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Can you Trust a Cheater

If you have ever been cheated on you know the emotional trauma that comes with it. Infidelity is one of the few mistakes in a relationship that is powerful enough to feel on a physical level. It is almost as if someone hit you in the gut with a big fist of disbelief.

Trust is a precious thing that you should treat with the utmost caution.

It’s kind of like the Humpty Dumpty of bonds in a relationship. People tend to toss it around without realizing how fragile it really is.

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Once it breaks they realize how impossible it seems to be to put it back together. Make sure you only give your trust away to people you can rely on. If the person you want to give your trust to has already violated it once, don’t hand it right back to them without making sure they will respect it.

So if someone is a cheater, will they always be one you cant trust?

It would be nice if there was a clear answer to this question. Unfortunately every person in the world is different. Some can change and commit themselves faithfully while others will eventually fall back into betrayal.

Don’t let a simple apology and a seemingly sincere promise persuade you into taking someone back. There are things you can do to find out whether or not someone is capable of being trusted a second time.

The first and most important thing is to determine the reason your partner cheated in the first place. People cheat for a variety of reasons, some of which are clear indicators that it may happen again.

1. Lack Of Respect

– Some people could care less about their partner’s feelings or the commitment they shared. Did your partner cheat simply because they didn’t respect you? Chances are if they cheated and show no remorse, they will continue to be unfaithful.

2. They Were Getting Little Attention

– Sometimes when people aren’t faithful to their partner it is because they want to get noticed. If someone is neglected for long enough, they might take drastic action to make things change. Many people end up finding out they played a major role in why their partner cheated.

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3. The Relationship Was Getting Boring

– A lot of affairs take place just for the thrill factor. When a relationship gets boring and dull, people tend to look for excitement.

If you experienced a lack of intimacy and not enough positive interaction there is a good chance this is why your partner cheated.

These are just a few common reasons people cheat.

It could be a lot more complicated and difficult to figure out for certain couples. Once you have the motives figured out you have to ask yourself one question: Can you change the reason? The answer to this question is the easiest way to determine whether or not more cheating could be in your future with this partner.

If you can’t work together as a couple to fix the problem you are out of luck. As long as the problem persists you are bound to experience the same consequences.

There are a lot of people who foolishly think the problem will solve itself and end up falling into a reckless pattern of emotional discourse.

If you can work together to make changes there is hope, but it doesn’t guarantee they will change. Proceed with caution before giving your trust back. Take things slow and pay great attention to the way your relationship is building back up.

Even if you feel comfortable with them again and think you can trust them-

-you need to be positive they have earned your trust. Before you decide whether or not to give your trust back to someone, think about how you felt when you were betrayed.

It isn’t something people like to remember, but it is important to know that it could happen again if they aren’t careful enough.
Sadly, the majority of relationships that ended because of a cheating partner are bound to fail. If the bond is strong enough however, there is no reason you can’t work through it and find your way back to a happy couple again.

Read more about how to solve relationship problems from the man that have helped over 51 000 people to make up instead of break up at this link: The Magic Of Making Up

Heartbreak 101

Finding fulfillment after heartbreak can seem difficult.

What should you keep in mind to survive your relationship breakdown?

1. You are not delusional.

Many times after a breakup, women second guess themselves – and begin to think that they were not actually in love, or that it wasn’t true love to begin with. Just because the relationship ended does not negate the reality of your feelings.

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2. Don’t play the “What If?” game.

Don’t spend time wondering about what could happen (“Will he find someone else? Will his new partner be prettier/smarter/a better cook than me?”) Trying to imagine what will happen only prolongs your heartache, and is not helping you to recover. Spend your time focusing on moving past the relationship.

3. Release the anger.

Anger is an important part of the stages of grief. You need to feel anger – it helps you to move beyond the relationship. Don’t hold on to the anger for too long. Sometimes anger becomes a habit and is causing more harm than good. Feel anger, and then move on.

4. Let go of the connection.

It is tempting to go back to the relationship – even after it is over. Many women want to beg their ex to take them back, promising to change or do things differently. Accept the end of the relationship. Don’t try to force a broken relationship to work after a heartbreak.

5. Get help.

Find a support group – family and friends are a great place to start. If you are not near people who can give you the support and encouragement you need, consider joining a therapy or support group. If you have thoughts of suicide or of acting out in anger, seek professional therapy or counselling.

