side effect of the radiation treatment that her oncologist had used on a small tumor in her skull.

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Money and relationships

So Connie was often exhausted at the end of the work week, spending some of her Saturdays and Sundays in bed just to get ready for the next week. Bob felt guilty about this and wanted to let her think he could handle things on his own.

Of course, he couldn’t, and he was digging a bigger and bigger financial hole for himself — and for her, since their taxes were filed jointly. Now there was a huge hole in the middle of their relationship, created by the simple fact that he couldn’t be trusted about money.

What should Bob have done instead? The problem with their finances began about a year and a half ago, when his health insurance (which also covered her) went up by 22 percent.

She also had dropped back from full time to part time work because of some fatigue and stress from her former job. He felt like he needed to do everything himself, but he simply couldn’t.

He should have told her about the problem and perhaps could have gone to family members for some short-term help. The bottom line: Connie was getting the message that he didn’t trust her as a partner, and she felt a complete lack of financial security as a result. She also felt like their relationship was worthless without that trust.

Now, Bob and Connie sit down weekly and talk about the upcoming week in finances as well as longer-term strategies. It’s not always comfortable for either one of them, but they no longer have trust issues with money.

Bob even decided to look for a corporate job at the end of the school year to boost his income, and he wouldn’t have had the confidence to do that without talking to Connie.

So the crisis turned into a win-win for them. If you and your loved one are in a similar mess, trusting each other with the truth is the best way to begin a new path for your relationship.

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Top 7 Tips For Getting Your Lover Back

Is getting your lover back what you really want?

Do you truly miss this person’s mind, body, and soul? Or do you simply want them back because you want what you no longer have? See the difference?

Regardless of how you are currently feeling, now is the time to assess the situation objectively and figure it out without letting your emotions get in the way.

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Look at the big picture of you and your ex – past and present. Now, take yourself (and your emotions) out of the picture. What advice would you give yourself about your current situation?

Understandably, this is somewhat difficult to do when you are drowning in a river of tears. But if you can get to this point, you will be able to clearly see what you should do; make up or move on. If you decide to reconcile with your ex, follow these steps to increase your chances of success.

1. Maintain Your Dignity and Do Not Beg

Extreme begging or desperate behavior will only make you look pathetic in the eyes of your ex lover. Also, this may induce feelings of resentment later on. How would you feel if they did this to you? This is the wrong approach. At all costs maintain your dignity.

2. If Need Be, Apologize to Your Lover

Are you one of these people that never apologize or admit when they are wrong? If so, you need to come clean and swallow your pride. Chances are you’ll probably be instantly forgiven by getting off your high-horse, coming down to Earth, and actually saying sorry for whatever it is you did. Not only that, your ex will likely be blown away and see you in a whole new light (respect).

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Lover

3. Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Talk is cheap, while actions demonstrate motivation. Therefore, stop telling your ex how much you’ve changed – show them. Promises are just dust in the wind if you don’t put action behind them – especially if your ex has heard it all before.

4. Emotional Blackmail Never Works

It may not feel like it right now, but you can live just fine without your ex lover. Letting your emotions get completely out of control and using them against your ex with threats and/or manipulations will likely send them running in the other direction. Also, it will highlight the exact reasons why you’re probably having problems in the first place. Do you want to reunite with someone who is sincere and hopeful about making up with you, or with someone who feels negatively pressured into reconciling with you?

5. Stop Playing Games

Playing games such as pretending you’re with someone new in order to make your ex jealous or even something creepy like stalking, will not bring your lover back. This may backfire once you do get back together and may ultimately harm their feelings of trust in you.

6. Romance Your Way Back to Your Lover

By all appearances, romancing your ex with the intention of getting them back can seem a bit manipulative. However, if performed with a sincere and genuine heart, by all means go for it. Send your ex authentic love letters, gifts you know they will enjoy, or simply remind them of the good times you two once shared. Do not focus on what went wrong, but rather what went right. Remind them either through words or actions the reasons you two got together that initially sparked your attraction to one another.

7. Let Go of the Past

Whatever the reasons were for the breakup (whether you walked away or them), you have to let it go. Let the past go or you will never have a future. People change. Nobody’s perfect. What’s done is done. Forgive and move forward to increase your chances of a loving reunion.

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You are going to be fine no matter what. Truly, you must make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy. Also, if getting your ex back means they are unwilling to meet you halfway, then perhaps it’s time to say goodbye. No relationship is worth sacrificing your soul or happiness.

