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Relationship Advice.

Relationship issues is not always improving when you are letting your friends know everything about it. As much as your friends are supposed to be there for you at all times to exchange stories/ideas and help you get through tough times in life, there is a limit as to how much you should tell your friends when it comes to your personal relationship with your boyfriend or husband.

This is simply because numerous research studies have revealed that friends do more harm than good when it comes to relationships. If you happen to be interested in safeguarding your relationship with your boyfriend/husband as well as keeping your relationship with your friends healthy, below is a list of 4 most important things you shouldn’t tell your friends about your relationship.

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1. Your sex life:

This is one of the most important details you should withhold from your friends. Although you might have friends who are exhibitionist storytellers, sexual intimacy in your relationship is strengthened when your sex life is kept a closely guarded secret between you and your partner only.

Keeping your sex life a secret also avoids curiosity which prevents problems like infidelity and mistrust when one of your friends starts showing interest in your partner because of the juicy stories you have told them.

2. Anything your boyfriend or husband doesn’t know about your relationship:

You should also avoid telling your friends anything your partner doesn’t already know because it is simply none of their business. Relationships should be between two people only.

Your friends shouldn’t know things about your relationship before your partner does, otherwise you have to question why you’re in the relationship in the first place.

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Healthy relationships are built on trust and total openness. If you can’t trust and open up to your partner before your open up to your friends, there is no point of being with your partner in the first place.

3. How much money he makes:

This is another important detail you should leave out about your man when talking with your friends. Omitting this detail is important because it avoids instances where your friends start judging you or weighing in on your relationship.

For instance, you avoid negative energy in case your man earns less than you do. You also avoid being judged or being called a gold digger if he is earning way more than you. The bottom line is, it’s just none of your friends’ business to know how much your man makes. If he wants them to know, let him be the one to tell them.

4. Every single argument you have had about your relationship:

This is another necessary omission you should consider when conversing with your girlfriends. Although it is not advisable to keep things bottled up inside, it is not advisable to share everything with your friends especially every single argument you have or have had with your man.

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This is simply because it does more harm than good. Although your friends may offer you all the support you need, they can’t help but start detesting your partner which will eventually hurt your relationship when they start telling you things like; dump him, he is not good enough for you, and other biased suggestions which may or may not be the right solutions for you.

In summary, the above information should guide you in the right direction about how much you should tell your friends about the details of your relationship.

It is important to note that there may be other topics that should also be considered off-limits to your friends. This article should therefore be used as a basis for further research. You may also find it helpful to have this discussion with your partner so the two of you can agree on what’s acceptable to share and what isn’t.

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Relationship based upon mutual respect.

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Relationship respect is an important pillar for a successful, joyful mutual relationship. Many relationships fail because there’s a lack of respect between the partners. Respect is conferred to a person only when they deserve it, and typically must be earned in the eyes of the other person. The following are some ways through which you can earn the respect of your partner:

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Take Care of Yourself

Men are highly visual creatures. They are attracted to women they find visually pleasing and will try to respect her in every possible way in order to win her attention and company. The more you take care of yourself, the more respect he’ll have for you.

Relationship rule #1 Don’t be Afraid to be Independent

This includes self-rule, self-determination, self-reliance and self-sufficiency. It is a must-have element for both parties entering a relationship. You’ll both need some degree of freedom to keep yourr sanity and as a safeguard against some unavoidable changes, such as a break-up or even the death of a partner.

You should not completely give up living your life just because you have a partner; it’s sad that some people entering a relationship behave as if it is the end of their life. Living your own life and finding the areas where you complement your partner is the best thing to do. Self reliance earns you more respect than coming across as needy and clingy.

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Relationship rule #2 Display Self Confidence

This means poise and assurance, that is, believing in yourself. Cultivate composure, self-control and dignity in the way you carry yourself. People who are not confident are often insecure and timid. That can make them a target for people who take advantage of others when given the opportunity. On the other hand they tend to respect those people who are sure of themselves and appear to possess self control.

Relationship rule #4 Be honest

Honesty remains to be the best policy in any relationship. If you are always 100% honest, you cannot go wrong and your partner will always trust you. Unfaithfulness in a relationship is one of the hardest things to overcome but by being honest you will win over your partner’s trust even in trivial things.

Relationship rule #5 Keep your word

A sure way to lose your partner’s respect is to fail to keep your word. If you say you will do something, make every effort to do it. If circumstances out of your control prevent you from keeping your word, apologize, even if it wasn’t technically your fault. And do this for friends and family, not just your partner. His respect for you will grow when he sees how well you treat other people besides him.

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Relationship rule #6 Give praise when it is deserved

Make every effort to notice helpful things that your partner does for you. Being genuinely appreciative for these things and approving your partner will improve your relationship radically. Don’t put a limit on your praise, everybody wants and needs that “pat on the back” for a job well done. Men will often not get it in the workplace, so it’s critical that they get well deserved praise at home.