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Heartbreak

6. Understand your worth.

Just because your relationship ended and you have a heartbreak, it does not mean that you are unworthy or unable to be loved. Not everyone is capable of giving you the love you need. This isn’t your fault! You have immense value and worth – keep looking until you find the person who appreciates and recognizes it.

7. Onward and upward.

It may seem like the end of the world – but it will get better. Focus on taking care of yourself: healthy eating, exercise and proper rest; as well as making changes in your life that are for the better. As you begin to heal, you’ll find that you are moving beyond the heartbreak and into a place of wholeness that will be a good starting point for a new relationship.

Heartbreak can give you a new perspective on the world.

You may learn to appreciate the value of a love you once had, or may make you appreciate the small pleasures of sitting quietly in the park and watching the birds.

Use heartbreak to motivate you to try a new experience-

-meet new people or travel to new places. Yes heartbreak hurts. But it does heal, and you can recover. Don’t be afraid to let yourself get better, you only have to be willing to take a chance on yourself – and love.

If you are in pain after a heartbreak and confused?

Here’s some good news…Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope…even after a heartbreak.

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

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I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT… And next thing you know… he’s back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don’t believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what’s a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy’s girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivvies out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don’t know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have “relationship troubles” too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here’s how I can help you…

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can’t talk too or be with everyone, I just don’t have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for”getting back together”…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I’ll tell you…

this stuff works!…maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don’t want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help “psycho chick” steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

-Stalkers

-Ex Convicts

-People with severe mental problems

-Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

Anyway, I have titled the “recipe” simply The Magic Of Making Up…See, it is my opinion that there are really no impossible situations. I have seen women not only wait on a man for months, but take back men that have spent years in prison…and… I have seen men take women back that have had MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR…

And everything else in between! How crazy is that?

And…

You know what?

By now, I bet you really want to see some proof that this works? I would too if I were you.

Here’s PROOF This Works

The best way I know to prove to you that these techniques really work is by giving you some free samples and by showing you testimonials from guys and gals that have already used these techniques successfully.

(Over 50,119 Customers In 77 Countries Have Used This Proven System!)

Works For Long Distance Relationships Too…

 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in …By now, I had the strength to actually “sleep on it” and sent him a response the next day…within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again.
Thanks again,
Denise

Dating Again!

Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic… i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can’t believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line – now I am so much stronger and happier. I’m still going to take things slowly with my ex (I’m not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can’t believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much.
Alice

Ex POPS The Question…

…just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011.

many thanks,
Jenna

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Talking Again…

Just wanted to say THANKS!!

Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn’t….

-Delois

Best Money Ever Spent…

You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won’t take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked…you have helped me more than you will ever know…
Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!!
Melissa

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Casey gets his girl back!

I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support.

Casey

Married Again…

got him back we were married again on the 25th of January ….

Linda

Not A Scam…

I am beside myself that something actually came of this…
I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn’t even be a book as promised.
PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES.
I was beside myself.
Thank you so much…
Sara

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“Impossible Not To Work”

Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound… At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone’s wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don’t realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you … I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you… told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You’re a good man!
CC

“On her hands and knees”

well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy.

Rob

Talking Like Friends Again!

I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn.
I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!!
Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I
talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have
talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a
future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE
BREAKUP IS OK!!
Thanks for the free advice and I can’t wait to get to reading!!
I’ll keep in touch.

Tiffany

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Back Together…

Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrian

Back Together…Effortlessly…

I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information.
Cheryl

Pleasantly Surprised…

I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein…[removed due to sensitive nature]
Jacquelynn

“Dude It’s Working…”

DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out… thank you!
Taylor

Can’t Believe This Worked…

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH! I GOT MY EX BACK JUST AN HOUR AGO ! I CANT BELIEVE THIS WORKED ! !!

Tiger

Planning A Beach Getaway!

Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! … I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two.
Thank you sooooo much!!!

Lena

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Finally Married!!

thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much.

Antonett

Another “OMG!!! This Works” Note…

OMG!!! This totally worked….nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes….

Jessica

Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us…

I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us.
If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I’ll see ya soon! icon smile How To Get Your Ex Back
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever…

Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you.
Thanks man.
John

Have A Date This Friday…

Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday…[removed due to personal nature]
Sep

Most Informative…

hey Tdub! how’s it goin’? i watched your video, and i must say, it’s the most *and you’re the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up.
Dianna

Back Together In One Week…

I did buy the book, and got back together in one week. [removed due to personal nature]

Gina

Ex Flying Back From England!