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How To Earn Respect In a Relationship

Mutual respect is an important pillar for a successful, joyful relationship. Many relationships fail because there’s a lack of respect between the partners. Respect is conferred to a person only when they deserve it, and typically must be earned in the eyes of the other person. The following are some ways through which you can earn the respect of your partner:

Take Care of Yourself in your relationship

Men are highly visual creatures. They are attracted to women they find visually pleasing and will try to respect her in every possible way in order to win her attention and company. The more you take care of yourself, the more respect he’ll have for you.

Don’t be Afraid to be Independent even in a relationship

This includes self-rule, self-determination, self-reliance and self-sufficiency. It is a must-have element for both parties entering a relationship. You’ll both need some degree of freedom to keep yourr sanity and as a safeguard against some unavoidable changes, such as a break-up or even the death of a partner.

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You should not completely give up living your life just because you have a partner; it’s sad that some people entering a relationship behave as if it is the end of their life. Living your own life and finding the areas where you complement your partner is the best thing to do. Self reliance earns you more respect than coming across as needy and clingy.

Display Self Confidence

This means poise and assurance, that is, believing in yourself. Cultivate composure, self-control and dignity in the way you carry yourself. People who are not confident are often insecure and timid. That can make them a target for people who take advantage of others when given the opportunity. On the other hand they tend to respect those people who are sure of themselves and appear to possess self control.

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Respect

Be honest

Honesty remains to be the best policy in any relationship. If you are always 100% honest, you cannot go wrong and your partner will always trust you. Unfaithfulness in a relationship is one of the hardest things to overcome but by being honest you will win over your partner’s trust even in trivial things.

Keep your word

A sure way to lose your partner’s respect is to fail to keep your word. If you say you will do something, make every effort to do it. If circumstances out of your control prevent you from keeping your word, apologize, even if it wasn’t technically your fault. And do this for friends and family, not just your partner. His respect for you will grow when he sees how well you treat other people besides him.

Give praise when it is deserved

Make every effort to notice helpful things that your partner does for you. Being genuinely appreciative for these things and approving your partner will improve your relationship radically. Don’t put a limit on your praise, everybody wants and needs that “pat on the back” for a job well done. Men will often not get it in the workplace, so it’s critical that they get well deserved praise at home.

Respect your partner in your relationship

As mentioned at the beginning of this article, mutual respect is a cornerstone for a solid relationship foundation. You’ll find it much harder to stay in a long term commitment with a partner you don’t respect. And so will he.

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Should you ever spend a night with your ex?

To most people a one night stand is like a trophy. Being able to sleep with someone for just one night and then separate without any attachment whatsoever is a tricky task.

You get to indulge in the finer things in life without having to deal with the complicated process of forming a relationship. But where do you draw the line when it comes to one night stands?

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Of all the people you could have a one night stand with, an ex is one of the most complicated. In the heat of the moment you may find yourself about to hook up with someone you thought you were never going to be with again.

If all goes well, it can be quite the treat. There is always the possibility however, that it will not. To avoid unnecessary drama in your life, there are a few things you should consider before hooking up with an ex, even for “old times’ sake”.

Is Anything Clouding Your Judgement?

This is the first thing you should always ask yourself if you are considering this situation. Hooking up with your ex can lead to a landslide of regret the following morning if you realize it’s not something you really wanted to do.

If you are under the influence of any drugs or alcohol your decision making skills take a back seat and impulse and desire take over the wheel. Many impaired people let their clouded judgement take control and forget to think over consequences.

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Date night

If you know there is a possibility of hooking up with your ex, make sure you have considered it with a completely sober mindset first.

Consider Why You Broke Up To Begin With

It is hard to define whether or not you should have a one night stand with your ex since it is so circumstantial. Certain people have no problem doing it and with others it leads to turmoil.
Analyze the way your relationship was and think about why it ended. Which one of you wanted to end it? Did you split up on good terms?

If you were the one that wanted to break it off, you should find out whether or not your ex still has feelings for you. They could be expecting something much different to come from the one night stand.

You don’t want to hook up with them if it means you will end up breaking their heart all over again. To solve this issue, make it clear that it is only a one night deal. If you are both mature about it with control of your feelings, it could be fine.

Think About What You Are Looking For

The last thing to do before you hook up with an ex is to find out why you are doing it. Analyze the motives behind your actions before making the big decision.

Do you want to do it purely for the sex? If this is the case than why did you choose your ex? There are plenty of other new experiences laying ahead of you that you could be exploring.

