Monthly Archives: August 2013

Three Reasons It’s Highly Effective To Get Your Ex Back by Going “No Contact”

Depending on how long you’ve been trying to get your ex back, or how many times you’ve tried and failed already, you’ve probably heard people talking about giving up the concerted efforts you’ve been making and going “no contact” with your ex.

At first glance that seems like a crazy plan! Right? The idea that you would be able to get your ex back by not trying to get her back sounds absolutely absurd. And yet, it works. In fact, it often works where everything else you’ve tried in the past has failed. Here are three reasons why.

1) Absence Does Make Hearts Fonder

There’s something about not being surrounded by memories, flooded by emotions, and constantly exposed to someone that makes it easier to look past the negative associations and see the positive. Once enough time has passed, the memories of arguments, fights, disagreements, and even petty annoyances fade. All that’s left are the good memories and a sense of what she really does miss about you and your relationship.

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2) Time Heals Old Wounds

Even if things ended badly between you and things were said that shouldn’t have been, time has an amazing way of soothing wounds and healing broken hearts. You’ll be amazed by the types of wounds that can be healed when enough time is allowed to pass. Your ex can forgive the little things as well as the big things — even cheating. But, you have to be willing to allow the right amount of time to pass to allow that to happen. And, the bigger the grievance, the longer time will need to pass before she’s truly had time to heal.

3) She Can’t Understand What She’s Lost Until It’s Truly Gone

She’ll never understand what she’s missing out on without you in her life if you’re a constant presence in her life. It’s as simple as that. She’s never going to take you back if she gets all the benefits of your presence, support, love, and friendship, without being required to return those things. Take a break. Step away. Don’t answer when she calls. Then, wait. Wait for her to call you. Because one day she’ll realize what she’s lost and be ready to call you.

There is a trick to make this work though. You have to take a hard line about it. I’m not saying you need to go out of your way to avoid her forever, though it’s a good idea for a little while. You need to give her time and space. You need to wait long enough for her to start remembering the good and forgetting the bad. Most importantly, you need to give you both time to figure out what you want from the relationship and each other the second time around. Then, when the second chance arrives you need to take the time to make sure you’re both on the same page about your expectations for the future.

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Relationship Help – Money Management Communication is Key to Happy Home

Money isn’t the root of all evil, but evidence suggests it is the leading cause of separations and divorces throughout the world. Even if both partners agree to the overall idea that they need to manage their money better, problems arise, when they disagree over how to manage the money or have miscommunications regarding who is or isn’t going to do what with the money.

Here are a few universal truths to keep your money management plan for a happy marriage from falling apart as rapidly as your marriage.

Make Sure Both Partners have Some “Fun” Money of their Own

Invariably there is one person who makes more money than the other in the relationship. Neither partner should be investing 100 percent of earnings into the bill, family, and grocery till. Both of you need a little extra money to pursue things that are important and enjoyable to you without jeopardizing the entire family budget. In order words, you need to plan a set amount for fun money, for each of you, before you do anything else.

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Don’t Overlook the Children

Invariably when this happens, the responsibility of giving the kids fun money falls on one parent or the other and it almost always comes from the “fun” money fund – rendering it not so fun. Whether it’s setting aside funds for allowances, school needs, clothing, entertainment, sports, etc. those expenses need to be factored into the family budget and a set amount of spending for these things needs to be determined as well.

Choose Areas of Drastic Spending Restraints Together

Both voices in the relationship need to chime in where major spending cuts are concerned. Sacrifices need to be made on all sides of the equation if you’re going to set financial goals and plan for a financial future together. Otherwise, why are you working to save for the future at all? It’s about togetherness and shouldn’t feel as a punishment for one person while the other person is making few, if any concessions.

Put it All in Writing

Iron out the details. Write it down. Make a copy. You both must be on the same page when it comes to the new family budget and money management efforts if either of you are going to be happy with the outcome. More importantly, seeing the revised plan on paper gives you both the opportunity to see if there are any spending weaknesses, forgotten expenses, or other concerns that have been overlooked in your plan.