Hi there! Wishing you a very happy Christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out!
Regards and many thanks
Nadia

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Recovery Myths- How to get lover back

How To Get Lover Back Myths

At the end of a relationship, it seems as though everyone has some helpful (and sometimes not so helpful) advice about how to get lover back.

These tidbits of “wisdom” range from the annoying “You’re better off now” to the offensive “I don’t know what you saw in him anyway”.
Unfortunately, these little snippets of help often lead to myths that make you feel as though something is wrong with you.
Let’s dispel some of the more common breakup myths and get you back onto the road to recovery.

How To Get Lover Back Myth #1

“Your ex was a jerk – don’t waste time missing him.” This classic line sounds like good advice on the surface. The reality is that a breakup is an emotional event. While your ex may in fact, be a jerk, you saw something in him that drew you to him, so there was some connection between you and your mind cant stop wondering; how to get lover back.

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When you lose that connection, there is a loss that can cause you emotional pain. You will still need to move through the stages of loss before you can move on in your life. Even when your ex is a jerk, you are actually mourning the loss of the good parts of the relationship – so it makes sense that you will be sad and that a part of you want to know how to get lover back.

How To Get Lover Back Myth #2

“Missing him is a sign that you should still be together.” This is bad thinking. Much like a drug addict misses their drug of choice – even years after the last time they took it – missing something is not a sure-fire sign that you were meant to be together.

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This is an emotional response to the loss, and should not be taken as reasons to get back together. When you lose something, you miss it – even if it was not good for you or if you are glad the relationship is over – there is still a sense of loss that must be worked through.

How To Get Lover Back Myth #3

“Just get over it.” If sadness could be swept away with a flip of a switch the world would be a different place. Your friends and family likely don’t want you to be sad, so they want you to be able to move on as quickly as possible.

Just willing yourself to get over the loss is not an effective (or healthy) way of dealing with the end of a relationship. Don’t fight the stages of relationship loss – they are all important. You will “get over it” when you are ready to move on.

How To Get Lover Back Myth #4

“You should be over it by now.” We’ve all been there – the long days of sadness and anger feel like they will never end. Unfortunately, there isn’t a time limit or a specific number of days that the grief will last.

Moving on from an ended relationship is different for every person, so there is no way to determine how long the process will take – you can only move through the grieving process until you find yourself through it.

Each person is different, and ending a relationship is different for each person. Don’t get caught up in the ideas that other people tell you. Mourn the loss of your relationship, and move through each stage so that you can be ready to face a new relationship when it presents itself. And if you cant get rid of that feeling you once shared and want to know how to get lover back read the following secret:

The Secret you need to know to get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

 

After Breakup from a Relationship

By the time one a relationship gets to the point of ending, typically one person in the relationship has already worked through the stages of heartache.

In most cases, this person is the one who ends the relationship. They tend to recover from the loss of the relationship sooner – making them appear as though they aren’t mourning the loss. In fact, they may have already been through the grieving process – mourning the relationship’s end before it actually ended.

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For the person who was left, it may seem as though you are the only one upset over the breakup, when in fact ending a relationship can be devastating to both people involved. The loss of a relationship can be worse than a death in many ways. A death has a sense of finality, while the end of a relationship can seem less permanent.

When a relationship ends, you will go through several stages of recovery.

Everyone progresses through them at different times and in different ways, but generally before you can experience a new relationship you must work through the grief of losing your relationship.

What are the stages of relationship grief?

The initial stage is shock. Shock at the end of a relationship – especially if you were not expecting it to end – can be severe. The world seems upside down, and you can’t make clear decisions. As women, there is a tendency to cry – usually without even understanding why.

After the shock has worn off, the next stage is pleading. By pleading, you are attempting to restore the world to the way it was by restoring your relationship. You often will plead with the other person to give you another chance to make the relationship work, offering to change or do things differently.

Rarely does this work as a way of repairing a relationship.

Even if you get back together temporarily, the change as a result of pleading generally doesn’t stick.

When pleading fails to work, anger sets in. Anger is probably one of the easiest stages to identify – it shows up in destructive behaviors such as ripping up photographs, shredding clothes, the overwhelming desire to key your ex-partner’s car.

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Anger is an attempt to gain control over a situation you feel powerless in.

The temptation to lash out and do destructive things to the person you’re angry at can be strong – but it is important that you keep yourself from making a bad situation worse.

This can be one of the longest stages of healing, and is important to not feel as though there is something wrong with being angry. Anger can help propel you forward – it motivates you into action and helps to break the feeling of connection that you once had in your relationship.