If you are doing it purely for the comfort of being with someone you know, make sure you keep it strictly physical with minimal emotions.

But perhaps you are doing it for another reason. Is the one night stand motivated by a desire to be with them? If so, then why pick a one night stand? If the desire is strong enough, talk to your ex about your feelings and find out where they stand to see if your feelings match up.

Just be aware, if they are looking for sex and you are looking for a relationship, you could end up getting hurt. With all this in mind, deciding whether or not to hook up with your ex will be a lot easier. Before you make a final decision, prepare yourself for the fact that one night stands can toy with emotions before making your decision. Analyze the motives of you and your partner and just to be safe, make a set of rules that define the night as a one time thing.

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Get Your Boyfriend Back – The Right Way to the Perfect Reconciliation

When you’ve been dumped out of the blue by the guy you know is Mr. Right, the one thing you want more than anything else in the world is to get your boyfriend back.

Unfortunately, the logistics of exactly how to do that are a little harder to lock down than you expect. But, there is a bit of a silver lining to consider.

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In most situations, you still have a little bit of time on your hands to work on winning him back. That’s right. All is not lost — at least not yet.

You still have a chance to get your boyfriend back. Here’s what you need to do.

Get Your Boyfriend Back -Hold Your Head Up High

Most women in your situation lock themselves up for days or weeks on end. They cut themselves off from the world and hide.

Don’t let this happen to you. You broke up. It wasn’t your choice. You weren’t the bad guy (well, GIRL). You have NOTHING to be ashamed of.

If you lock yourself away you’re letting him think you’re crying your heart out over him. Even if you are doing more than your fair share of crying, you don’t want HIM to know.

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Boyfriend back

Going out and rejoining the world with your head high gives him pause. It makes him wonder why you aren’t crying in corner.

It forces HIM to turn his thoughts to YOU! This is a very good thing as far as getting him back goes.

Get Your Boyfriend Back -Invest in Yourself

Now is a great time to invest in YOU! A breakup is a big change in your life. While it may not be the type of change you were hoping for or one you can get excited about, change is not, at its core a bad thing.

What kind of changes should you make? You want to focus on changes that are improvements — changes that make you FEEL better. Empowering changes. Confidence-boosting changes.
1) Makeover
2) Wardrobe update
3) New hairstyle
4) Education
5) Employment
6) Career/Personal coaching
7) Self-help books and recordings
8) Dietary and nutrition changes
9) Fitness and health changes

While it may seem that these changes are all about him, they’re really all about you. If you want to get HIM back, you must approach the process from a position of power.

You can’t return to him on your knees begging for a second chance. If you still want to get your boyfriend back after you’ve done these things then you walk in the door, with your head held high, and fully understanding that you are worth a second chance.

Once you fully understand your contribution to the relationship and the value you add to his life, he’ll have no choice but to recognize it too. If he doesn’t, then he never really deserved you in the first place.

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Things Women Really Love from their Men

Relationships are a series of good times and bad. The key is in making the good times exceptional and brief.

Doing this makes the bad times increasingly rare, briefer every time, and helps to maintain a little bit of brightness when they arrive.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Small Tokens of Affection

No, you don’t have to break the break. We’re not talking about tokens along the lines of Ertha Kitt’s infamous Christmas list.

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The big gifts in life might light a fire in the eyes of the woman you love. But, it’s the little things that melt her heart and bind her to you in ways no sable coats ever will.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Cuddle Time

Women like to cuddle. Not as a form of foreplay, but simply as a sign of affection. Holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and laying with her feet (or head) in your lap are perfect.

They are all signs of casual intimacy and love that MATTER to her in a really big way. It’s a small gesture on your part that carrier massive weight in her heart.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Hearing those Three Magic Words

You know what they are. You’ve probably said them to her dozens of times. You’ve probably not said them to her even more. The thing is, she NEEDS to hear them.

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Love

Those words mean the world to her because they reinforce her position in YOUR world. Tell her “I love you!” and watch how her face just lights up at the reminder.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Your Approval

The other thing your woman needs from you more than you’ll ever know or understand is your approval. Give it to her.

Tell her she looks great tonight. Even if she “dismisses” it with something along the lines of a questioning “This old thing,” she is secretly tickled and extremely pleased to hear it.

She works hard to look good for you, prepare good food for you to eat, and keep your house in great shape. Acknowledge her efforts and you’ll be rewarded with a very happy girlfriend, wife, or partner on your hands.