It seems like such a simple step, and yet, so much can be riding on working it out amiably. Don’t let your relationship go down without a fight because one of you has a hard time managing money. Sit down and work on a plan that promises success.

Reasons You Deserve Better and Why You Should Ask for it Before You Get Your Ex Back

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No matter how down and out you feel about the ending of your relationship, it’s important to understand that it’s not completely your fault things didn’t work out. No matter what your ex tries to convince you, it takes two people to make or break a relationship. It will take two people working together to put it back together again. You need to understand this and ask for things to change before you get your ex back. These are the reasons why you deserve better in the future.

You Bring Value to the Relationship Too

Everyone in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask for the things you need that you aren’t getting out of the relationship. It’s also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the same and listen with an open mind when he does.
He’ll Respect You More For It
Respect is important for men. They love being shown respect. Even more, they love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wants to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to deliver than if you never asked.

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Respect is a Two-Way Street

It’s very important to show your man respect. It’s one of the most important things you can do for your man if you want to keep him happy and make your relationship last. But you also need to expect it from him. Be careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from him and for going back to him if he isn’t willing to give you the respect. Respect should never be given that it isn’t earned and it should never be sacrificed in the name of love.

Because You’re Worth It

Back in the 1980’s, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase, “Because you’re worth it.” The slogan was to remind women that they deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all the things they do at home, on the job, and in their relationships. While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You’re worth it. Say it with me. “You’re worth it!” Now remember that whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and demand better in the future – for the sake of your relationship and your sanity.

It’s not enough to go back to the way things were right before your breakup. You need to do better this time around. Better begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and expecting to get them this time around.

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Four Great ways to Get Your Girl’s Attention

Not too long ago, there was a series of commercials, by a mobile phone provider oddly enough, about mobile phone “really?” moments. The premise of the commercial was that this new phone could get you in, out, and back to real life faster than the other phones on the market. The commercial made a great point however. We humans seem to have a hard time getting each other’s attention these days. Even in loving relationships, getting your girl’s attention can be, difficult. However, these four tips will get you her undivided attention if you go about them the right way.

1) Get Her Away from the Crowd

If there is constantly a group of people or an audience around, it’s difficult to get through the clutter of other opinions, other advice, and other recommendations. Now is a great time to plan a weekend out of town for the two of you so that you can reconnect with one another without an audience hanging on your every word.

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2) Plan an Electronic Free Weekend

This includes all electronic devices (mobile phones, tablets, laptops, televisions, video game systems, iPods, the whole shebang) if you want it to be effective. The idea is that you’ll be forced to rely on each other for communication, companionship, and attention. Play games together, talk to each other, and reconnect in a way you haven’t managed in quite a while. You’ll be surprised by what a difference going two days without all the distractions can do for your relationship.

3) Send her Flowers – For No Reason

You better believe this will get her attention. She’s definitely going to want to know what’s going on, what’s happened, and what you’re attempting to apologize for. It will drive her mad with curiosity and have her hanging on your every word until she feels she’s gotten to the bottom of things.

4) Clean the House

After she picks her jaw up off the floor or wakes up from passing out, she’ll be dying to know what’s going on, who’s coming over, and whether or not you’ve become a Stepford husband. If house cleaning is something you just can’t handle or she does such a great job that it never needs extra help, consider completing some other project she’s been asking/nagging you to do for a while now. Just finishing it will be a gift to both of you at this point and will certainly get her attention.

You don’t have to move heaven and earth to make a favorable impression with the girl you love. Little steps can make a big difference in your relationship and ensure that you have her undivided attention now and help you keep it in the future. Use one or more of these Four Great ways to Get Your Girl’s Attention and im sure you will succeed!