Anger fades into sadness, which is vital to the healing process.

Sadness helps you to view the world with a new perspective. It gives you a chance to slow down and process what has happened and how you can move on from here.

Often the stage of sadness brings a sense of wisdom and experience that broadens your viewpoint. It is a reminder that despite loss, you are still loved and can love again.

When you have moved into acceptance, you are almost ready to venture into the world of relationships again.

You have come to terms with the reality of your lost relationship and have accepted that things will not be the same again.

It is within the acceptance stage that you begin to consider how you can change in future relationships and what you can do to make things better. With acceptance comes the readiness to start a new relationship as an older and wiser individual.

Don’t rush through the stages of relationship grief

– they are all important and essential in the healing of a lost relationship and prepare you to move into a new, fulfilling relationship.

If you are in pain after a breakup and confused?

Here’s some good news…Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope…even after a breakup.

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

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I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT… And next thing you know… he’s back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don’t believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what’s a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy’s girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivvies out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don’t know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have “relationship troubles” too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here’s how I can help you…

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can’t talk too or be with everyone, I just don’t have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for”getting back together”…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I’ll tell you…

this stuff works!…maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don’t want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help “psycho chick” steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

-Stalkers

-Ex Convicts

-People with severe mental problems

-Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

Anyway, I have titled the “recipe” simply The Magic Of Making Up…See, it is my opinion that there are really no impossible situations. I have seen women not only wait on a man for months, but take back men that have spent years in prison…and… I have seen men take women back that have had MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR…

And everything else in between! How crazy is that?

And…

You know what?

By now, I bet you really want to see some proof that this works? I would too if I were you.

Here’s PROOF This Works

The best way I know to prove to you that these techniques really work is by giving you some free samples and by showing you testimonials from guys and gals that have already used these techniques successfully.

(Over 50,119 Customers In 77 Countries Have Used This Proven System!)

Works For Long Distance Relationships Too…

 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in …By now, I had the strength to actually “sleep on it” and sent him a response the next day…within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again.
Thanks again,
Denise

Dating Again!

Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic… i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can’t believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line – now I am so much stronger and happier. I’m still going to take things slowly with my ex (I’m not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can’t believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much.
Alice

Ex POPS The Question…

…just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011.

many thanks,
Jenna

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Talking Again…

Just wanted to say THANKS!!

Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn’t….

-Delois

Best Money Ever Spent…

You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won’t take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked…you have helped me more than you will ever know…
Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!!
Melissa

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Casey gets his girl back!

I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support.

Casey

Married Again…

got him back we were married again on the 25th of January ….

Linda

Not A Scam…

I am beside myself that something actually came of this…
I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn’t even be a book as promised.
PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES.
I was beside myself.
Thank you so much…
Sara

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“Impossible Not To Work”

Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound… At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone’s wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don’t realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you … I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you… told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You’re a good man!
CC

“On her hands and knees”

well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy.

Rob

Talking Like Friends Again!

I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn.
I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!!
Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I
talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have
talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a
future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE
BREAKUP IS OK!!
Thanks for the free advice and I can’t wait to get to reading!!
I’ll keep in touch.

Tiffany

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Back Together…

Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrian

Back Together…Effortlessly…

I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information.
Cheryl

Pleasantly Surprised…

I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein…[removed due to sensitive nature]
Jacquelynn

“Dude It’s Working…”

DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out… thank you!
Taylor

Can’t Believe This Worked…

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH! I GOT MY EX BACK JUST AN HOUR AGO ! I CANT BELIEVE THIS WORKED ! !!

Tiger

Planning A Beach Getaway!

Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! … I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two.
Thank you sooooo much!!!

Lena

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Finally Married!!

thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much.

Antonett

Another “OMG!!! This Works” Note…

OMG!!! This totally worked….nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes….

Jessica

Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us…

I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us.
If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I’ll see ya soon! icon smile How To Get Your Ex Back
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever…

Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you.
Thanks man.
John

Have A Date This Friday…

Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday…[removed due to personal nature]
Sep

Most Informative…

hey Tdub! how’s it goin’? i watched your video, and i must say, it’s the most *and you’re the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up.
Dianna

Back Together In One Week…

I did buy the book, and got back together in one week. [removed due to personal nature]

Gina

Ex Flying Back From England!