Relationship rule #7 Respect your partner

As mentioned at the beginning of this article, mutual respect is a cornerstone for a solid relationship foundation. You’ll find it much harder to stay in a long term commitment with a partner you don’t respect. And so will he.

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Trusting Again Means Trusting Yourself First

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If someone has betrayed your trust, you may think the concept of trusting again is out of reach. Trust is one of those things that must be earned.

Therefore, when it’s misplaced, it’s easy to simply put up a wall between you and the rest of the world to avoid it from ever happening again. Don’t live a lonely dissatisfying life without a valuable relationship due to a breach of trust.

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You can move beyond the pain of broken trust. Just because one person betrayed you, doesn’t mean everyone else will too. Trusting again means gaining the confidence that everything will work out for the best, or even better than before.

Two Kinds of Trust

Basically, there are two kinds of trust.

– Trusting Yourself
Trusting yourself means having the self-belief that all your decisions are based on kindness, love, and respect towards yourself.

– Trusting Others
Having faith and trust in others means believing that their choices in life are based on the kindness, love, and respect they have towards you. It’s harder to trust others if you don’t trust yourself first.

Be Kind and Loving to Yourself

You may think you have lost the ability to trust. But is that actually true? When you give your order at your favorite restaurant, don’t you trust they will bring the food to you? Even though there’s big trust and small trust, trust is still trust.

What you really want is to believe and relax in the fact that you won’t get hurt again. That takes trust. Focus on the positive aspects of people to bring out the positive in them. This will restore your confidence in others and bring back the trust factor.

You are Perfect Just the Way You Are

Contrary to what anyone says, you are a perfect and wholesome human being just the way you are. How do I know that? Because we all are. And the only reason you may feel like you are less than perfect is because you are not letting it naturally shine through, but it is definitely there.

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No one has the power to take anything away from you – including trust. You can never be “less” without a certain person’s love, approval, and trust since you are “whole” in your natural state.

Encourage the Possibilities for Trusting.

Trust is an essential element to all human relations. You can’t start a new relationship if you truly believe that once someone betrays your trust, trust is gone forever.

You simply cannot live in a past relationship and expect your new one to succeed. If you are still harboring feelings of resentment due to a betrayal, your new partner will feel it and likewise not trust you.

How is this moving forward? It’s time to start trusting again and be happy.

Look for people worth Trusting.

Trusting again means actively looking for trust and kindness in others. What does your gut feeling (intuition) tell you about this person?

If you are on the fence whether or not you should trust someone, watch and observe how they treat other people.

Keep in mind you can’t judge a book by its cover. Some of the most attractive people by all appearances have the ugliest behavior behind closed doors.

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If you are in a new relationship, don’t give your heart away too fast. Start small and see where it goes. Even the smallest breach of trust is a red flag. This new person must earn both your trust and respect.

Generally, if someone is trustworthy with the little things in life, it’s a good indicator you can trust them with the big things as well.

Believe that you deserve a trusting and long-lasting relationship and you will increase your chances of manifesting it. Remember, what you think about comes about. Trusting again – you can do it.

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Constructive Fighting Or Mudslinging

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Do you do constructive fighting or is it more like slinging mud?

All couples fight, argue, debate, discuss or whatever word you want to assign to it. It comes down to two different people seeing things in ways that can be marginally to vastly different, depending on the subject and the couple. The point is they’re in disagreement over something that has to be sorted out in some way in order to move past it. What’s important with this is HOW you move past it.

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One of the first rules in fighting with your partner.

Remember something very important: choose your words wisely. Keep in mind that once those words leave your mouth and your partner hears them, they can never be taken back. This isn’t the time to take something that you know really bothers your partner on a personal level and turn it back onto him or her. It will just hurt that much deeper and may drive a permanent wedge between the two of you.

Unkind and hurtful words do more damage at times than a physical punch might have done. Obviously, hitting someone isn’t right, but that’s just to show how painful some words can be. Screaming hurtful words at your partner would not be considered constructive fighting. It’s mudslinging, pure and simple, and mudslinging isn’t going to get you anywhere except, possibly, single.

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Learn how to change from fighting to constructive fighting.

Constructive fighting, on the other hand, is useful and can actually solve important issues between couples.

This type of fighting is usually conducted passionately but without a lot of anger involved. Now, of course, that can change in a heartbeat, depending on the subject and whether or not one or both partners are being unreasonable. For instance, if it’s about your partner insisting that you spend every holiday with his or her family and you’d like to get some equal time with your own family; that can turn into one of those unreasonable fights. As a side note to this one, your partner is a very selfish and self-centered person and you should have noticed this before you became a true couple.

