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Steps to Potent Passion

Couples seek ways to fire up their lives. Often the word passion denotes a focus on the bedroom. Passion means more than strictly a physical connection.

Passion builds an existing connection. Couples without connection rarely create the heat necessary to spark deep and lasting passion. Taking the small steps permit couples to move toward greater passion and find the right spot to light the fire they need.

Changes Are Key

Routine allows couples to possess a sense of continuity in their relationship. A fine line exists between comfort and staleness. Couples who experience the same things repeatedly have tendency fall closer to complacency. They sense everything is fine and will always be that way.

This makes throwing a little variety critical to ignite passion. Step one is making a change, any change, and see where things go. Some ways to shake things up can include planning an event with a small amount of direct interaction like a concert. Travel provides an easy way to change things up by drastically altering the surroundings, entertainment options and local cuisine making passion a pleasurable byproduct.

Take More Risks

Couples looking to fire things up must do more than just change things. Making an effort by expanding their horizons offers an opening for passion to enter. Risks come in several stripes. What may sound daring to one partner may be dipping a toe in the pool for another.

Talking about what to do, how risky to be and getting comfortable with the expectations assures both people will not be uncomfortable when the time comes to jump in the water.

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One should never force their partner into things they do not want to do because nothing stifles passion like an unwilling participant. Let’s look at some guidelines for stretching the boundaries.

* Make It New for Both of You: No one should be an expert because it allow growth and comfort for both of you.
* Be Open: Saying yes, even with the possibility of appearing foolish, will generate a thrill leading to enriching passion.
* Laugh About the Mistakes: Doing something risky means things might not go perfectly and laughing about the foibles free everyone up to do it again.

Contact Is Critical

Passion grows best in an environment where every level of relational contact is present. Couples who communicate well, trust one another and connect find passion in almost everything they do. They relish the new things they experience while enjoying tasks other may find mundane.

Physical contact is more than merely sexual contact. Hand holding can occur in the grocery store or after an mud run where both people are filthy and tired. Simple touching can grow to more intimate contact. Stolen kisses linger for longer and longer making skin warm to match beating hearts.

More important than mere physical contact is a meeting of a couple’s hearts. Hearts united and open will give each person the freedom they need to share the deepest longings, desires and truths. In the cauldron of deep love, passion blazes bright. Couples are able to maintain a passion like this because of the trust they have in each other.

Passion proves best when maintained and grown over time. Phases of life exist where passion flees. Often outside circumstances rob couples of their passion.

One of the saddest days occur when a couple surrenders their passion thinking it has been lost forever when all they need is a little time and care. Take the steps necessary and jealously guard the passion between you because it is priceless.

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Too Many Break Ups

While in the midst of a series of break ups, people see them as eternal and feel as though nothing will ever change. The sensation may cause one to question if they have made the right decision.

An important thing to remember is patterns shift without warning. One might begin questioning if they have gone through too many break ups following their most recent one.

This sensation will be heightened if several have occurred within a short period of time. Spotting warning signs of a concerning trend may signify a deeper issue. Identifying them becomes critical before making any changes.

Addicted to the New

Some people crave new relationships and will end a relationship to experience something new. Those pursuing novelty may not even realize the pattern in their behavior. Let’s look at some reasons the new might appeal to a person.

* Fresh Stories: After hearing repeated tales from the same person, the seeker will get to hear things they never have. A new teller might even spice up similar stories which have grown stale.

* Loss of Interest: Those entranced by originality may tune out of the relationship when things grow familiar. With this lack, they seek something to spice things up.

Couple Beside Body of Water during Daytime
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* Opportunity for Reinvention: Sometimes they also might wish to change their own narrative. As with their partner, telling one’s history grows tedious for themselves as well. They can embellish new things when they retell it to someone different.

Lacking Growth

Someone who chronically bails from the couple could believe they have reached the zenith of the relationship. Like with the quest for the new, they feel the next person possesses the correct key to unlock all their potential. A sad truth is the individual responsible for their stagnation is often not the other person. Rarely does the person ending things repeatedly have the courage to address the deeper truth. Connected to this viewpoint is how the person uses their romantic partners for their own end. Rather than embracing who they want to become and pursing the goal, they look for another person to fill the hole within themselves.

Afraid of What’s Next

Being too scared to move deeper into a committed relationship is a common problem for those who chronically terminate relationships. Most of the greatest concerns facing the couple prove more imagined than real. Commitment allows for deeper growth. Love becomes richer when couples display vulnerability with one another. One of the sad truths is such a level can only be achieved by those who remain together and unafraid of what the future holds for them.

One of the most important things to remember is too many break ups does not denote a number. A person can have a single relationship end causing them to surrender their hope of finding someone they love and who loves them. Also, the only time the number is too many is after finding the right person. Be aware of the reasons for each break up, do not fall into an unhealthy pattern and trust in the possibility of love. If you Want Him Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…

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Not Wanting Your Ex Back

Everyone possesses a fantasy where an ex comes crawling back bereft of pride longing to be accepted back. The reason this is such a prevalent dream stems from it not happening too often. If every ex wanted to reconnect, a single cycle of couples would exist. Because real life is always more complicated, one needs a plan to gracefully address how to handle the unwanted advances of an ex back.