Hi there! Wishing you a very happy Christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out!
Regards and many thanks
Nadia

Dont Depend On Someone Else To Make You Happy

Too many people these days depend on whether or not they’re in a relationship to decide if they’re happy or not.

This is one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make for both yourself and the future of your relationship. You’ll find out rather quickly that if you rely on the actions of your partner to “make” you happy that your emotions will stay in constant movement much like riding a roller coaster.

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Happy Lifestyle

Couples in successful relationships understand this concept.

They don’t depend on each other for their own personal happiness. Instead, each of them do things that they enjoy and makes them happy independently of each other. This is the key to true personal happiness. Do what you like and get involved in things that make you feel good and energetic. Don’t expect your partner to figure out how to keep you happy. That never works out.

Granted, if you and your partner aren’t happy being together

-or one of you has done something to damage the relationship, it’s no surprise that you’ll feel unhappy about this. However, it’s the event that’s made you sad or angry, not your partner. Your partner isn’t a mind reader and cannot tell exactly what they need to be doing at all times so that you’ll never be unhappy. That’s not realistic and people that hook up with someone just because they believe this is what will give them the happiness that they’ve been missing out on will be sorely disappointed.

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Happy

Couples that are independently happy typically end up making each other happy as partners.

Neither of them has anything to prove and simply don’t spend a lot of time sitting around questioning whether or not they’ve making their partner happy. They just enjoy feeling happy and let things take their natural course. That’s the way to keep your relationship moving in the right direction.

Someone that’s so emotional that they take every little comment their partner makes to heart is never going to be completely happy.

These are the people that are continuously waiting for their partner to notice things such as a new hairstyle or outfit. When the partner doesn’t immediately acknowledge the change, it’s blown all out of proportion. Give your partner time to assess the new you and make the appropriate comments.

Stop assuming things regarding your partner.

Even though both of you have a lot in common, you’re not always going to move totally in synch with each other. Give your partner room to breathe and accept it when they grant you the same. It’s healthy to lead a life outside of the relationship as long as it’s not interfering with the core of the relationship. You’re the only one that can make you happy. Sure, you can say that you’re happy to be with someone, or even that your partner makes you happy. However, what that doesn’t mean is that you’re totally depending on your partner to keep the happiness alive within you. Make yourself happy and the rest will all fall right into place.

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Staying Together After an Affair

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An affair is not an automatic death sentence for a relationship.

An affair dont always lead to couples choosing to separate , many go on to have long, productive and happy relationship. How can you work through the trauma of an affair and still be successful in your relationship?

Spend some time alone after the affair has been discovered, and the shock has worn off.

Getting alone with your thoughts will give you time to analyze your relationship and decide if what you have is worth fighting for. Make no mistake – it will be a fight – and it will be difficult. But it is possible to recover after an affair and come out stronger in the end.

Some guidelines to help establish a “new reality” for your relationship will help you both feel comfortable with the changes that will be necessary.

Sit down together and discuss your feelings – don’t try to hide them or act as though you are ok with everything – be honest with your spouse.

Accountability is a key to rebuilding trust after an affair.

Establishing new routines, providing access to phones, email, etc is a way to provide transparency in a relationship that wants to be restored.

If you are the injured party, establish what would make you feel more comfortable in the situations where the affair was.

If it was with a co-worker, how can you feel comfortable with your partner going to work? Discuss the ways that accountability will help you mend trust.

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Affair

Forgiveness: easy to say, hard to offer. Forgiveness does not excuse the pain of the affair, nor does it say that everything is ok. It is about making a conscious decision to forgive your partner for their actions and move past the incident.

It will take time, and sometimes forgiveness needs to be offered daily as reminders of the affair crop up

-but forgiveness isn’t for the sake of the guilty. You need to let go of the anger so that you can truly move beyond it.

Create new, shared goals. Begin to build a new relationship together. Find new things that you can do as a couple to strengthen your bond and re-establish your united life.

Commit to the recovery of the relationship – no matter how tough it gets.

Remind yourself that what you are working towards is a loving marriage relationship.

Marriage counselling is a wonderful way to get an outsider’s perspective on the problems that may have contributed to the affair, and to get some strategies that will help you move past the betrayal.

Find a counsellor through your workplace’s healthcare provider, through your religious organization or mental health department of your city. Attend sessions together and work on the skills they suggest.

Not every marriage can or should be saved.

If, however, you want to work on your marriage it will take both parties to commit to making it work. With both members doing their part to rekindle the spark that brought you together in the first place, you can have a loving and healthy relationship again. Find out  more about it in the E-book below!