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Being Asked on a Date

When was the last time you threw caution to the wind and asked her out on a date? Not asking her, “Do you wanna go do something?” But, asking her on an actual date. A date you’ve planned out ahead of time?

Things Women Really Love from their Men: Have you ever done this?

If not, now is the time. It will rock her world and melt her heart even more. Try it! You’re going to love the results!

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The Secret you need to know to get your ex back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

 

Are You Being Too Agreeable for Love to Last?

Most people reading this will not think it’s possible to have a partner that’s too agreeable. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that two different personalities will eventually get on each other’s nerves. It’s a fact of life, when two people occupy the same space, they will occasionally overstep boundaries, hurt feelings, or simply make one another madder than the hatter in Alice in Wonderland. The people you love most often drive you the craziest.

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Arguing, in these situations is a normal response. On occasion, there may even be dish flinging, clothes throwing, knock down drag out kinds of disagreements (often followed by mind-blowing making-up sessions). It’s normal to fight. It’s even natural. What isn’t natural, in relationships, is to always agree or never fight. Arguments are important tools in relationships. They do more than just let off a little steam. Here are a few reasons why you need to have the occasional argument in your relationship.

Arguments Clear the Air

They are important tools for letting your partner know how you really feel. IN relationships where couples never fight, it’s often the first fight, the one that reveals all the pent up frustrations, hurt, and anger, that result in the ending of that relationship. Arguments let the other person know when how you feel, how you’re hurting, and what to avoid in the future.
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Arguments

Arguments Show Engagement in the Relationship

They certainly bring an element of excitement into the relationship. They let your partner know you’re there and hold nothing back. They show that you are passionately involved in the relationship and that you do care. They serve as a barometer for the level of affection in the relationship, in many cases, and are important tools for your partner to understand how vested in the relationship you really are.

Arguments Establish Important Issues for Both of You

We all know there are hot-button political and religious issues that should not be discussed in polite society. The same holds true when it comes to relationships. Those topics aren’t always as clearly defined as religion and politics. In some relationships it’s cooking, mechanical abilities (did anyone else notice how Jill on Home Improvement always quietly called in a professional once Tim finished fixing things?), family, friends, or even politics and religion.
Once you establish that these are hot topics for you by having that first heated argument, you know to back off and avoid discussing the issue. Sometimes, you must agree to disagree. But, if you never let your partner know how you really feel and how important the issue is for you, then he or she is likely to keep discussing it causing your blood to boil. Unless you let your partner know how you feel, your partner is going to assume you agree.
Don’t let your first fight be the final blow for your relationship. Learn to speak up and let your partner know what you really think and feel. Most important of all, learn to fight fair so that the disagreements and arguments you do have are productive rather than destructive.

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The Secret you need to know to get your ex back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

Great Expectations – Are They Ruining Your Romance?

It’s great to have high expectations of what life is going to be like when you’re sharing it with the person who is the love of your life. Unfortunately, many people have dreams and expectations that are simply unobtainable. Whether it comes from reading romance novels where the hero also realizes the error of his ways and gives in to the heroine’s every whim, or, on the other side of the coin, from watching rap videos where women are throwing themselves at the feet of men ready to cater to their every whim.

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As a society, we’re giving mixed messages between fantasy and reality and it’s ruining more than its fair share of romances. If your relationship is becoming a bitter disappointment because it isn’t meeting up to your expectations here are a few things it might help you to remember.

Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Others

Whether you’re comparing your relationship to real relationships other people have (what you see of those relationships anyway) or something in novels or on television screens, you’re doing your relationship a huge disservice. Reality can never live up to fiction and you’re only seeing the public side of other relationships. You’re not privy to what’s going on behind closed doors.
Romantic expectations
Romantic expectations

Establish Realistic Expectations

The truth is that we all have expectations of life that rarely live up to reality. When it comes to relationships, learning to compromise and have expectations that are more realistic can make a world of difference when it comes to how happy you are with your partner. Both of you have areas where there is room for improvement. Identify them and make changes where appropriate.

Learn to Speak Up When It’s Important

The other problem regarding expectations arises when you fail to speak up when something is really important to you. Your partner can’t meet your needs if he or she isn’t aware of them. You must speak up and let your partner know what’s going on in your head and in your heart. You can’t hold the other person in the equation responsible for unknown variables. It’s not fair to either of you or your relationship.
It doesn’t seem like such a big deal at first glance. However, adjusting your expectations just a little bit, in order to meet your partner in the middle, can make a world of different to your happiness with the relationship and with your partner.