Simple Truths Every Girl Needs to Know about Her Guy

Girls often have a hard time relating to the guys they love. There is a lot of truth to the 1990’s Mars and Venus book series by Dr. John Gray. Men and women seem to speak and understand different languages from one another.

Girls don’t understand what their guys are really saying and get their feelings hurt quite often when no negativity was implied from the guy at all. Then he’s baffled that she’s suddenly giving him the silent treatment and holding back tears.

Then the you know what hits the fan and it’s flying dishes and fireworks everywhere.

But it doesn’t HAVE to be that way. There are a few simple truths that could very well be relationship savers when girls figure them out about their men.

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1) He Really Does Think about Nothing

It’s true. And every girl doubts it. You ask him what he’s thinking about. He says nothing. You get upset or hurt that he isn’t sharing with you. You think he’s hiding something from you. The truth is, he really isn’t thinking about a darn thing. If anything you might be jealous that you can’t harness that power yourself to see what it feels like to really think about nothing at all.

2) He Loves You Just the Way You Are

He really does. The only problem is that he never wants you to change. He’d be happiest if you’d stay the way you were the day you met forever. He wants you all flirty, happy, eager to impress, and lovey dovey. He doesn’t want that to end.

3) He Doesn’t Like Change

He doesn’t want you to change, as we’ve already mention, but he also doesn’t want to change himself. That’s why he’s so reluctant to eat healthier, start exercising, or cut out the salt. He really would be happy to have meatloaf every Monday, sit in the same recliner for fifty years, and drive the same truck until the tires fell off. It’s also why he has a not to subtle panic attack (though he’ll deny that until his dying day) whenever you start to make changes.

4) He has Emotional Needs Too

Women often mistake their husbands, boyfriends, etc. for people who lack emotional depth. The thing is, men have deep feelings. They don’t wear their emotions on their sleeves. Those waters run very deep. He may not profess his undying love for you every day, he may never be the Hallmark man of the year, but his love for you and his family is something he feels down deep and he needs reassurance from you, that his love is returned.

Once you understand these simple truths about the guys you love, you may find a new understanding for the dynamics in your relationship. Hopefully, you’ll have a new appreciation for the man you love and what really drives him in life so your relationship can be stronger than ever before.

How to Make Up Fast Before You Break Up

Breaking up is hard on everyone involved. If you’re interested in hanging on to your relationship, then the best solution is to prevent the breakup in the first place. Preventative action can save you both the heartache of a breakup and the lengthy recovery and reconciliation process. More importantly, it can help prevent many damaging words and actions before they ever happen. But, how do you stop something that seems almost inevitable?

Communicate More Effectively

Guys and girls have this Mars and Venus issue when it comes to communication. John Gray, Pd.D. even wrote a book about it back during the early 1990’s. The book was on the bestseller lists for an unprecedented 121 weeks because the concept was so simple, and yet, so foreign. Sometimes, the best solutions really are the simplest.

The problem, according to this book, is that men and women communicate differently. What one person is saying (or intends to say) is not always what the other person in the relationship hears. This miscommunication often causes the perception of problems or issues in the relationship that only exists in the minds of the two people in the relationship. That’s why learning to communicate effectively is so important for the sake of your sanity and your relationship.

Discover Your Love Languages

Everyone has a love language that best sums up the way the express love and the way they best FEEL loved. The love languages include:

1) Words of affirmation
2) Physical touch
3) Quality time
4) Gifts of service
5) Receiving gifts

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Taking the time to understand how you best feel and express love in comparison to how your partner best feels loved and expresses love for you can save a lot of hurt feelings, cold shoulders, disagreements, and knockdown, drag out, dish flinging arguments over the course of your relationship.

Learn to Speak Your Partner’s Love Language and Accept Love from Your Partner

You see, people don’t only have a little difficulty feeling loved by partners that speak different love languages. In some cases, they have a difficult time accepting love in that language. This leads to feelings of alienation, confusion, and inadequacy for partners and drives a wedge into the relationship.