Sitting down and talking about something is mature and offers faster, more effective solutions to a problem than screaming and yelling at each other. Seriously, how will you even hear what the other one is saying over all of that screaming? If you MUST get some loudness out of your system, go ahead. Just don’t ruin the following calm where the two of you should be able to reasonably discuss whatever the issue is and reach some workable resolution to it.

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Anger is a very common emotion in any relationship.

The aspect that is different is the range of anger. Some people fly off the handle at the drop of a hat while others are quietly angry. When a situation arises, if there’s a lot of anger involved, the two of you need to separate for a few minutes until both of you have calmed down enough to have a conversation without all the mudslinging. Then you can find the needed middle ground without having destroyed your relationship in the process. That is what constructive fighting is all about.

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Undeniable Signs He’s In Love With You

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It’s not always easy to tell if a man is actually in love with you or just really likes you.

But there are a few surefire ways to tell so you can stop wondering. You’re His Top Priority He thinks about you often and keeps in contact frequently throughout the day. He includes you in his plans and appreciates it when you do the same for him. In conversation, he uses words like “us”, “we”, and “ours”. This indicates he subconsciously wants you to be a part of his future.

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He Respects You and Treats You Well

When a man loves a woman he is attentive to her needs, feelings, and desires. In fact, if he’s really in love with you, chances are he will put your needs first over his own. Often he will go out of his way to make your life better in some way and also show respect and courtesy to your friends and family as well. A Man in Love Will Tell His Friends All About You If a man shows you affection, especially in public, it clearly indicates he’s proud of you and wants everyone to see that you’re his main squeeze. He wants all his friends and family to know about you and invites you to special family functions and even company gatherings.

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Most of His Free Time is Spent With You

You’re the one he wants to see in his free time. He chooses to go everywhere with you and spend major holidays together such as Christmas, New Year’s Eve, Thanksgiving, and of course, Valentine’s Day. If a Man Loves You, He Cares About Your Life A man who truly loves you is genuinely happy when things go well for you. In challenging times, he’s the first one to comfort you and stay by your side. He’s the epitome of a stand-up guy who’s willing to go the extra mile on your behalf. A love-smitten man will likely think of fun ways to surprise you in order to keep you happy. When faced with adversity or danger, he rushes to your side to show his clear intention of protecting you and everything about you.

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Men in Love Don’t Cheat

If a man loves you, there is no way he is going to cheat on you with another woman. No excuses. Yes, men are hard-wired to spread their seed and procreate in the animal kingdom. But an honorable man who’s deeply in love with a woman wouldn’t think of it. He only desires the object of his affection – you. Also, he treats your relationship with the utmost integrity and honor. He is trustworthy, noble, and loyal when it comes to your connection with him. He does what he says he’s going to do out of respect for you. Actions Speak Louder Than Words Never believe a man when he says “I love you” if his actions and behaviors aren’t aligned with his words. Does he say “I love you” and then turn around and text another woman secretly behind your back? If so, he doesn’t truly love or respect you. Your gut instinct will let you know whether he’s simply feeding you a line for some ulterior motive or if he truly means it. Also, read his body language when he says it. Trust your intuition – it’s right 100% of the time.

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Heartbreak and reasons to move on.

Heartbreak does not mean it is the end of the world. To many people it can be a wake up call that triggers our inner strenght. We may also move on to something better in our life. The world is constantly changing and so are you. And just because a certain someone was right for you at one time doesn’t mean they always will be. This is true in virtually every area of life including your career, home, habits, and your relationships.

Although we can’t visibly see it, we are continually evolving into a bigger and better version of ourselves. Sometimes, as much as it hurts, we have to let go of someone because we grew in a different direction from them.

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It’s not good or bad – it just is. And the sooner you realize this, the quicker you can heal your heartbreak and move on with your own life. Have you even considered there’s someone better for you out there? Someone perhaps more compatible?

Your lifestyle and the lifestyle of the person who broke your heart eventually stopped being compatible. If you can accept that your values were heading on a different course, you will understand why your union was temporary whether you were with them 3 years or 30 years. People change.

Let’s explore why it’s in your best interest to let go and move on.

1. Your Partner’s Negativity is Starting to Make You Negative

Your partner’s negativity is starting to rub off on you, and since you are the company you keep – you’re turning into a negative, sour person.

Who you spend the majority of your time with greatly influences the person you are evolving into. Ever notice how your mood changes if you’re around negative, pessimistic people for any length of time?

2. You and Your Partner Have Grown Apart

Sadly, no matter how much you wish things could be different, either you or your partner has slowly progressed away from your fundamental values. Truthfully, this is a natural part of life in many instances. Can you imagine how dreadful it would be if nothing and no one ever evolved, progressed, or changed? Unfortunately, this principle applies to couples as well and they simply grow apart.