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3 Ways To Improve Communication In A Relationship

Good communication is one of the cornerstones that make up a strong relationship.

On the other hand poor communication can lead to a relationship breakdown as partners may find it difficult to ever trust each other.

Not everyone is good in communication.

If you happen to be one of these people, you may find it harder to start and maintain a stable relationship. Good communication skills can also help transform a shaky relationship into a functioning, healthy relationship.

Simple tips and basic communication skills can help you become a good communicator. The following are 3 ways to improve communication and maintain a good relationship.

Always express yourself freely

To have a good relationship, you must be free with your partner. Being free means you can share anything with him. You can share all the things that bother you, amaze you, please or surprise you. You’ll find it’s very difficult to maintain a strong relationship with someone you cannot talk to freely.

When you learn to express yourself freely, you will never feel the need to hide something from that person and your partner will also feel more free to share his problems with you.

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When you are angry, you should definitely tell him what is making you angry and this will make your partner respect you and your opinion simply because you express yourself freely.

When expressing yourself, remember to say exactly what you mean and feel about something don’t beat around the bush. Be honest and go straight to the point.

Be a good listener-A good communicator is a good listener as well.

Just like you want your partner to listen to your thoughts and feelings, be sure to give that person your full attention when the time comes for you to listen.

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Communication

Men are considered poor listeners in most relationships but this does not mean that they don’t listen at all. To get someone to really listen to you, you may need to find the right time to start a conversation.

Don’t try to force your partner to listen to you when he’s watching his favorite movie or something on ESPN, because he may end up paying more attention to the TV than to you.

By listening to your partner you are giving him a chance to open up and seek solace from you. The last thing you want to do to your partner is ignore him when he’s trying to talk to you.

Build a strong foundation for easy communication

Without a strong foundation, even the best communicators find it hard to build a close relationship. Strong foundations are based on a number of different things: the way you treat each other, the level of intimacy you share, how well you understand each other and how the two of you manage your relationship problems.

For you to have a strong relationship you must know what makes your partner angry and what makes him happy and how to avoid deliberately aggravating him.

Remember no relationship is complete without intimacy, so it’s important that you always create some time for intimacy. Try to strike a balance that takes into account both of your schedules.

Remember that intimacy doesn’t always mean sex. Sometimes it’s just as important to spend time snuggling together while watching a movie.

Lastly, don’t forget non-verbal communication can be just as important and impacting as the spoken word. You can often communicate just as effectively with a stroke of his face with your hand or a strong, warm embrace.

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Guide to Successful Relationships

If you’ve ever been through a breakup or divorce, you may be a little gun-shy about serious relationships.

You’re suddenly second guessing about relationships, yourself and every decision that you make. It can be exhausting and a little (lot) frightening to consider starting over with someone new.

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Relationships

What if the same things happen? What if the problems your last relationship had were all your fault and you bring them to the new relationship? What can you do to start your new relationship off on the right foot? Are there any strategies that you can use to help your new, fledgling relationship find its way towards lasting romance?

If you want to help your relationship start (and stay) strong, here are some Dos and Don’ts to get you going.

To Do in  Relationships

Make new friends (but keep the old). The Girl Scouts have it right – you need to keep your girls around. Just because you have a new relationship in your life, you don’t have to get rid of your old friendships. Friends add color, stability and flavor to your life. Maintain your relationships with your friends – even after you and your guy are an established couple.

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Relationship

Encourage your new guy to keep his friendships as well. Plan some activities that you can do with each other’s friends and begin to make friends that are new to you both as well. Having friendships outside  relationships is a healthy way to make sure you aren’t solely relying on your partner for your emotional needs.

Stay true to yourself. Changing who you are and the things that make you unique just to please your partner is one of the worst things you can do. Not only will it lead to resentment (yours) and anger (his), you’re changing the person that your man fell in love with. He loved you for who you were – you shouldn’t have to change to keep that love.

Don’t Do in  Relationships

Lying to your partner is a surefire way to erode the trust in  relationships. Even lying by omission is harmful and should be avoided. Sometimes you have to say things that you know will hurt the other person, so you want to lie to spare them the pain. Don’t. Just use the ‘rip the bandaid’ off mentality and tell them the whole, ugly truth. The pain may be sharp, but it will fade. The pain of lying has long term consequences.

