Critical Concerns for Opening Dates
Several comedians state most of the early dates occur between a couple’s representatives. While a humorous assessment, this should not be a stealth operation to pose as something other than oneself. People need to be aware of possible pitfalls to avoid accidentally hurting the other person’s feelings and hampering a future relationship with a potential partner. Taking basics into account may ease things in the right direction.
Restaurants can be tricky for initial meetings. Individual tastes and atmosphere create either a lovely setting or a maelstrom. As a rule, select a quiet and reputable location with a wide variety of dining options. It is also wise to ask questions of the person’s tastes and food allergies.
Outdoor settings can be excellent for spring, early summer and fall dates. Some cities or towns have gatherings of food trucks, art fairs and concerts. The casual nature of these events permits couples to pick and chose activities, find an out of the way place for a conversation and keep moving when things slow down.
Making a plan may sound overly complicated or lacking spontaneity. While over planning or falling into a familiar pattern can be a risk, many people note several positive aspects when someone takes the time to plan ahead.
* Respect for the person being wooed.
* Flexibility when things don’t go as planned.
* Illustrate individual interests.
* Gives both people a chance to witness one another in a unique setting.
While on the date, one needs to permit multiple levels of conversation to occur. Such an environment disseminates more than information. Things like personal tastes, life experiences and much more flows out of discussions. More conversation always allows for the couple to secure a clearer picture of one another.
Asking questions is the greatest way to find out about a person. It sounds simple. Unfortunately, people overlook well placed questions because they might be too busy sharing what makes them special. But be careful come across as an investigative reporter. Some people, out of genuine interest, ask numerous questions without sharing about themselves leaving no impression. There needs to be a balance of give and take.
It would be easy to enter into the date as an open book willing to share anything and everything. Bear in mind, not everyone may share such a free spirit. After hearing about a particularly bad break up, they may opt out of any future dates. Politics, past relationships and family traumas are best shared later when a good foundation has been set.
A polite ending to the evening often provides an opportunity for future closeness. This does not mean offering a handshake at the door. But a passionate kiss, like those seen in romantic comedies, should be saved for later. An important thing to recall is the scant amount of information shared leading up to and during the date. Making too strong show of affection might make the individual uncomfortable in an unsuspecting way.
Early dates, thought critical, rarely provide a full picture of what comes later in a the fullness of a relationship. Going slow, taking an interests and creating a best location for sharing clear the way for future growth. Patience and respect are often rewarded with greater intimacy. So take it easy. There is plenty of time.