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3. Your Primary Goals and Needs Have Changed

What worked for you in the beginning of a relationship no longer works now. You are different and so is your partner. You’re not the same person you were 5 minutes ago let alone after 5 years. It’s hard to let go and may be difficult to start fresh with your new truth, but it’s necessary.

4. You are Afraid to Let Go

Depending on how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone, it may be overwhelming and scary to think of yourself on your own. You may have been through a separation or divorce before and are afraid of going through that heartbreak again.

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So you have to ask yourself – do you want to remain in a miserable but somewhat secure (financial) relationship? Or take a leap of faith in order to find a level of happiness you’ve never known before?

Don’t let your disappointments and fears for a heartbreak hold you back from living your best life ever.

5. Old Grudges and Resentments

You’re letting an old grudge keep you from complete happiness and joy. Holding on to hatred, resentment, and anger doesn’t hurt or affect the other person, it only hurts you.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean it’s okay what they did to you; what it does mean is you’re willing to forgive, forget, and move on. The Universe will take care of their wrongdoings in terms of karma, so no worries there.

Let go of the pain this person has caused you and anyone else for that matter. The grudge is only hurting you.

No matter how much it hurts, sometimes the best and obvious answer is to simply let go and move on. And when you do, doors will open for you in ways you never thought possible. Trust that it will happen, and it will. Even a heartbreak wont last forever.

If you are in pain and confused?

Here’s some good news…Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope even in a heartbreak…

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

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I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT… And next thing you know… he’s back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don’t believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what’s a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy’s girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivvies out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don’t know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have “relationship troubles” too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here’s how I can help you…

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can’t talk too or be with everyone, I just don’t have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for”getting back together”…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I’ll tell you…

this stuff works!…maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don’t want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help “psycho chick” steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

-Stalkers

-Ex Convicts

-People with severe mental problems

-Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

Anyway, I have titled the “recipe” simply The Magic Of Making Up…See, it is my opinion that there are really no impossible situations. I have seen women not only wait on a man for months, but take back men that have spent years in prison…and… I have seen men take women back that have had MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR…

And everything else in between! How crazy is that?

And…

You know what?

By now, I bet you really want to see some proof that this works? I would too if I were you.

Here’s PROOF This Works

The best way I know to prove to you that these techniques really work is by giving you some free samples and by showing you testimonials from guys and gals that have already used these techniques successfully.

(Over 50,119 Customers In 77 Countries Have Used This Proven System!)

Works For Long Distance Relationships Too…

 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in …By now, I had the strength to actually “sleep on it” and sent him a response the next day…within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again.
Thanks again,
Denise

Dating Again!

Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic… i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can’t believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line – now I am so much stronger and happier. I’m still going to take things slowly with my ex (I’m not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can’t believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much.
Alice

Ex POPS The Question…

…just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011.

many thanks,
Jenna

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Talking Again…

Just wanted to say THANKS!!

Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn’t….

-Delois

Best Money Ever Spent…

You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won’t take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked…you have helped me more than you will ever know…
Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!!
Melissa

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Casey gets his girl back!

I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support.

Casey

Married Again…

got him back we were married again on the 25th of January ….

Linda

Not A Scam…

I am beside myself that something actually came of this…
I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn’t even be a book as promised.
PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES.
I was beside myself.
Thank you so much…
Sara

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“Impossible Not To Work”

Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound… At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone’s wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don’t realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you … I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you… told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You’re a good man!
CC

“On her hands and knees”

well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy.

Rob

Talking Like Friends Again!

I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn.
I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!!
Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I
talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have
talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a
future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE
BREAKUP IS OK!!
Thanks for the free advice and I can’t wait to get to reading!!
I’ll keep in touch.

Tiffany

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Back Together…

Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrian

Back Together…Effortlessly…

I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information.
Cheryl

Pleasantly Surprised…

I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein…[removed due to sensitive nature]
Jacquelynn

“Dude It’s Working…”

DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out… thank you!
Taylor

Can’t Believe This Worked…

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH! I GOT MY EX BACK JUST AN HOUR AGO ! I CANT BELIEVE THIS WORKED ! !!

Tiger

Planning A Beach Getaway!

Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! … I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two.
Thank you sooooo much!!!

Lena

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Finally Married!!

thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much.

Antonett

Another “OMG!!! This Works” Note…

OMG!!! This totally worked….nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes….

Jessica

Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us…

I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us.
If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I’ll see ya soon! icon smile How To Get Your Ex Back
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever…

Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you.
Thanks man.
John

Have A Date This Friday…

Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday…[removed due to personal nature]
Sep

Most Informative…

hey Tdub! how’s it goin’? i watched your video, and i must say, it’s the most *and you’re the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up.
Dianna

Back Together In One Week…

I did buy the book, and got back together in one week. [removed due to personal nature]

Gina

Ex Flying Back From England!