Learning to accept the love your partner has to offer while also learning to show love in a manner that will make your partner feel loved and cherished are equally important components when it comes to love languages. They are just as important as being able to make your partner feel the LOVE you have.

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How to Deal with Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started getting back out there in the real world.

You’re hitting the town with your friends. You’re working out at the gym. And you’re trying like mad to at least look like you’re getting on with your life – no matter how much you want her back.

You’re doing good. You’re looking good. Girls are starting to smile and flirt with you. You’re Superman.

Then BAM!

Out of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you’ve been hit in the gut with a kryptonite fist.

Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it weighs a thousand pounds and you’re caught between a sudden overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you back.

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What do you do?

You say something about how it’s great to see her and make a hasty retreat.

It’s only after you’re out of her presence that you begin to think of all the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you’d been able to think clearly at the time.

Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you’d just been able to speak. But, wouldn’t it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives?

Believe me it would! Especially if you’re interested in getting her back.
Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.

I’m not talking about arranging an “accidental” meeting. That’s not the right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you’ll say to her when your paths do cross so that you don’t look like you’re either avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for the breakup.

Time heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that she’s probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are – even though she’s the one who broke up with you.

So what should you say?

1) Keep it short.
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past – leave that to her.

Keep these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it’s second nature and the next time your paths cross you’ll be ready.

Making up in the Movies – Why Doesn’t it Really Work That Way?

You’ve seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl’s heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980’s boom boxes, saying “hello,” flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies. They’re playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesn’t quite work that way.

Lack of Originality

Unfortunately, a lot of guys haven’t gotten the memo. You’re still trying to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls you’re trying to get back together with already know about too.

Your ex doesn’t want you to copy something that’s been done before. If you’re going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be something she hasn’t seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isn’t
important enough to you for something original.

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Not Appropriate for Your Situation

Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique.

No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and Sally’s (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleen’s (You’ve Got Mail), Maverick and Charlie’s (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffany’s (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart.

Alternative Endings Worth Considering

That is, of course, if you’re going for movie magic effects. However, you could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and shocking. You could let her go — at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through.

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has passed, chances are you won’t need to call her. She’ll call you. When that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending that’s much better than anything Hollywood could come up with because it’s the story that belongs to the two of you and no one else. And remember you deserve a good life filled with love and hapiness! Never give up on that!

Moving Mountains isn’t Necessary – It Only Takes One Trick to Win Her Back

Getting your girlfriend back may seem like the most difficult task on the planet. It doesn’t have to be though. Many guys make it much more difficult than is necessary. You see, you’ve been led to believe, mostly in Hollywood movies and by the makers of fine jewelry, chocolate, and greeting cards, that this is the way it’s supposed to be. That isn’t the case at all.

In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still easy tips you can follow that really will help you get her back. Here are a few things you should remember if you really want to win her back.

Stop Living in the Past

Turn of the century American Author, Alice Morse Earle, once wrote: “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.” Living in relationship past robs you both of all the joy of each day together when you’re in the relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a clear perspective on what needs to be done now in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around.

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Become the Man You WANT to Be

This is hard for many men. It’s something you may not have given a lot of thought to. Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid, where the grown up man is confronted by his eight year old self. The eight year old was horrified at the man he’d become saying, “So, I’m forty, I’m not married, I don’t fly jets, and I don’t have a dog? I grow up to be a loser.”

Sometimes there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives that one up though?), but that doesn’t mean you can’t take steps to be the man you want to be — even if that does involve learning to fly a jet. The first step is deciding who you want to be. Then you must tackle the process of becoming that man.

How does that Help You Get the Girl?

Life doesn’t always follow a movie script. You might have to wait a little while to really get her attention. But, once you start making real, notable changes in the man you are and stop trying to recapture a past that wasn’t as picture perfect as you remember, you’ll be able to gain a new outlook on the future. One thing is certain. Once you become the man you WANT to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she’ll WANT to be part of.