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If you’ll take my hand, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your ex back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…

The Secret you need to know to get your ex back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

Can You Buy Your Lover Back?

Have you ever resorted to expensive gifts to make up for major misdeeds in the course of your relationship? Many men offer costly gifts to the women they love in hopes of smoothing things over and making it right. It may have started out with flowers and chocolates. Over time, the practice escalated to expensive jewelry, cars, homes, and vacations. The bigger the misdeed, the bigger the buyoff.
Unfortunately, this practice often does more harm for the relationship than good. The relationship becomes a series of highs and lows with each one attempting to outdo the other. Eventually, you’re either out of money or in debt so big that even more problems are being created. All the while, nothing is getting solved. It’s just being temporarily swept underneath the discarded ribbons, bows, and tissue paper.
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Lover
Here are a few questions to help you get a handle on your gift buying tendencies whenever relationship problems arise.

How Much Will it Really Cost to Buy Your Lover Back?

The costs are not always measured in dollars and cents. Men, especially, will gladly pay the price in dollars to avoid the emotional confrontation required to deal with the real, underlying problem in the relationship. Buying gifts provides a quick, albeit temporary, fix for a problem they don’t really want to face. The thing is, the problem is still there the next time mistakes are made and the price tag for avoidance keeps getting bigger and bigger every single time.

How Much Have You Spent Already to get Your Lover Back ?

The other point to consider is this. How much money have you already spent trying to delay the inevitable? The longer you attempt to put it off, the harder it’s going to be to deal with when the time comes. It’s kind of like an onion. The core problem is still there. Unfortunately, you’re going to have to go in and peel each individual layer, uncovering new problems and hurt feelings along the way, to get to the heart of the matter when the time does arrive to fix the problem or walk away. That money could solve many problems you’re having and would have likely been much better spent building your future together rather than covering up the “sins of the past.”
How much can you really afford to spend? This is the final question for many men in your shoes. There’s never really enough, is there? Love is something that can’t be bought. Forgiveness can’t really be purchased either. Women may joke about it, but the truth is they’d rather fix the problems and save the relationship the old-fashioned way than through gifts and bribes. She’s MUCH rather receive gifts from you as tokens of love from you instead of buyoffs for her affections.

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The Secret you need to know to get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

6 Strategic Moves You Need to Make to Get Her Back

All’s fair in love and war. Believe me, when love is on the skids, it certainly feels like war. We all know that the army with superior forces and sound strategies is the most certain of victors in any war. The same holds true when the war is for the heart of someone who has taken her heart back. These strategic moves are sure to improve your odds.

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1) Give her space. It may sound counter-intuitive at the moment, but it’s important to give her a little breathing room to figure out what it is that she really wants. Give it to her.
2) Be absent from her life. She’ll never realize how much you mean to her or how much she misses having you around if you’re always there for her when she needs you. This is not the way to win her back. It’s rewarding her by giving her all the best of you without requiring the same from her in return. That’s not how successful relationships work.
3) Make her come to you. Don’t call, text, email, visit, etc. Don’t go to her. Instead, wait. Then, make her come to you. Let her be the one who sees that breaking up was a mistake. Let her figure out just how much she really does miss having you in her life. Let her come to you.
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Get her back
4) Don’t be overly eager. In fact, work very hard on your composure. Practice what you’ll say if you run into her. Work on the words, the phrases, and the overall message you want to send. Make sure she knows you’re doing just fine without her in your life.
5) Show the world you haven’t fallen apart. Women like strong men, no matter what they tell you. It may be that you have a girl who enjoys your sensitive side, but thousands of years of history show that women are attracted to men of strength, especially in times of adversity. Don’t fall apart. More importantly, don’t let the word spread if you do fall apart after the initial breakup.
6) Stop pretending to be someone you’re not in hopes of getting her back. Any ground you gain by pretending will be lost quickly once you begin dating again. You can’t pretend forever. She’ll eventually see through the exterior. If you want to make real, lasting changes, that’s great. Don’t pretend, however, that you’ve changed core things about yourself just for the sake of winning her back. It doesn’t serve either of you in the end and can set you back even further in your efforts to win her heart all over again.
Come up with a plan before you make your next move, if you haven’t made on already. If you’ve already made a few mistakes trying to get her back, take this time to step back and come up with a strategy before making your next move. Remember these strategies to help you get her back as well.

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