Hi there! Wishing you a very happy Christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out!
Regards and many thanks
Nadia

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Signs He Wants To Leave

Five Signs He Wants To Leave You 

Men do not always talk about why they leave, they aren’t generally known for initiating conversations about their relationships.. They don’t seem too interested in the topics that women usually talk about. So, when they decide they want to break up, it seems quite sudden to the woman.

But in reality they’ve probably been thinking about it for quite awhile. If a man decides he wants to end a relationship, this decision may happen in his head long before he actually takes action on it.

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In the meantime, he may start acting out of character and quite different from the man you fell in love with. Until a man gets enough courage to tell you it’s over, you’re somewhat left in the dark and constantly left to guess what’s going on with them. But the signs are there. You just need to know what to look for.

  • First sign he may be about to leave.

He’s not as talkative as he used to be and generally keeps to himself when you’re around.

Men tend to be quiet when they’re uncomfortable around certain people. You’ve probably noticed he doesn’t talk about his day like he used to or divulge much information about his life in general anymore.

When you’re in his company, he gets very quiet. But as soon as his cell phone rings and he answers, his personality and charm pop back to life and he’s suddenly his old self again.

  • Second sign he may be about to leave.

He rarely texts you anymore or has stopped altogether.

At first, he text you about everything, but now you’re lucky if you get one text a day. Men usually text on a whim about whatever they’re feeling or thinking at the time.

Once this stops, it indicates you’re no longer in his thoughts or priority one. Does he talk to you as if you’re a stranger on the phone? This is a red flag that he’s probably already moved on, at least in his mind.

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  • Third sign he may be about to leave.

He’s working longer hours just to stay away from you.

Several men love their jobs and go the extra mile in an effort to further their career. We’re not talking about those men.

We’re talking about men who voluntarily take on more work and longer hours just so they can avoid seeing less of you. Hurts, doesn’t it? You’ll notice the change in them as compared to their previous behavior.

  • Fourht sign he may be about to leave.

He would rather watch sports than to have sex with you.

If your man is constantly coming up with excuses, especially sports-related ones, about why he’s too busy to have sex with you, that’s an even bigger red flag.

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Men are programmed to think about sex and want sex practically anytime, anywhere. So, if he’s consistently turning you down, something has changed, and not for the better.

  • Fifth sign he may be about to leave.

He doesn’t bring you around his friends anymore.

When you two first got together, he couldn’t wait to introduce to his friends and family. But if he’s going out with his friends more frequently now and leaving you at home while he’s out doing whatever, he probably wants the two of you to end.

When relationships fall apart, it’s never easy no matter how long you’ve been together, how old you are, or what reasons led to the breakup. It’s just plain hard. How you leave a relationship though will determine the class of person you are. If it’s truly over, leave with your dignity intact.

There’s something better waiting for you in your future.

If you are in pain and confused?

Here’s some good news…Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope…

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

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I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT… And next thing you know… he’s back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don’t believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what’s a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy’s girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivvies out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don’t know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have “relationship troubles” too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here’s how I can help you…

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can’t talk too or be with everyone, I just don’t have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for”getting back together”…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I’ll tell you…

this stuff works!…maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don’t want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help “psycho chick” steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

-Stalkers

-Ex Convicts

-People with severe mental problems

-Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

Anyway, I have titled the “recipe” simply The Magic Of Making Up…See, it is my opinion that there are really no impossible situations. I have seen women not only wait on a man for months, but take back men that have spent years in prison…and… I have seen men take women back that have had MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR…

And everything else in between! How crazy is that?

And…

You know what?

By now, I bet you really want to see some proof that this works? I would too if I were you.

Here’s PROOF This Works

The best way I know to prove to you that these techniques really work is by giving you some free samples and by showing you testimonials from guys and gals that have already used these techniques successfully.

(Over 50,119 Customers In 77 Countries Have Used This Proven System!)

Works For Long Distance Relationships Too…

 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in …By now, I had the strength to actually “sleep on it” and sent him a response the next day…within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again.
Thanks again,
Denise

Dating Again!

Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic… i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can’t believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line – now I am so much stronger and happier. I’m still going to take things slowly with my ex (I’m not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can’t believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much.
Alice

Ex POPS The Question…

…just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011.

many thanks,
Jenna

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Talking Again…

Just wanted to say THANKS!!

Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn’t….

-Delois

Best Money Ever Spent…

You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won’t take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked…you have helped me more than you will ever know…
Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!!
Melissa

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Casey gets his girl back!

I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support.

Casey

Married Again…

got him back we were married again on the 25th of January ….