The Initial Salvo

This generally comes out of the blue. If one remains in contact with an ex, they are fully award of what is going on and there should not be a request for reestablishing the relationship. Taking important steps at the outset are key when receiving the call, email or visit where an ex pleads to come back.

* Take Time: Just because they have formulated their thoughts and feelings does not mean one must respond in the now. Despite being tempted to shut things down immediately, asking for some time to think about what has been said will give the correct impression and allow them to feel as though their request has been seriously pondered.

* Consider the Request: While easy to think you know how you feel, you should deeply debate what is being asked. This is done to accurate assess what you feel and why. You can address their concerns in advance in later steps. Also, it might prevent you from looking foolish should you decide after a short time you want them back. It does not hurt to think things through.

The Response

Your answer will be the most fraught with tension. They have been waiting for it. You are placing yourself at risk and possibly acting as someone who could be characterized negatively. Use these as guideposts in giving your reply to the request.

Rear View of Couple Sitting on Beach
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* Be firm and honest about how you feel. Being too soft will only leave the door open for another uncomfortable conversation.
* Explain things from your side. They have come to you and do not know what you think or feel, so they need to understand.
* Keep it short and kind. Acting like you could not think less of them is unnecessary. Regardless of how you feel, they were vulnerable with you, so respect them.

Resist the Push  Ex Back

After the response, your ex is likely to come back again or argue particular points. This will happen because they have already put themselves out there once and feel less concerned about doing it again. Think about all the times you have tried something challenging. After discovering you did not die and it was far easier than expected, there is less internal resistance to do it a second time.

For this reason, you will need to fight against a plan to be manipulated. Your ex might not be intending to do it, but hearing no triggers a combative response in people. They will access deep reserves. Also, they may use arguments deemed too rude or base during their opening request. You will need to rely on yourself, what you know and the inner strength you have developed.

Telling someone no in any context is hard. This is why we couch so many things with language designed to soften the blow. In this setting, your firmness is the kindest thing you can offer to your ex while being careful not to dip into cruelty. If you care about them, you will release them and yourself to a future free of second guessing. If you Want Him Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…Click Here…

Loneliness versus Missing an Ex

It can be tricky to know from where feelings arise. This becomes even truer after a relationship has ended because drastic alterations may occur. Being clear on what one feels and the reason for those feelings prove necessary before pursuing love again, even with an ex. For this reason, one needs to determine some key symptoms of loneliness, missing one’s ex and differentiating between the two.

Symptoms of Loneliness:

The similarity between garden variety loneliness and severe conditions like depression exist because of their similar presentations. If asked, those who deal with depression on a regular basis might note loneliness as a component. Let’s see how loneliness might exhibit itself.

* Isolation: Those fighting with loneliness want to be alone either because they do not believe they possess the strength to interact with others or they are not worthy of being in contact with others. They might say things like they would not know why it would matter. They might be quick to blame others for feeling utterly alone.

* Controlling Activities: Loneliness sufferers seek activities they can control. Such activities like watching old shows that brought them comfort during childhood or reading a book that brought them pleasure in the past happen entirely alone. Those who interact often do so online with a bit of physical and emotional distance. One example might be playing an online co opt game where they do not have to be in the same room with someone.

* Physical Maladies: Always being tired, not sleeping well and having cold like symptoms can occur when someone feels lonely. One should know that truly physical issues are often resolved by typical behaviors. A good night’s sleep corrects feeling tired. Over the counter medication knocks out the creep of a cold. If these things persist, there might be an emotional component.

It is important to remember, even if something starts off as routine loneliness, one should not ignore an escalation of these things. When one or more of symptom persists without improvement or worsens, one should seek professional medical attention to determine if the condition has escalated to depression requiring direct medical intervention. Be smart and get help.

Symptoms of Missing an Ex

As with loneliness, the keen sense of loss is likely to create an ache. Witnessing the way these feeling manifest and empowered by certain actions helps to define them. Sometimes there are only subtle nuances.

Couple Standing in the Seashore Hugging Each Other during Sunset

* Longing for Interaction: This might occur at random times. Often familiar behaviors like talking with them or sending them a text will come to mind. In some cases, one could go so far as to get the phone out before realizing it.

* Replaying Old Memories: The mind is funny because it will not hesitate to go back to pleasant things. When over an ex, this stops after a few weeks and things like pictures or recordings fail to super charge the memories. If missing them deeply, one might keep rewinding time to relive those moments.

* Emotional Bumps: When hearing news or running into an ex unexpectedly, one might get an emotional jolt. Sometimes these can be negative feelings depending on the way things were left. But after an amicable break up, ongoing love and warmth is not an unusual response.

Differentiating Between the Two

The simplest way to determine if simple loneliness or missing an ex causes one’s current state is by viewing the focus of the thoughts. Lonely people end up concentrating on themselves. They will seek to protect themselves from feeling certain things or future pain. The person longing to rekindle romance will be thinking about the other person. Granted, there can be a sense of nostalgia when considering returning to an ex. One will need to decide if they want the past or the future because one is possible and the other can never be again.

In the end, loneliness and missing someone are merely states of being. Another person will never alleviate all the things a person feels and questions about themselves. Their best hope is to see if they think they would be better entering a new relationship with the same person or letting the relationship go. Growth only happens in a forward direction, so that’s where you need to be looking.  If you Want Love Back, I’ll show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your lover back in your arms – Especially if you are the only one trying…Click Here…