Talking about problems with  relationships with someone of the opposite sex is another big no-no. When you use another man’s shoulder to cry on, sometimes you start to develop an attraction for those big, strong shoulders that so easily carry the weight of your burdens. Stay away from this situation by keeping your mouth closed – and only cry on your girlfriend’s shoulders.

Using another person to make your partner jealous is not only juvenile, it’s dangerous. Manipulating your partner’s emotions may get you the attention you want, but the result may be a breakup.
There is no guarantee about relationships. You can only do your part to be the best partner possible and choose someone who feels the same way. Your next relationship can be wonderful!

“T Dub” Discovers His Relationships “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…just click on the banner below;))

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How To Get Lover Back-Growing Stronger

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I am sure most of you have been through the heartbreaking issues related to trying to get lover back. While the idea of sequestering yourself away with your true love (and any accompanying kids) on a farm (or a tropical island if that’s more your style) seems like a good idea in theory, it isn’t a very realistic way to deal with the pressures of maintaining a healthy relationship.

If you’ve been in a relationship for longer than three days, you are well aware that every relationship needs work to be successful. The world seems to offer a constant barrage of things that will weaken your relationship – how can you keep the life you’ve built together strong and true so you dont have to go through a hearbreak to get lover back.

Let’s look at some strategies you can start using today to get (and keep) your relationship on solid ground.

• Use words.

We’ve all heard that communication is a key in any relationship. Most of the time, however, when a relationship starts to fall apart, communication is one of the first things that crumble. And if you are in that situation after breaking up and you try to get lover back you will not be good in communication because you will be to needy to get the right message through.

We can talk to our friends about everything but often fall silent when sitting with our significant other. Make sure that the communication between you is strong. Fill him in on the details that are going on in your day: the new grill you’d love to buy him, the problems the new secretary is giving you at work.

Don’t exclude him from what goes on in a day – that helps to keep the lines of communication going between you and makes you a stronger couple.

• Use actions. Remember when your relationship was new? You did sweet things to show how much you love the other person. It’s easy to let that type of action fade away over time – after all, they should know how much you love them by now, right? Yes, they should know and then you wont have to convince them later in order to get lover back. You need to express your love in words or actions on a daily basis to keep the love alive and growing.

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How To Get Lover Back

It’s always good to keep reminding them – and remind them that you love them as much now (if not more) than you did back then.

By continuing to show love through actions, you are recommitting yourself to the relationship every day. Each time you go out of your way to do something kind, it’s a silent way of shouting, “I love you!”

• Use time.

Make your relationship a priority. You don’t have to look very hard for something to take you away from home: friends, family, trips – it’s entirely possible to schedule something every day and fill your calendar with activities. While you’re scheduling, make sure that a majority of your time goes to your relationship.

• Use love.

Love is not easy. It requires work – hard work – and often seems like it is too much to bear.

Think about your job. No matter how great your job may be and how much you really like it, there are some days where you would rather be on a beach than at the office.

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But, you’ve made a commitment to your employer, so you drag yourself in and google vacation beach rentals on your lunch break.

Your relationship can be the same: some days it seems easier to walk away. Commit yourself to the relationship – and to loving your partner – even when you don’t feel like it and you wont need to get lover back.

Working on a relationship can be exhausting, but can lead to a relationship that other people can only dream about. It’s not easy – but nothing of value ever really comes easily. Put your best in to the relationship if you want to get the best out of your relationship.

If you are in pain after a breakup and confused about how to get lover back?

Here’s some good news…Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope to get lover back…even after a breakup.

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Get Lover Back Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Bet Lover

Back Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

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I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT… And next thing you know… he’s back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don’t believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what’s a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy’s girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivvies out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don’t know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have “relationship troubles” too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here’s how I can help you…

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can’t talk too or be with everyone, I just don’t have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for”getting back together”…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I’ll tell you…

this stuff works!…maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don’t want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help “psycho chick” steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

-Stalkers

-Ex Convicts

-People with severe mental problems

-Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

Anyway, I have titled the “recipe” simply The Magic Of Making Up…See, it is my opinion that there are really no impossible situations. I have seen women not only wait on a man for months, but take back men that have spent years in prison…and… I have seen men take women back that have had MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR…

And everything else in between! How crazy is that?

And…

You know what?

By now, I bet you really want to see some proof that this works? I would too if I were you.

Here’s PROOF This Works

The best way I know to prove to you that these techniques really work is by giving you some free samples and by showing you testimonials from guys and gals that have already used these techniques successfully.

(Over 50,119 Customers In 77 Countries Have Used This Proven System!)