Linda

Not A Scam…

I am beside myself that something actually came of this…
I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn’t even be a book as promised.
PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES.
I was beside myself.
Thank you so much…
Sara

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“Impossible Not To Work”

Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound… At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone’s wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don’t realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you … I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you… told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You’re a good man!
CC

“On her hands and knees”

well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy.

Rob

Talking Like Friends Again!

I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn.
I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!!
Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I
talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have
talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a
future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE
BREAKUP IS OK!!
Thanks for the free advice and I can’t wait to get to reading!!
I’ll keep in touch.

Tiffany

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Back Together…

Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrian

Back Together…Effortlessly…

I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information.
Cheryl

Pleasantly Surprised…

I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein…[removed due to sensitive nature]
Jacquelynn

“Dude It’s Working…”

DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out… thank you!
Taylor

Can’t Believe This Worked…

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH! I GOT MY EX BACK JUST AN HOUR AGO ! I CANT BELIEVE THIS WORKED ! !!

Tiger

Planning A Beach Getaway!

Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! … I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two.
Thank you sooooo much!!!

Lena

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Finally Married!!

thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much.

Antonett

Another “OMG!!! This Works” Note…

OMG!!! This totally worked….nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes….

Jessica

Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us…

I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us.
If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I’ll see ya soon! icon smile How To Get Your Ex Back
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever…

Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you.
Thanks man.
John

Have A Date This Friday…

Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday…[removed due to personal nature]
Sep

Most Informative…

hey Tdub! how’s it goin’? i watched your video, and i must say, it’s the most *and you’re the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up.
Dianna

Back Together In One Week…

I did buy the book, and got back together in one week. [removed due to personal nature]

Gina

Ex Flying Back From England!

Hi there! Wishing you a very happy Christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out!
Regards and many thanks
Nadia

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Learning to Rebuild Broken Trust

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It’s important to realize something about rebuilding a broken trust; you can never fix or change another person. Also, it’s impossible to make them feel a particular way towards you or force them to agree with your point of view.

Many times, they are going through issues in their life that have nothing at all to do with you personally. Patience is key if you’re serious about reconnecting and rebuilding trust.

The first thing to consider is why the trust was broken in the first place so you can prevent it from happening in the future. Consider the following steps to put things right and regain your loved one’s trust.

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– Sincerely Apologize

Offering a sincere apology is step one after a wrongdoing and it must be genuine and heartfelt in order to be effective.

– Quietly Listen

Many times the best course of action to take is to just sit quietly, close your mouth, and simply listen to the other person. This lets them know you truly care what they have to say as well as value their feelings and opinions.

– Keep Your Promises

Try to never make a promise you don’t intend to keep. Breaking promises time after time puts you in a bad and untrustworthy light, as someone who can’t be trusted.

– Openly Communicate about the broken trust

Always speak from the heart and say what you mean. Every strong relationship maintains open communication at its core.

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– Empathize

Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see things from their viewpoint. This will help you to better understand their feelings in addition to making it easier to forgive them of any offenses they may have made against you. Also, empathy is a key tool in rebuilding trust with another person. You really have to think about how to show your sincere apology for the broken trust.

– Establish Dependability and Consistency

If you remain consistent in your actions and establish a sense of dependability along the way, the other person will find it much easier to trust you.

Learn to Forgive the reason for the broken trust

What if you were the person on the receiving end of the distrust and the other party is striving to regain your trust? Betrayal isn’t easy to overcome and can be very painful.
Forgiveness doesn’t come easy, nor does trust in the case of betrayal. However, with a little bit of work and an open heart and mind, it can be achieved.

If you find yourself in a position where a person you love has lost your trust and they wish to regain it, that decision is indeed entirely yours. However, once you make that decision it’s imperative you stick by it since it’s going to take a lot of work on both parties to set things right again. Here are a few guidelines on how to make that happen.

– Leave the Past Behind

If you truly mean it when you say you forgive someone, throwing past events back in their face is totally unfair and also hinders any progress the two of you have to reconcile. The past is gone and you can’t change it – let it go and start fresh.

– Don’t Use Threats

Don’t threaten someone in an attempt to control their behavior in order to meet your needs and desires. This never works and will only backfire in time.

– Reaffirm Your Commitment to One Another

Upon overcoming and forgiving the event that led to the broken trust, reaffirm one another’s commitment to rebuilding your relationship even stronger. This is crucial for both parties to agree on to be successful.

Lastly, try to be as patient as possible. Rebuilding trust doesn’t happen overnight. Allow the other person enough time to show you they can be trustworthy again.

                                                                                    

A Different Approach to a Happy Relationship

Everywhere you look whether it’s the news, television, or online, you constantly hear about the ending of some relationship. This celebrity left this one for that one; this person cheated and this one walked out – it goes on and on.
If all the hoopla surrounding the integrity of relationships is true, we’re all in trouble.

It appears couples are now more than ever postponing divorce due to the state of the economy, encouraging advice from bloggers and reporters alike on how to co-exist with your estranged significant other. Maybe there’s a better way…

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Are there any truly happy couples out there? Yes, of course. There are happy couples everywhere if you look. However, headlines that start with the word “divorce” rather than “happy” seem to draw a much larger audience. Sadly, people take a natural interest in conflict.

So, how do these so called “happy couples” stay happy through the typical ups and downs of a relationship, especially given today’s economic trials and tribulations? Perhaps they’re just lucky people. Or, maybe they’re just excessively submissive – “yes, dear”.

Some exciting new relationship studies have recently unveiled a few surprising facts that may conflict with your core beliefs. Consider the following ideas to determine how they relate to your current relationship or at the very least, offer you some new insight.

1. Communication Isn’t Everything
What? That can’t be right. Every relationship expert in the world will tell you that effective communication is at the very core of a solid relationship.

In the dictionary, communication is defined as effectively sharing or expressing feelings and ideas. While this is true of course, communication is hugely misconstrued in the eyes of many people since they interpret it as their spouse bombarding them with righteous opinions and veritable facts.

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If you really stop and think about it, the happiest people on the planet are the ones who know how to listen to others and empathize with them. That’s not to say they always agree or don’t have their own opinions, but they sincerely make the effort to see things from their partner’s point of view. In other words, they’re more contemplative than communicative.

2. Date nights? Forget them
The whole purpose of date night is to enjoy the company of your partner, reconnect with them, catch up, and just get close to one another (sex). Date night is a great attempt to relight the fire.

However, after a grueling week at work, changing diapers, helping with homework, cleaning the house, and cooking for an entire family – there’s not much left of you. Cut to the chase and just get to the sex. There will be many date nights in your future.

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Think of it this way – date night is a luxury while sex is a necessity. There’s no better way for two people who love each other to “connect” than through the act of sex. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.

3. It’s Okay to Sometimes Go to Bed Angry
Your relationship isn’t always going to be peaches and cream. Sometimes, not everything can be worked out in one day, or one night.

You and your partner both may need to just take a breather and enough time to simply think about the issue at hand. “Sleeping on it” may be the best approach, and in the morning you may have a fresh new perspective on the matter and quickly resolve the problem.

Every couple is different. What works for some may not work for others, and that’s okay. The point is that each couple should follow their own path to success rather than doing exactly what the experts say, or what others believe is best for them. If you are interested in reading more about this subject here is a link to a great article written By  who made the great How To Save Your Marriage E-book. Click on the screenshot to read hes article…

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Communication and Money in a Relationship

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When Connie got home from work, she was already exhausted from a long day of meetings. She’d left the high-pressure world of event planning sales behind to get into nonprofit work.

She loved the challenge of raising money for her charity, and her job as a development director allowed her to leverage some of her former business relationships into new donors.

On this particular day, though, her executive director was worried about finances and had really called her on the carpet, even though she was already 22% over budget for the current fiscal year.

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It didn’t help matters when she got home and opened a letter from the Internal Revenue Service, addressed to her and her husband Bob. When she opened it, she was shocked to see that they owed the IRS more than $7,000 in back taxes.

Bob did some freelance writing work in addition to his job as a teacher, and it looked like he hadn’t been making payments on his freelance income. And he certainly hadn’t told her about this. There was a lack in communication between them.

She slammed the letter down on the kitchen island, punched his number into her cell phone, and tore into him when he answered the phone.

Why was Connie so mad? $7,000 is a lot of money, but it’s not the end of the world. Bob had also been taking out payday loans and other short-term credit lately, and instead of telling Connie that he was short with his side of their bills, he had just been making poor financial decisions that was costing them a lot in interest.

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The worst part for Connie, though, was that Bob hadn’t told her anything.

Bob’s excuse was that he didn’t want Connie to worry. She was a cancer survivor — had been cancer-free for almost seven years by that point — but her cancer had cost her her thyroid, and she had developed epilepsy as a side effect of the radiation treatment that her oncologist had used on a small tumor in her skull.

So Connie was often exhausted at the end of the work week, spending some of her Saturdays and Sundays in bed just to get ready for the next week. Bob felt guilty about this and wanted to let her think he could handle things on his own.

Of course, he couldn’t, and he was digging a bigger and bigger financial hole for himself — and for her, since their taxes were filed jointly. Now there was a huge hole in the middle of their relationship, created by the simple fact that he couldn’t be trusted about money.

What should Bob have done instead? The problem with their finances began about a year and a half ago, when his health insurance (which also covered her) went up by 22 percent.

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She also had dropped back from full time to part time work because of some fatigue and stress from her former job. He felt like he needed to do everything himself, but he simply couldn’t.