Works For Long Distance Relationships Too…

 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in …By now, I had the strength to actually “sleep on it” and sent him a response the next day…within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again.
Thanks again,
Denise

Dating Again!

Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic… i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can’t believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line – now I am so much stronger and happier. I’m still going to take things slowly with my ex (I’m not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can’t believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much.
Alice

Ex POPS The Question…

…just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011.

many thanks,
Jenna

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Talking Again…

Just wanted to say THANKS!!

Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn’t….

-Delois

Best Money Ever Spent…

You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won’t take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked…you have helped me more than you will ever know…
Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!!
Melissa

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Casey gets his girl back!

I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support.

Casey

Married Again…

got him back we were married again on the 25th of January ….

Linda

Not A Scam…

I am beside myself that something actually came of this…
I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn’t even be a book as promised.
PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES.
I was beside myself.
Thank you so much…
Sara

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“Impossible Not To Work”

Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound… At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone’s wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don’t realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you … I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you… told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You’re a good man!
CC

“On her hands and knees”

well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy.

Rob

Talking Like Friends Again!

I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn.
I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!!
Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I
talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have
talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a
future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE
BREAKUP IS OK!!
Thanks for the free advice and I can’t wait to get to reading!!
I’ll keep in touch.

Tiffany

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Back Together…

Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrian

Back Together…Effortlessly…

I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information.
Cheryl

Pleasantly Surprised…

I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein…[removed due to sensitive nature]
Jacquelynn

“Dude It’s Working…”

DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out… thank you!
Taylor

Can’t Believe This Worked…

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH! I GOT MY EX BACK JUST AN HOUR AGO ! I CANT BELIEVE THIS WORKED ! !!

Tiger

Planning A Beach Getaway!

Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! … I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two.
Thank you sooooo much!!!

Lena

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Finally Married!!

thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much.

Antonett

Another “OMG!!! This Works” Note…

OMG!!! This totally worked….nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes….

Jessica

Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us…

I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us.
If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I’ll see ya soon! icon smile How To Get Your Ex Back
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever…

Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you.
Thanks man.
John

Have A Date This Friday…

Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday…[removed due to personal nature]
Sep

Most Informative…

hey Tdub! how’s it goin’? i watched your video, and i must say, it’s the most *and you’re the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up.
Dianna

Back Together In One Week…

I did buy the book, and got back together in one week. [removed due to personal nature]

Gina

Ex Flying Back From England!

Hi there! Wishing you a very happy Christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out!
Regards and many thanks
Nadia

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What to Do When Your Partner Is Cheating On You

Just two days back, when a friend of yours was facing the infidelity of her partner

-you were thinking about everything going great in your relationship and were feeling blessed to have a great partner. Little did you know that everything would almost come to an end when you would find out that your partner is involved somewhere else too, and his sudden increased love for you during the last few days was just to cover his guilt.

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The thought of leaving your partner is the first thing that will strike your mind

-as it is not that easy to revive that old love and those feelings once you’ve been cheated on. This is the time when you might start suffering with an inferiority complex that caused your partner to get attracted to someone else. Rather than getting depressed at this time, think about the numerous other smart ways to deal with this emotional turbulence in your life.

Communicate and Let your partner know how hurt you are.

Be honest about your feelings. They should not feel as though you do not care. Don’t bottle up your emotions, and try to act as though their betrayal has not hurt you. Bottling up your emotions, and not communicating, will only lead to passive aggressive behavior, and that will not help you save your relationship.

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Try to Understand their Point of View

Try to understand your partner’s point of view that led him to move out of your relationship. Empathizing with him will be very effective in getting your relationship back on track. Maybe they were reacting out of anger, or a feeling of abandonment. Understanding why they cheated on you will go a long way in helping you decide whether or not you want to continue with your relationship.

Visit a Professional

If the both of you really want everything to be like in the past, make a visit to a marriage counselor. If either of you are not willing to seek professional help, speak clearly about these issues at a personal level. Having a third person listen to the two of you will help you put emotions aside while you deal with the issues at hand. Try and keep the conversation focused on how the betrayal makes you feel, and how you can rebuild your relationship.

Know When to Give Up on your partner.

If despite making all these efforts, your partner betrays you repeatedly, stop being emotional and get practical. Under no circumstances should you curse yourself for not being able to have a successful relationship. It’s not you who is breaking the commitment. At this stage, you must ask yourself, whether you can continue or if it is wiser to move on in life.

The Secret you need to know to get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!