He should have told her about the problem and perhaps could have gone to family members for some short-term help. The bottom line: Connie was getting the message that he didn’t trust her as a partner, and she felt a complete lack of financial security as a result. She also felt like their relationship was worthless without that trust. So the result of bad communication could be devastating.

Now, Bob and Connie sit down weekly and talk about the upcoming week in finances as well as longer-term strategies. It’s not always comfortable for either one of them, but they no longer have trust issues with money.

Bob even decided to look for a corporate job at the end of the school year to boost his income, and he wouldn’t have had the confidence to do that without talking to Connie.

So the crisis turned into a win-win for them. If you and your loved one are in a similar mess, trusting each other with the truth is the best way to begin a new path for your relationship with open hearts and open communication between them.

If you are in pain and confused?

Here’s some good news…

Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope…

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.

Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?

Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.

Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

And now as you will soon see…all that has changed.

“T Dub” Discovers His “Love Recipe”

Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it’s a long story…you can just call me “T Dub”…I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, Doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I’ll tell you why in a second…

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I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age. Because of my life long military experience I’ve had dozens of homes…in 11countries… and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.

And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas “redneck” buddy of mine…makes no difference…

More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them “tick” and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.

In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the “go to” guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of “people problem”…I kind of felt like the male version of “Dear Abby”…

Maybe you even know someone a little like me?…someone that you go to when you have “people problems”…

Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT… And next thing you know… he’s back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don’t believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what’s a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy’s girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivvies out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don’t know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have “relationship troubles” too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here’s how I can help you…

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can’t talk too or be with everyone, I just don’t have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for”getting back together”…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I’ll tell you…

this stuff works!…maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don’t want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help “psycho chick” steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

-Stalkers

-Ex Convicts

-People with severe mental problems

-Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

Anyway, I have titled the “recipe” simply The Magic Of Making Up…See, it is my opinion that there are really no impossible situations. I have seen women not only wait on a man for months, but take back men that have spent years in prison…and… I have seen men take women back that have had MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR…

And everything else in between! How crazy is that?

And…

You know what?

By now, I bet you really want to see some proof that this works? I would too if I were you.

Here’s PROOF This Works

The best way I know to prove to you that these techniques really work is by giving you some free samples and by showing you testimonials from guys and gals that have already used these techniques successfully.

(Over 50,119 Customers In 77 Countries Have Used This Proven System!)

Works For Long Distance Relationships Too…

 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in …By now, I had the strength to actually “sleep on it” and sent him a response the next day…within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again.
Thanks again,
Denise

Dating Again!

Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic… i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can’t believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line – now I am so much stronger and happier. I’m still going to take things slowly with my ex (I’m not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can’t believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much.
Alice

Ex POPS The Question…

…just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011.

many thanks,
Jenna

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Talking Again…

Just wanted to say THANKS!!

Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn’t….

-Delois

Best Money Ever Spent…

You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won’t take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked…you have helped me more than you will ever know…
Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!!
Melissa

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Casey gets his girl back!

I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support.

Casey

Married Again…

got him back we were married again on the 25th of January ….

Linda

Not A Scam…

I am beside myself that something actually came of this…
I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn’t even be a book as promised.
PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES.
I was beside myself.
Thank you so much…
Sara

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“Impossible Not To Work”

Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound… At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone’s wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don’t realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you … I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you… told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You’re a good man!
CC

“On her hands and knees”

well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy.

Rob

Talking Like Friends Again!

I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn.
I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!!
Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I
talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have
talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a
future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE
BREAKUP IS OK!!
Thanks for the free advice and I can’t wait to get to reading!!
I’ll keep in touch.

Tiffany

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Back Together…

Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adrian

Back Together…Effortlessly…

I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information.
Cheryl

Pleasantly Surprised…

I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein…[removed due to sensitive nature]
Jacquelynn

“Dude It’s Working…”

DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out… thank you!
Taylor

Can’t Believe This Worked…

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH! I GOT MY EX BACK JUST AN HOUR AGO ! I CANT BELIEVE THIS WORKED ! !!

Tiger

Planning A Beach Getaway!

Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! … I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two.
Thank you sooooo much!!!

Lena

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Finally Married!!

thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much.

Antonett

Another “OMG!!! This Works” Note…

OMG!!! This totally worked….nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes….

Jessica

Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us…

I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us.
If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I’ll see ya soon! icon smile How To Get Your Ex Back
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever…

Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you.
Thanks man.
John

Have A Date This Friday…

Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday…[removed due to personal nature]
Sep

Most Informative…

hey Tdub! how’s it goin’? i watched your video, and i must say, it’s the most *and you’re the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up.
Dianna

Back Together In One Week…

I did buy the book, and got back together in one week. [removed due to personal nature]

Gina

Ex Flying Back From England!

Hi there! Wishing you a very happy Christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out!
Regards and many thanks
Nadia

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